I would escalate this. I have never been rushed, but I won't let anyone do this.
Last August I took the girls to 1900 PF while the rest of the family went to Sanaa on an adult night. We had not even sat down when Lady Tremaine was making her rounds to the table. Please give us a minute to get settled, we are not even sitting down. The server told me we either visited then or no Lady Tremaine. No, we will sit down and then we start the meal, and the character experience. WE did and she came.
I think there may be over achievers working, and while they are few and far between, they should nt be allowed to ruin a very expensive dining experience.