Omg...my friend's dad hit on me

[Charles Darwin]

...add to it the mini-drama about being blacklisted by the legal community. that's kind of a stretch, considering she isn't in law school.

 

[dis ms.]

You all can believe what you want but I don't know why you think I would go through all this trouble to make this story up. I initially came on here to vent because I had no one else to tell and I kept everyone updated when things happened. If you choose not to believe me, go for it but I'm not explaining myself again.

It happens here quite often, actually. Call me a cynic, but this story is registering high on my BS meter.

It's not even that the events are so hard to believe, it's that this all happened within 24 hours. I think that's some kind of record...even on the DIS.

 

[Peter Pirate 2]

The DIS has it all...
If it's a scam, good one!

If it's real, the saying 'what doesn't kill you makes you stronger' applies.

Yanno, the internet just might precipitate the end of civilization...

 

[frndshpcptn]

wait - the OP isn't even in law school and she is worried about being blacklisted from the legal community?

OP - are you in northern or southern jersey? Either way - you have NYC and Philly very, very close by. Those are pretty big job markets...

 

[hydster]

What is the point of this? You flip out on people when they start being ugly on your thread but yet you say something like this when this young lady is obviously having a hard time with it. If you didn't have anything productive to say, why say anything?

What would you do if this was your daughter? Thank some older man for scaring the hell out of your daughter?

Yeah but see this thread doesn't have anything to do with having to pay for twin child care by a mother in law you don't trust and think lies thus it doesn't count for anything really important!!

And I'll throw my name onto the list thinking that this story just doesn't add up. I know people who've been stalked and it didn't escalate in 24 hours to this point! If it truly is real you have my sympathy.....otherwise it's time to clean off the BS meter and wait for another one to come along!

 

[JerseyBallerina]

To set the record straight....he cannot blackmail me from the legal community. What I was worried about was him preventing me from getting a good job right out of school or even another internship. Or if I can get a job, he can tarnish my name if this escalates to the point where he feels like he needs revenge or something. And I plan on taking the bar in NJ as of now. I know things can change but I don't want to leave the state and getting a job out of law school can be hard enough without having something negative attached to your name.

 

[Ariel Wanna-be]

To set the record straight....he cannot blackmail me from the legal community. What I was worried about was him preventing me from getting a good job right out of school or even another internship. Or if I can get a job, he can tarnish my name if this escalates to the point where he feels like he needs revenge or something. And I plan on taking the bar in NJ as of now. I know things can change but I don't want to leave the state and getting a job out of law school can be hard enough without having something negative attached to your name.

Hmmm...I don't really think that is a legitimate concern. The Firm was fiction.

 

[LuvOrlando]

You all can believe what you want but I don't know why you think I would go through all this trouble to make this story up. I initially came on here to vent because I had no one else to tell and I kept everyone updated when things happened. If you choose not to believe me, go for it but I'm not explaining myself again.

I wonder if the people here actually hear themselves? Always putting the girl on trial is a disgusting tendency... and why they still stone women in the middle east. These people don't even know this guy and are willing to give him the benefit of the doubt instead of you

I guess the world is broken up into the women who've had to endure insane men, who will believe you and the women who think the world is full of Dudley Do Rights, who won't. I've known enough to believe you. Here's 2 out of many weird stories.


When I was a kid, about 15, we had a painter in the house. THe whole family was home. I was upstairs and couldn't get the bathroom window open, it was an old house & the August heat had swelled the old painted windows tight. This guy, maybe 45 but very handsome, offers to help. Before I could step aside he was pressing hard up behind me and held his hands over mine so I couldn't move. I was only 15 but I knew what he was doing...ICKKKKKKKK! After the window was up I scooted ASAP. He was married to a drop dead gorgeous woman with 2 kids both older than me. I had a boyfriend who I told. He said "Why were you alone with him, you shouldn't have been". I never told anyone else. With those 10 words I knew what the rest of the world would always say. You're pretty so its your fault.

Another time I was at a snooty Salon in NYC getting a facial at a place the old 1st lady used to frequent, I was about 20. The guy doing my facial started grinding into my crossed knee just before I was done. The salon was full of people. As he gazed into my eyes hoping for some sign, either shock or a nod (I'll never know) I just ignored him. It was like getting a facial from a stray. But what could I have said? His movements looked normal to everyone but me. If I had exploded he would've said I was nuts and everyone would have believed him.

