okay, so my MIL is angry...I feel bad!!

[MomNeedsVacay]

okay, so my in-laws live in the same town as us. My parents live an hour away. When my parents visit with our kids, they usually take them overnight because driving an hour each way in one day is difficult and doesn't allow for a lot of "visiting time" with the grandkids. My parents took my oldest two for a couple of days because schools were cancelled this week due to snow. My parents hardly ever take the kids to movies because they don't think that is "quality time". My mom calls me while watching the girls to tell me that she and my DD's had a great time at the movies...they went to see "Princess and the Frog" ...
Uh oh... My mother in law has been talking about taking the girls to see this movie for a month now. My MIL is originally from New Orleans and so it has special significance to her. She was so excited to take the girls over the winter break. Anyway, I tell my mom this and she feels really bad. So my Mom sends my MIL an email basically telling her what happened and she feels really bad about it. Well, my mother in law is p.o.'ed ...she sends an email back saying, " I was afraid this was going to happen... Jaime (me) should have told you about this movie considering we've been talking about it for over a month now. Hope it was good."

I can understand my MIL's dissapointment. But I swear, if my parents had told me that they were going to take the girls to a movie I would've said, "Not the Princess and the FRog!!!" ..But my parents hardly EVER take the girls to movies-- It didn't even occur to me that they might take them!!
So now my MIL is super PO'ed at me and my Mom.... What can I do???

 

[sunnyday123]

Tell your MIL that the girls still want to see the movie with her, they loved it so much they want to share it with her.... She really has no right to be mad at you, the girls, or their Grandmother. All she'll do is make the girls feel bad, and that's not right. Honestly, I'd have to set her straight on this one.

 

[Magic Mom]

It will blow over. Your mom did the kind thing and let MIL know right away. Your MIL's email wasn't very gracious, but she got it off her chest and will probably feel silly about it in a few days (weeks).

 

[Ephany]

If your DD's are anything like mine, they'd love to see the movie again with your MIL. We weren't even out of the theater and DD was thinking about how to convince DH to take her so she could see it again.

This is no one's fault, these things sometimes happen. Your MIL's response was a bit childish, it's not like you were plotting with your mother to take the girls just so they wouldn't see if for the first time with your MIL. I don't think there's anything you really can do, just wait for it to blow over and hope she gets over it.

 

[englishteacha]

I would tell your MIL to take the girls anyway! Children love to see movies more than once!

 

[Buckalew11]

Tell your MIL that the girls still want to see the movie with her, they loved it so much they want to share it with her.... She really has no right to be mad at you, the girls, or their Grandmother. All she'll do is make the girls feel bad, and that's not right. Honestly, I'd have to set her straight on this one.

If your DD's are anything like mine, they'd love to see the movie again with your MIL. We weren't even out of the theater and DD was thinking about how to convince DH to take her so she could see it again.

This is no one's fault, these things sometimes happen. Your MIL's response was a bit childish, it's not like you were plotting with your mother to take the girls just so they wouldn't see if for the first time with your MIL. I don't think there's anything you really can do, just wait for it to blow over and hope she gets over it.

Exactly.

Except I wouldn't wait for it to "blow over". I think these things have a way of snowballing instead.

 

[justhat]

Well my husband is from New Orleans and we saw this movie with our kids last week and he was practically horrified at the mockery of the city, so maybe your MIL should be grateful she missed out! He was particularly embarassed by the 'cajun lightning bug' with missing teeth.

 

[Silent1CB]

Are you sure she's mad? The email didn't sound mad, just disappointed. Was there a follow up phone call where she actually says she's mad?

Hoping she's just disappointed & gets over it quickly.

 

[MAKmom]

okay, so my in-laws live in the same town as us. My parents live an hour away. When my parents visit with our kids, they usually take them overnight because driving an hour each way in one day is difficult and doesn't allow for a lot of "visiting time" with the grandkids. My parents took my oldest two for a couple of days because schools were cancelled this week due to snow. My parents hardly ever take the kids to movies because they don't think that is "quality time". My mom calls me while watching the girls to tell me that she and my DD's had a great time at the movies...they went to see "Princess and the Frog" ...
Uh oh... My mother in law has been talking about taking the girls to see this movie for a month now. My MIL is originally from New Orleans and so it has special significance to her. She was so excited to take the girls over the winter break. Anyway, I tell my mom this and she feels really bad. So my Mom sends my MIL an email basically telling her what happened and she feels really bad about it. Well, my mother in law is p.o.'ed ...she sends an email back saying, " I was afraid this was going to happen... Jaime (me) should have told you about this movie considering we've been talking about it for over a month now. Hope it was good."

I can understand my MIL's dissapointment. But I swear, if my parents had told me that they were going to take the girls to a movie I would've said, "Not the Princess and the FRog!!!" ..But my parents hardly EVER take the girls to movies-- It didn't even occur to me that they might take them!!
So now my MIL is super PO'ed at me and my Mom.... What can I do???

Tell your MIL if the worst thing that happened to her today was this silly mix up she is a very lucky woman.

 

[OceanAnnie]

I would just act like nothing happened. It was just one of those things. They were with your parents and they didn't know. You didn't discuss it with them. It was news to you too. No one is to blame. Just carry on as usual. It will blow over.

 

[C.Ann]

Tell your MIL that the girls still want to see the movie with her, they loved it so much they want to share it with her.... She really has no right to be mad at you, the girls, or their Grandmother. All she'll do is make the girls feel bad, and that's not right. Honestly, I'd have to set her straight on this one.

If your DD's are anything like mine, they'd love to see the movie again with your MIL. We weren't even out of the theater and DD was thinking about how to convince DH to take her so she could see it again.

This is no one's fault, these things sometimes happen. Your MIL's response was a bit childish, it's not like you were plotting with your mother to take the girls just so they wouldn't see if for the first time with your MIL. I don't think there's anything you really can do, just wait for it to blow over and hope she gets over it.

I agree with the above.. There was no "intentional" harm or deceit - it just happens to be the way it turned out and your MIL needs to ditch the childish behavior..

I'm sure your kids would like to see the movie again with your MIL (ask them first) and if they do in fact want to see it again you can pass that info on to her.. If she "pouts" and says "No" - then - Oh well.. You tried.. She'll get over it - or she won't..

Nothing for you to stress about because neither you nor your parents did anything "wrong"..

Hope it all works out for you..

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Her disappointment is justified--she wanted to do something and was looking forward to doing it "first" and didn't get to. I get her disappointment.

Her anger is irrational. You did nothing wrong and your parents did nothing wrong to her.

I'd be a bit concerned for how she will conduct her irrational behavior with your children. (i.e. expressing her sorrow over not getting to take them)