One of the hardest things about being a parent....

[bsnyder]

Is witnessing your child's disappointment.

Kyle didn't make the Varsity basketball team.

The cut was at 12....he was 13th....

The assistant coach just called me to tell me how proud I should be of Kyle. That he worked his butt off for the last 4 months and gave his best efforts 100% of the time. And that he took the bad news very graciously.

I know this is part of life, and the growing process, but I hate to see my baby hurting.

 

[paras4ri]

I know just how you feel!

 

[Marla Hellwig]

I agree Bet - hugs to Kyle -

 

[Tony-NJ]

coach to call. It has to hard to witness your child's disappointment.

 

[grinningghost]

I know just how you feel. DD didn't make the volleyball team this year and was terribly bummed out. I bet Kyle is a great player and this hurts him alot. Just let him know that you're proud of him for doing his best. Time does heal these things, but they sure can be painful until then.

 

[Serena]

Poor kid.

 

[Patio]

The same thing happened to my DD last year. She tried out for 7th grade basketball, went to all the tryouts, and then got cut. She knew she wasn't the best one there, but shouldn't have been one of the cuts, especially since she plays in a league with these girls and was an all-star and always a leading scorer. It hurt her so bad, but it hasn't discouraged her. I always remind her that Michael Jordan was cut from his high school team. {{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}} to your son, tell him to keep his head high and never give up!!

 

[Disney Doll]

makje sure you keep telling him how proud you are that he tried, and keep repeating what the coach called to tell you.

Poor kid

 

[Pam]

I'm sorry. A friend of mine once remarked to me that when one of our children gets cut, we [the Moms] bleed for them. How very, very true.

It sounds, though, as if you have a very mature son you can be very proud of.

Pam

 

[Dan Murphy]

Yes, Bet, very tough part it is. We've been there with both over the years also, probably most have, and always very tough. My best to Kyle, Bet, and you and Tommy also. {{Big hug}}.

 

[Briar Rose 7457]

been there, done that. it's hard when they try so hard and don't make it.

 

[Blondie]

I do think that is one of the hardest things...seeing disappointment in your child's eyes and knowing there isn't anything we as parents can do about it.

 

[JAP]

Bummer. {{HUGS}} for you. I am not sure how I will deal with those issues when my kids get older.

 

[4greatboys]

Im so sorry he didnt make it. I know its part of life but its very hard to see your kids get hurt when they dont make the team or whatever they are trying to do. My oldest ds just started high school this yr. He plays football and our school is pretty big--3 freshmen teams but then it goes to 2 JV teams then 1 Varsity. I already feel bad for the boys who dont make it and dread the moment if my ds doesnt make it.
I hope he feels better soon!

 

[PRINCESS VIJA]

I feel for your pain, I truly do! When I was in HS I didn't make the varsity cheerleading team, and I had been one since 7th grade. I was crushed, I still haven't quite gotten over it. But one good thing did come of it, I spent alot more time on my studies and set high expectations for myself. That carried on into college and it was something I was very proud of.

Let your DS grieve, because it is a loss for him, but then help him redirect his energies into something else that will be a positive thing for him. School, community, other sports, or clubs. Good luck, and HUGS!

 

[BethR]

How very true, Bet.
Laura did not make the softball tournament team this summer after doing it for the past 4 years. It was hugely disappointing for her. And it was so hard seeing a kid that does not cry, cry.
{{{HUGS}}} to you AND Kyle...

 

[nativetxn]

{{{HUGS}}} Bet

 

[Talking Hands]

Hardest thing about being a parent is letting them go. Mine has moved to Japan. She's having a blast and I am in mourning. I miss my baby. Some baby, she's 24.

 

[binny]

Im sorry.

 

[minniecarousel]

Another one in the "been there - done that" You're right - it is the most difficult part of parenting. They do bounce back (sometimes quicker than I did!) Now that mine are in college, I know that they don't share everything with me - I miss it, but they are adults now & there are things that they have to deal with without me. (I'm glad that they have each other for support - that may be the best thing about sharing an apt with your brother!)
Hang in there Mom! These disappointments are what make them strong. (I know - that was little solace for me while they were going through it!)