One thing I don't understand....

[oldkicker]

Whenever anyone here posts things that are wildly inappropriate and demeaning to specific groups of people, why do we bother getting upset about it?

That type of activity is often done intentionally to bring gratification, in the form of attention, to the person posting. Attempts at conversation, reasonable conversation, will be ignored and the level of antagonism will only rise.

It is really no reflection on you or the specific group of people being attacked.

It is meaningless.

If it shows ANYTHING, it shows the heart, intelligence and social capacity of the person posting.

So don't get mad, be glad. It could be worse, you could have to deal with them in real life.

Is this too fluffy?

 

[WebmasterMaryJo]

 

[zurgswife]

Well said!!!

 

[Serena]

Good morning OK. It's nice to see you.

I agree with you, but sometimes I can't help but respond to it. I don't know what you are referring too today, but I try really hard to zip my fingers. I'm just not always successful.

 

[RoutemanDan]

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Well said Bernie.

 

[DixieDreamer]

Hey Bernie!!

You are absolutely right. Unfortunately, I let it get under my skin once in a while - and feel the urge to confront it. Mainly, because it is becoming so prevelant - that everywhere I turn - it is in my face. I can't just backspace out of a thread... because almost EVERY thread seems to have this lately (well at least it feels that way to me). I even ended up with PM's that had a similar bent. Tried to deal with it constructively - but to no avail. Just got called names in private.

As a consequence, I have taken a real break from the DIS for the past month. I have pretty much confined myself to the morning riddle and very short visits. I am back today because I have declared it a "lazy day" for myself... and I am hoping that I can play and chat for awhile. I love the DIS and the many friends I have made here - it truly makes me sad that I don't enjoy it as much as I used to.

I declared "independence" from this many months ago - maybe I need to do that again!

 

[Dream]

Here here!!!

 

[Dan Murphy]

So correct, Bernie, so very correct. When a 'person' consistently does what you describe, I elect to ignore that 'person'. However, as Dbl D so correctly says above...

because almost EVERY thread seems to have this lately (well at least it feels that way to me).

...it does getting tiring and sometimes almost borders on arrogant harassment. I know a fair number of folks, who, again like Dbl D, have taken breaks from the DIS, or have expressed a decrease in their enjoyment in coming to the DIS, what with the current high level of what you descibe, Bernie. Thankfully, again as you say, we don't have to deal with them in real life. I would add one thought to what you said here...

If it shows ANYTHING, it shows the heart, intelligence and social capacity of the person posting

...I think it shows the LACK of heart, intelligence and social capacity of the person posting.

As always, Bernie, you say it so simply, accurately and to the point. Hope your family has a great Sunday.

 

[Saffron]

I hear what you're saying Bernie, and I agree. The constent disrespect shown towards groups of people or individuals by such callous posts makes me so mad, at times I can't help myself! I'm sorry.

 

[gina2000]

All it is is an exercise in button pushing. If you know the poster, you know the routine. People don't change their spots, their opinions nor their posts.

Only the reader can change. And the less said, the better.

 

[Luv2Roam]

There are many people in this world that don't know (or care?) the difference between good attention and bad. As long as they get it.
I always wondered if they were given lots of attention or perks as a child when they were bad. Just a thought....
There are those who have high blood pressure, and those who cause it.

 

[helenabear]

Very well said Bernie!!!

 

[Buckalew]

Great post, Bernie! I agree. Would you post this again in a few weeks? I seem to need a reminder.
Thanks for saying what I need to read. I know it in my head but ignoring it and shrugging it off in real life aren't always easy for me.
And you are right--posts like that tell us all a lot about a person and who they really are.

 

[EROS]

I agree, OLDKICKER . I'm constantly demeaned and attacked around here in a personal and specific fashion. I LAUGH at such posts which truly demonstrate the coldness, social ineptitude and stupidity of their creators ..........

 

[snowwhitemom]

Good Post.

 

[EROS]

Originally posted by Dan Murphy
Thankfully, again as you say, we don't have to deal with them in real life.

Oooooooooops.............not so fast. I JUST CAN'T WAIT to meet you at the Chicago meet ..........