Omg...my friend's dad hit on me

[Chicago526]

Oh my god, I just ran into him at CVS....
And I know he wasn't following me because when he approached me, he already had a bag so he was in there first. I just have extremely bad timing.

Once is chance, twice is coincidence, three times is conspiracy (or in this case, stalking). If you run into him again, I urge you to get a restraining order. This is getting nuts!

 

[fan_of_small_world]

I just have to say you have a great mom! Not only is she sticking up for you, but she obviously raised a daughter who can handle herself very well. My proof: how you handled yourself at CVS. He ran his fingers through your hair?!?!! Oh my word. He just keeps redefining the word "creep."

I really like the advice Agnes gave you about the phone. That way, if the calls continue, you will have something concrete as proof. Don't delete the messages as others have suggested. You should hang on to them for a while in case you have a need for them later.

Also, see if you can get a hard copy of the incoming calls from your cell phone company. Eventually they will be deleted from the "recent calls" list.

 

[Kath2003]

Get hold of a microphone and record what he says to you on the phone. Make copies and play it to his wife.

 

[Alex2kMommy]

I want to believe that, now that your parents are involved, this behavior will stop.

However, my advice to you is to save/store the phone messages (including dates/times called), and document everything that has happened in the past (including the physical touching and conversation in the store) as well as anything that should happen in the future.

I hope you won't need it. But you might. Good luck to you.

 

[CapeCodTenor]

However, my advice to you is to save/store the phone messages (including dates/times called), and document everything that has happened in the past (including the physical touching and conversation in the store) as well as anything that should happen in the future.

I hope you won't need it. But you might. Good luck to you.

I'd agree, keep all the records of what's been happening so far. And as for your friend, I'm sorry if your friendship is over because of this. This behavior is just wrong. Keep us posted as to what happens.

 

[dodukes]

WOW!! is al I have to say, I started reading the thread last night and now finished up, I agree with the others, get the detailed billing statement from thid month when you can so that it shows exactly which calls are incoming outgoing and who they were to/from. I know mine tells ou all this. This guy is sounding creepier by the minute, i would keep an eye out at all times, he may begin to start following you around, especially now that "youve outed him"....keep us updated.

 

[mickeyboat]

I am starting to have a really hard time believing this. Either you are pulling our leg, or this guy is STALKING you, or he has some mental illness that is making him behave this way. Has he called you again? If all of this is truly happening, it's almost time to contact the police.

Denae

 

[CheshireVal]

I am starting to have a really hard time believing this. Either you are pulling our leg, or this guy is STALKING you, or he has some mental illness that is making him behave this way.
Denae

I feel the same way.

 

[boomhauer]

This guy is cool.

 

[4nana]

Once is chance, twice is coincidence, three times is conspiracy (or in this case, stalking). If you run into him again, I urge you to get a restraining order. This is getting nuts!

I am starting to have a really hard time believing this. Either you are pulling our leg, or this guy is STALKING you, or he has some mental illness that is making him behave this way. Has he called you again? If all of this is truly happening, it's almost time to contact the police.

Denae

Ditto! I truly feel for the OP if true and it's time to contact police. Then this morn, sad to say, seems like a very bizarre less than 24 hrs with too many coincidences.

 

[Tarheel Tink]

Ewwwwwwww!

 

[sk8belle]

Don't phone companies have a policy where if a client is being called repeatedly by another party and does not want the calls, the client can file a harrassment report with the phone company, and the phone company can take some action, such as discontinuing his service? Or am I way off base here?

If he keeps calling you repeatedly like that, you may want to find out if such a policy exists. Then, if what's going on fits their definition (if they have one), take one more call from him and clearly state that if the calls continue you WILL file a harrassment report with the phone company.

Just a thought. I'm very sorry to hear you have to deal with this jerk. You've gotten alot of great advice from others here. I hope there's some resolution soon.

