Online Dating

[BrianL]

LOL! I agree!
But all the single guys I see online on both sites I go to are all in to dogs.
One even specifically said "no cat women" Glad he said it up front. I woul dn't want him either nor would my cat.

I mean, I like dogs too, but am more into having a cat. They just suit me better. I think anyone who generally dislikes animals though is a no-go for me!

 

[Scouter]

I’m curious if political differences has ever stopped someone from continuing to date someone? I’m not talking about someone trying to force political views on another but just if someone mentioned to you that they leaned politically opposite of your views would it mean the end of the relationship? I ask because I know several friends who’s significant others don’t align perfectly with their partner’s politics and have really happy relationships.

I'm shocked really that they do. Many do not nowadays, at least that's what I've read online. But many couples have enough in common that they're on the same side. At least all the ones that I know personally.
It's a choice to filter in your profile and I have mine filtered to my preference on that.

 

[Scouter]

Unless your 2 kids were born from immaculate conception or some type of fertility treatment you must have some kind of dating history.

I have a single friend that I found years later (childhood friend) and she had a child and I asked her about it and she said "turkey baster method"

 

[Scouter]

I mean, I like dogs too, but am more into having a cat. They just suit me better. I think anyone who generally dislikes animals though is a no-go for me!

Absolutely agreed! I like all animals, I just like cats better. So much quieter and self cleaning and other things. But someone who hated cats and any animals for that matter is no-go for me too!
Now, they can hate bugs all they want, as I do! ICK.

 

[Mackenzie Click-Mickelson]

So much quieter

Tell that to my cat

Our indication that he's not feeling well is actually him being quiet. Otherwise he's a very chatty, loud kitty especially when you don't get water from the tub as quickly and as often as he wants or if he's purposefully put a toy under the door to the basement just so you'll open the basement door and he hopes he can slink down there quickly before you notice or if you're not going to sleep quickly enough he'll sternly reprimand you, etc. But we love him anyways My husband and I are dog and cat people but we seem to have a preference towards cats and right now because of how our cat is for the foreseeable future it's a 1 pet household.

But someone who hated cats and any animals for that matter is no-go for me too!

I agree with you here. I mean it's one thing if you're like "eh they aren't really my thing" versus like you hate them (although personally I would prefer you at least can tolerate cats). And if you hate animals well yeah I'm not looking for someone who hates animals to be my partner in life.

 

[disneychrista]

I’m curious if political differences has ever stoped someone from continuing to date someone? I’m not talking about someone trying to force political views on another but just if someone mentioned to you that they leaned politically opposite of your views would it mean the end of the relationship? I ask because I know several friends who’s significant others don’t align perfectly with their partner’s politics and have really happy relationships.

I skip over profiles that clearly have opposing political views of my own. Same for religious points of view

Unless your 2 kids were born from immaculate conception or some type of fertility treatment you must have some kind of dating history.

I’m 49. I was 17 when I meet my daughters father and that ended when I was 20. I had a very short relationship (2 or 3 months) when I was 24. So 25 years of being single pretty much says no dating/relationship history.

 

[Scouter]

Tell that to my cat

Our indication that he's not feeling well is actually him being quiet. Otherwise he's a very chatty, loud kitty especially when you don't get water from the tub as quickly and as often as he wants or if he's purposefully put a toy under the door to the basement just so you'll open the basement door and he hopes he can slink down there quickly before you notice or if you're not going to sleep quickly enough he'll sternly reprimand you, etc. But we love him anyways My husband and I are dog and cat people but we seem to have a preference towards cats and right now because of how our cat is for the foreseeable future it's a 1 pet household.


I agree with you here. I mean it's one thing if you're like "eh they aren't really my thing" versus like you hate them (although personally I would prefer you at least can tolerate cats). And if you hate animals well yeah I'm not looking for someone who hates animals to be my partner in life.

Truth be told.... mine is chatty too, but I love it! Since I'm alone we "talk" all day. But cats are still quieter than most dogs IMO.