Don't worry about what the world has to say. You stood up for yourself and you know the truth...you don't need anyone else to believe you.

 

[JerseyBallerina]

Regardless of whether it is a legitimate concern to you, it was something that worried me. I didn't ask to be scrutinized and questioned. If you doubt me, go ahead but I'm not going to dissect all my posts to prove to you that this is actually happening to me.

 

[JerseyBallerina]

Thank you LuvOrlando and I'm sorry that you were put in those positions.

 

[LuvOrlando]

Thank you LuvOrlando and I'm sorry that you were put in those positions.

You're welcome

 

[blue_river]

I wonder if the people here actually hear themselves? Always putting the girl on trial is a disgusting tendency... and why they still stone women in the middle east. These people don't even know this guy and are willing to give him the benefit of the doubt instead of you

I guess the world is broken up into the women who've had to endure insane men, who will believe you and the women who think the world is full of Dudley Do Rights, who won't. I've known enough to believe you. Here's 2 out of many weird stories.

Typical to blame the woman

JerseyBallerina: Don't be discouraged by those who don't believe you. I feel even worse for you now that you have to read those comments

 

[TimeforMe]

I don't think anyone here is "blaming the woman" but instead are asking legitimate questions as to the validity of the claim. It does seem, IMO, that things escalated very quickly and very extraordinarily.

 

[JerseyBallerina]

It does seem, IMO, that things excalated very quickly and very extraordinarily.

In my defense, none of you know this man. You don't know his personality. It's not like I'm accusing a man you know who you can say this is totally out of character for him. People get weird and do crazy things. Maybe he always does this with girls he likes, I don't know but to suggest that his behavior is totally out of the question is not fair.

 

[Ariel Wanna-be]

Regardless of whether it is a legitimate concern to you, it was something that worried me. I didn't ask to be scrutinized and questioned. If you doubt me, go ahead but I'm not going to dissect all my posts to prove to you that this is actually happening to me.

No disrespect intended, but yes you did.

You absolutely cannot post things like this and legitimately expect not to be "questioned" or "scrutinized". You don't have to like it, you don't have to respond to it, and you don't have to justify your responses, but you do have to put up with it. Unless, of course, you choose not to post in the first place.

Personally, I did believe you at first, but I don't anymore. But quite frankly, so what? Why should that matter to you? I'm just a stranger on a message board. There are many here who do believe you, and they are entitled to their opinion as much I am. So just ignore the "questioners" and "scrutinizers" and carry on with those who are supportive of you.

...Always putting the girl on trial is a disgusting tendency... and why they still stone women in the middle east. These people don't even know this guy and are willing to give him the benefit of the doubt instead of you

I guess the world is broken up into the women who've had to endure insane men, who will believe you and the women who think the world is full of Dudley Do Rights, who won't.

For the record, the reason that I don't believe her is NOT because I "always put the girl on trial." I've known as many female liars as I have male ones. I don't believe people's stories simply because their gender matches mine...I believe (or don't believe) them based on the authenticity of their stories, and wether or not they seem, well, a little too far-fetched.

The world is not broken up into two black & white camps as you suggest. Most of it is one big gray area.

 

[LindsayDunn228]

This guy is cool.

What the....?

Oh wait. Just saw the poster.

 

[LindsayDunn228]

double post

 

[Charles Darwin]

I know things can change but I don't want to leave the state and getting a job out of law school can be hard enough without having something negative attached to your name.

since you're not even in law school, i'd say you have years to worry about that happening. have you been accepted to law school? taken the lsat? any law school prospects?

 

[monkeyboy]

 

[dis ms.]

In my defense, none of you know this man. You don't know his personality. It's not like I'm accusing a man you know who you can say this is totally out of character for him. People get weird and do crazy things. Maybe he always does this with girls he likes, I don't know but to suggest that his behavior is totally out of the question is not fair.

I don't know you, either. You're right, though. People do crazy things, such as posting outlandish stories on the Internet for attention. Not saying this is the case with your whole scenario, but it is possible.

BTW, I don't doubt that a man is capable of hitting on his daughter's friend. I've seen American Beauty.