Sleep...what is that? Haven't had much of that in such a long time. Took DD to Dr. again today. She has strep and will have tonsals out. Have an appointment this week for her. She can go to camp tomorrow though! She was dissapointed that she didn't get to go today.
Found this articles interesting and though I'd share. The first one is about being too picky (this is the extreme that they showed) and the second is about finding your soul mate.
By Bob Strauss
Until the art of cloning is perfected, you have to face facts: there are only so many slim, devilishly handsome, six foot ten-inch Rhodes Scholars out there with a penchant for world travel and an income in the high six figures. If you've ever, in the course of your dating adventures, made any of the following remarks to a sympathetic girlfriend, you might want to consider the possibility that you're being just a tad too selective.
1. "But he lives, like, ten miles away!"
I once met a gal who considered me "geographically undesirable" because I lived in midtown Manhattan and she lived on the upper west side. (For those of you unfamiliar with New York, that's a 20-minute walk or a 10-minute subway ride.) It's okay to sweat the first number of your potential date's zip code, but paying too much attention to the last digit (or demanding that he live on the same block) may be a bit unrealistic.
2. "I was hoping for someone a little taller."
Just how much shorter is he than your romantic ideal: two inches, or two feet? If the latter, you're entirely within your rights to keep walking. If the former, well, imagine how you'd react if you overheard a guy saying, "I was hoping for someone a couple of pounds lighter." He'd be a grease spot on the pavement, right? There are lots of things that go into a great relationship, but unless you're one-half of a circus act height isn't one of them.
3. "I don't think he makes a lot of money."
Once again: does the guy make very little money, or only a bit less than J.R. on Dallas? There's no law that says you have to downscale your lifestyle for love; if you're used to dating doctors and lawyers, a high-school math teacher probably won't be a good match. But if you're looking for a guy who's worth a hundred grand a year, eliminating someone who pulls down only $75K is shortsighted. How do you know how much he could eventually make, with you behind him?
Location, height, income: those are the three biggies. The following quotes are presented as a public service to women who wonder why they're more likely to receive an AARP card in the mail before a phone call asking for a second date:
"I don't like the way he pronounces the word 'spaghetti.'"
"He's got this sandy-blonde hair thing going I was really hoping for someone with that salt-and-pepper look."
"Wait 'til I tell you what he ordered for an appetizer. Ewww!"
"I'm sorry, but if he can't grasp the ethical implications of the North American Free Trade Agreement, then he's simply not the one for me."
"He put the salad fork on the left side of the plate. On the left! Can you believe it?"
"His coat looked Armani, but I think it was a factory knockoff."
"One of his eyebrows is at least a quarter of an inch bigger than the other."
"He calls that a dog? It looked like a big hairy caterpillar."
The soulmate debate: Is there really such a thing?
By Analise Pendergast
Word on the street has it that everyone has a perfect match out there somewhere one special someone whos uniquely suited to be your lover, your best friend, your confidant, your life partner, your inspiration in short, your everything.
But, is this realistic, or are we expecting the impossible? Is searching for your soulmate a resolute quest to find that one true love, or is it a set-up for dashed hopes and a blinder to potentially brilliant outside-the-box matches?
Myth, or reality? Wed all like to believe that someday our prince or princess will come, and it will be love at first sight, no questions asked, happily ever after. How sweet it might be to eliminate all that messy getting-to-know-you stuff, the ins and outs and ups and downs of a real life relationship. While some folks hold tight to their belief in fairytale romance, others think its the stuff of legends.
How do you know youve found THE one? If youre convinced theres only one perfect match for you out there, you may be spooked by the idea of getting close with anyone for fear theyre NOT the one. You may feel anxious because you havent found your match yet and the clock is ticking. You may worry that he or shed been standing right in front of you, but you failed to notice until it was too late. If you do get romantically involved, you may chronically look over your shoulder, secretly wondering if you made the right choice.
Are you selective, or exclusive? If soulmate is defined as that one single individual on this planet whos your one-and-only perfect match, then finding him or her is like locating a tiny diamond lying somewhere on a vast white sand beach. Sure, that jewels out there somewhere, but you may grow old and gray before you lay a hand on it, if ever. Maintaining high standards is commendable when it comes to letting someone into your heart. But setting the bar unrealistically high may just reduce that wide-open field of possibilities to a paltry square inch, keeping you single for much longer than you had in mind.
Should you settle? Absolutely not! Lifes too short and loves too precious to settle for anything less than a healthy, happy, and heartfelt connection with your true love. The good news is, there are a generous handful of individuals on this planet who would make a really terrific match for you. There are also legions of lesser possibilities, so work on learning to tell the difference before getting engulfed by time-consuming and energy-draining entanglements. Skip the fixer-uppers, and go forth confident in the belief that you deserve a genuine quality relationship and that theyre out there waiting to be found.
Soulmate, or soul companion? Are soulmates born, or are they made? While love at first sight may be more fiction than fact, its entirely realistic to think that you and your sweet darling may evolve into true soul companions as you grow to know each other more intimately and love each other more deeply over time. If you two have excellent chemistry, excellent communication, and an excellent time just being in each others presence, the conditions are prime for your sweet souls to blissfully commune behind the scenes for many years to come.
How do you spot that special something?
By Marcia Jedd
The old song with the refrain It had to be you, wonderful you hints of a yearning for the love of someones life, foibles and all. It harkens to unique traits that make someone, well, uniquely them.
Nearly all of us want a dream mate nice looks, a healthy or spicy sex life, and characteristics we value in a person: trustworthy, successful and athletic in appearance are just a few examples. Consider that only a tiny percentage of what makes up a person physical appearance, personality, motivations, spiritual life, etc. is truly unique to them. Strip away some of these wish-list items and youre left with the core authenticity of the individual.
Within 15 minutes of meeting a person, can you spot what makes them so unique? Doing so can help you decide if he or she is right for you. Follow these pointers to spot a telltale sign, behavior or trait that makes a person the adorable individual that they are:
All things surface. Whats he driving? Are his fingernails dirty or neatly clipped? Is she wearing a detectable perfume? Is she sporting the latest fashion or a classic standby? Play detective and observe clues that help you fill the gaps. If he pulls up in a comfortable SUV or sports car with a bumper sticker that says Id rather be skydiving, you might have an adrenaline junkie on your hands. Ask him about his adventurous pursuits in the sky or on the ground. If shes sporting interesting jewelry, make a comment and see what she says. You might get instant insights into her interests, travels, or even family history.
Communication style. Did he introduce himself in email with a joke? Or was it all prim, proper and serious? Did her zany sense of humor emit through the phone lines or come across email? Check hobbies, interests and vocation for signs of introversion or extroversion. Are they scattered and take forever to get back to you? Playing the field? Pay attention to your communications track record with the person, however short or long it is. Youll discover a boatload of information on how they handle life and treat others.
Listen. An arsenal of hints and blatant this is me signs are available from examining your interactions with the person. If youve already had a phone conversation, what was the first thing out of their mouth? What was the second? What do they spend time talking about online, in person or on the phone? Not surprisingly, conversations reveal what the person thinks about frequently and what they value. Likewise, what kinds of questions have they asked you? Anything personal, in-depth or thought-provoking? Is it all about their possessions, their kids or themselves? Youll be able to spot their values and have some forward-looking clues into how you will be treated.
In short, before you waste countless hours screening candidates by email or in person, learn to hone those qualities you want and need. Youll kiss fewer frogs and have more fun along the way.