 

[Scouter]

I skip over profiles that clearly have opposing political views of my own. Same for religious points of view


I’m 49. I was 17 when I meet my daughters father and that ended when I was 20. I had a very short relationship (2 or 3 months) when I was 24. So 25 years of being single pretty much says no dating/relationship history.

Wow, that is a long time! I have had 8 years time alone in between my last 3 long term relationships. I think I'm on year 5 right now. Maybe I should wait 3 more. (I'm 56 so if I wait too long I might be dead! )

 

[Mackenzie Click-Mickelson]

we "talk" all day.

omg the conversations my cat and I have together...okay I swear I'm not but for reals yes he talks to me, I talk right back. I feel like this is very natural for cat owners

But cats are still quieter than most dogs IMO.

Oh yeah I'd agree with that

 

[disneychrista]

Wow, that is a long time! I have had 8 years time alone in between my last 3 long term relationships. I think I'm on year 5 right now. Maybe I should wait 3 more. (I'm 56 so if I wait too long I might be dead! )

Yes it is. Most of that time was raising my daughters and not really thinking about dating. I am going to be 50 next year. I would really love to have a partner to go with me on my BIG 5-0 Disneyland trip.

 

[Scouter]

Yes it is. Most of that time was raising my daughters and not really thinking about dating. I am going to be 50 next year. I would really love to have a partner to go with me on my BIG 5-0 Disneyland trip.

I did something special 50 days out before my 50th birthday. I made a list.
But on my birthday I left my SO at home (he couldn't go nor did he want to ) and took my son to Universal Studios to see Harry Potter! So glad we did and then the SO broke up with me anyway, so glad I took my son.

 

[Scouter]

As I'm scrolling through the guide on Sling, my brain is so Disney, and my eyesight bad, that I mistook "Bohemian Rhapsody" for saying "Downtown Disney"! I was all excited until
I realized it wasn't that.


Then I saw something else that made me think of dating compatibility..... random stuff, like "Pulp Fiction"? or no.
I'm a no.

Coke vs Pepsi, which in my mind, years ago, almost 20 now, I made up my mind that Coke drinkers are mostly Republican and Pepsi, Democrat.

How about which way you hang your toilet paper?
How you squeeze your toothpaste?

Asking the important stuff here.

Of course, "what do you think of Disney?"

 

[disneychrista]

As I'm scrolling through the guide on Sling, my brain is so Disney, and my eyesight bad, that I mistook "Bohemian Rhapsody" for saying "Downtown Disney"! I was all excited until
I realized it wasn't that.


Then I saw something else that made me think of dating compatibility..... random stuff, like "Pulp Fiction"? or no.
I'm a no.

Coke vs Pepsi, which in my mind, years ago, almost 20 now, I made up my mind that Coke drinkers are mostly Republican and Pepsi, Democrat.

How about which way you hang your toilet paper?
How you squeeze your toothpaste?

Asking the important stuff here.

Of course, "what do you think of Disney?"

I'd love to get to know someone well enough to KNOW how they hang the TP & squeeze the toothpaste.

 

[BrianL]

Then I saw something else that made me think of dating compatibility..... random stuff, like "Pulp Fiction"? or no.
I'm a no.

Coke vs Pepsi, which in my mind, years ago, almost 20 now, I made up my mind that Coke drinkers are mostly Republican and Pepsi, Democrat.

How about which way you hang your toilet paper?
How you squeeze your toothpaste?

Asking the important stuff here.

Of course, "what do you think of Disney?"

These are indeed important questions. I am a hard no on Pulp Fiction and any Tarantino. Yes to Coke over Pepsi, but don't think it belies my political opinions, though maybe the regional preferences may make it seem that way - I see a lot more Pepsi out west. Toilet Paper is overhanded, always! My toothpaste comes in tubes that don't flatten out, so it doesn't matter.

LOVE Disney!

 

[Rick195275]

LOL! I agree!
But all the single guys I see online on both sites I go to are all in to dogs.
One even specifically said "no cat women" Glad he said it up front. I woul dn't want him either nor would my cat.