 

[JerseyBallerina]

I am starting to have a really hard time believing this. Either you are pulling our leg, or this guy is STALKING you, or he has some mental illness that is making him behave this way.

I know it seems like a far fetched thing and if it were someone else and I would question the validity as well, but I couldn't make this stuff up if I tried.

If being an arrogant, selfish man who always gets want he wants is considered a mental illness, then that is his problem. I don't think anyone ever says no to him and he doesn't know how to deal with it.

As for the stalking, I would say that he would never go that far but at this point, I don't even know.

My friend (his daughter) called me though. Her mom told her everything she told my mom and she believed her! She was screaming at me for trying to have an affair with her dad and how much of a ***** I was and how she can't believe I'm trying to ruin her dad's good name.

I guess it's your first reaction to stand up for your own father but I thought we were closer than that...

 

[betsywdw]

I just finished reading your thread and this is just terrible! He is a total jerk and now has the nerve to act as if you have done something wrong! Good for your Mom for calling his wife! I'm sure deep down she knows that he is in the wrong but doesn't want to admit it. Hopefully your friend will come around. It's just not fair that you have to deal with all of this when he is the creep that initiated it and will not let it alone. Hope things start settling down for you Keep us posted.

 

[lovemygoofy]

This guy is cool.

What is the point of this? You flip out on people when they start being ugly on your thread but yet you say something like this when this young lady is obviously having a hard time with it. If you didn't have anything productive to say, why say anything?

What would you do if this was your daughter? Thank some older man for scaring the hell out of your daughter?

 

[MushyMushy]

This guy is cool.

What on earth is wrong with you?

 

[betsywdw]

What is the point of this? You flip out on people when they start being ugly on your thread but yet you say something like this when this young lady is obviously having a hard time with it. If you didn't have anything productive to say, why say anything?

What would you do if this was your daughter? Thank some older man for scaring the hell out of your daughter?

Well said!

 

[horseshowmom]

What is the point of this? You flip out on people when they start being ugly on your thread but yet you say something like this when this young lady is obviously having a hard time with it. If you didn't have anything productive to say, why say anything?

What would you do if this was your daughter? Thank some older man for scaring the hell out of your daughter?

What on earth is wrong with you?

Got to agree with both of these...

 

[horseshowmom]

I know it seems like a far fetched thing and if it were someone else and I would question the validity as well, but I couldn't make this stuff up if I tried.

If being an arrogant, selfish man who always gets want he wants is considered a mental illness, then that is his problem. I don't think anyone ever says no to him and he doesn't know how to deal with it.

As for the stalking, I would say that he would never go that far but at this point, I don't even know.

My friend (his daughter) called me though. Her mom told her everything she told my mom and she believed her! She was screaming at me for trying to have an affair with her dad and how much of a ***** I was and how she can't believe I'm trying to ruin her dad's good name.

I guess it's your first reaction to stand up for your own father but I thought we were closer than that...

All you can do is shake your head. Sure, the first thing you're going to do is get your mom to help you have an affair with her dad.

She and her mother are boxed in a corner and acting defensively. There was a thread on here recently where someone said that they had a BF when they were younger whose dad had tried to kiss them. When she told the BF, he accused her of lying. Years later, she ran into the BF again, and he apologized to her. Apparently, he had learned some lessons over the years. These two will too

Also, as far as running into him, I think it's Murphy's Law. Whatever can go wrong, will go wrong. Again, I know a guy right now who's just like this guy. He's in a position of authority and uses his position to manipulate women. Some of them go along with him - enough that makes him think he can treat everybody this way.

Yes, there are people in the world like this. You keep right on handling it like you are. One of these days when you're guest lecturing at a law class at a university, you can use this as an anecdotal case study.

 

[LuvOrlando]

I am starting to have a really hard time believing this. Either you are pulling our leg, or this guy is STALKING you, or he has some mental illness that is making him behave this way. Has he called you again? If all of this is truly happening, it's almost time to contact the police.

Denae

What a messed up thing to say.