Single dog guy here! We don’t all dislike cats! I’m just really tall and have huge feet so I’m wary of cats and small breeds dogs. I think the cats can sense it and aren’t my biggest fans but I love all animals ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

I skip over profiles that clearly have opposing political views of my own. Same for religious points of view


I’m 49. I was 17 when I meet my daughters father and that ended when I was 20. I had a very short relationship (2 or 3 months) when I was 24. So 25 years of being single pretty much says no dating/relationship history.

I totally get this, my daughter is younger but much of my time has been devoted to raising her for the last 10+ years. Dating has and always will take the backseat until she’s older. I think also plays a role in how I end up online dating, don’t have a ton of free time, wouldn‘t want to date within my daughters school community so though to even meet people at times. So where do you meet someone? Probably wouldn’t have many dates if it wasn’t for online dating honestly.

 

[Kittyblue]

I’m curious if political differences has ever stoped someone from continuing to date someone? I’m not talking about someone trying to force political views on another but just if someone mentioned to you that they leaned politically opposite of your views would it mean the end of the relationship? I ask because I know several friends who’s significant others don’t align perfectly with their partner’s politics and have really happy relationships.

One of my best friends has different political views than me, I have no problem dating someone with different political views. I think the key is the ability to be respectful to each other about it. I think I'm fairly open-minded, and I'm not strictly to tied one side anyway, some issues I'm one way and other issues another.

 

[low-key]

One of my best friends has different political views than me, I have no problem dating someone with different political views. I think the key is the ability to be respectful to each other about it. I think I'm fairly open-minded, and I'm not strictly to tied one side anyway, some issues I'm one way and other issues another.

what did he do to get a;; the xtra energy out

 

[disneychrista]

I totally get this, my daughter is younger but much of my time has been devoted to raising her for the last 10+ years. Dating has and always will take the backseat until she’s older. I think also plays a role in how I end up online dating, don’t have a ton of free time, wouldn‘t want to date within my daughters school community so though to even meet people at times. So where do you meet someone? Probably wouldn’t have many dates if it wasn’t for online dating honestly.

Since I didn't really date or meet potential dates until I started online dating I'd have to agree with this. I imagine dating with young children would be tricky. No matter how you find them.

One of my best friends has different political views than me, I have no problem dating someone with different political views. I think the key is the ability to be respectful to each other about it. I think I'm fairly open-minded, and I'm not strictly to tied one side anyway, some issues I'm one way and other issues another.

I have a good friend that has very different religious views than mine. It has never been an issue. I think, the person I am dating would have to be extreme views on one side or that other for it to be a big issue.

 

[Rick195275]

Since I didn't really date or meet potential dates until I started online dating I'd have to agree with this. I imagine dating with young children would be tricky. No matter how you find them.


I have a good friend that has very different religious views than mine. It has never been an issue. I think, the person I am dating would have to be extreme views on one side or that other for it to be a big issue.

It definitely has its challenges. I’ve always kept my dating life and my life with my daughter very separate, which has caused it’s own set of issues with women I’ve dated. I always say given the right situation with the right person I would have no problem with the 2 worlds coming together... but like you and a few others on this thread I’m not really sure that’s in the cards for me. I’m totally okay with that personally and love my single life! At the same time I completely understand that feeling you have about wanting to find a person to share life with. I think maybe we all just really want someone to go to the parks with lol.

 

[disneychrista]

It definitely has its challenges. I’ve always kept my dating life and my life with my daughter very separate, which has caused it’s own set of issues with women I’ve dated. I always say given the right situation with the right person I would have no problem with the 2 worlds coming together... but like you and a few others on this thread I’m not really sure that’s in the cards for me. I’m totally okay with that personally and love my single life! At the same time I completely understand that feeling you have about wanting to find a person to share life with. I think maybe we all just really want someone to go to the parks with lol.

It was the two worlds coming together that made me not really pursue anything when my daughters were young. I had a short relationship (2 - 3 months) when they were young and it was not a good experience with many issues. After that I made a rule of no "boyfriends" meeting my daughters until I was sure about them and that it was going to be a long term thing. Since I didn't really have anyone to watch them for dates, I just didn't date (not that I was turning down dates either). So now that my daughters are grown, I thought I'd give it a chance. But from what I've experienced it seems like I didn't miss out on much.