Okay...I've Called the Late Night DISers, Now I'm Calling the Single DISers (Part 2)

[floridaminnie]

I've been on both sides of this coin. I was at one time a GF to someone who had a child and now I have the child...IMHO I keep Brianna out of my dating life. It's not far for her to see mommy with a string of guys. I didn't want her to meet anyone unless it was someone I wanted to keep around for a long time. Ironically she's met my current love, b/c we were suppose to remain friends. But then that's another whole story.

 

[mickeysdsnyprncs]

FL : Thank You for you H.O.! I have no problem with the protection of his girls. In fact I was thinking that if we go to the zoo on Sunday we wouldn't make it a point to say anything about "us" and just go as a group of friends with the kids. It would be a group of us, My friend and her little girl, Me, Chris and his girls, and Chris' friend. I would mostly hang out with my friend and her little girl, to give Chris time with his kids. Does it sound like I am just doin this to spend time with him. I don't want that, I think maybe I will tell Chris that maybe just me and Carrie and Kayla will go. Oh I dunno, maybe I am just thinking about it too much.

 

[mickeysdsnyprncs]

Originally posted by Pin Wizard
I had to get a couple pairs of shorts and shirts to exercise in since losing 40 pounds. Yipee! I like wearing normal size clothes and getting them for $5 each! Woooooooo hooooooooo!

Woo-Hoo! Congrats on the weight loss!!! I am doing WW. I LOVE BARGAIN SHOPPING!!!!!

 

[TigerBear]

I'm curious. How old is Chris and how old are his daughters?When I first started dating it was really important to me to find a man without children. There are so many additional issues with being a step-family. If I'm ever on the market again, I may rethink that. But at 21, I would never even have considered it.

 

[TigerBear]

I just read my last post and realized it may have sounded a little judgemental. I didn't mean it like that. Just, that at 21 I couldn't have imagined dating a man with children. But then again I'm the 33 year old without children. I'm just so incredibly thankful I didn't have kids with my ex. When I told my attorney that it was very purposeful on my part she was blown away. She sat back in her chair and said, "Let me just savor this for a few minutes". I think so many people have children thinking it will help the marriage.

I agree with Suzanne, I don't think it is fair to introduce children to the person you are dating until its a serious relationship. And I think it is up to the parent to decide when the time is right.

 

[floridaminnie]

Tb...I was 21 when I was dating the guy with a four year old son and looking back I wasn't prepared for it. First off the father was immature himself and he was in his late 20's and I didn't know what the heck I was doing and I certainly wasn't thinking straight.

 

[mickeysdsnyprncs]

I have thought about the kids situation, if I was not ready for it i would not be where I am. I would never put myself in a situation that I was uncomfortable in. It just isn't me.

And as for the step-family thing, I have been on the flip side of that one. I personally know what it is like to have a step family. It is hard i would never say it wasn't. But I really like the way that my life and family has turned out and I would never deny someone that I have feelings for just because he has children. I like to communicate if something is bothering me I tell him.

 

[mickeysdsnyprncs]

Ooo.. I am not trying to come across as snippy. That's not how I wanted that to seem. I am really glad you have given your opinion.

Chris is 29 (almost 30) and his two girls, Jessica is 8 and Marissa is 4. I have always been attracted to older guys, and this isn't the first guy I have dated who has had a child.

Chris and I have talked about a lot of things already. We talked about me going to FL. and we have talked about our feelings for each other. I have told him that i would rather him protect his children until he feels it is right, and he feels the same way. Nothing comes before his kids, and that's the way it should always be. I think things are going the way they should.

Like I said I have been on the other end of a step family. My parents are divorced and both of them are remarried. I have the blessingof two younger siblings, a sister and a brother. One is my mom's and one is my dad's. I went through a lot of step family issues growing up and still now. I have seen two families try to "welcome" or not welcome me in. On one end I felt like I had always been there and I had always belonged, and the other I felt like an outsider. (Still do... but that is another story) I take the things that I have been through into consideration when it comes to his children.

 

[Pin Wizard]

I agree with keeping kids out of it unless you're seriously involved with someone. Kids don't need to know everything and everyone. Hmmm...Richard is 11 and full of questions! I can see it being a bit difficult if I EVER date someone. I just don't normally go out some place for an afternoon or an evening without him! That alone will get him questioning! I don't care for lying either. Sheesh! LOL!

 

[firefighter326]

GOOD MORNING ALL

I've not been around much been busy with lots of things spring time yard work other fun stuff.
just saying high
enjoy the weekend.

 

[mickeysdsnyprncs]

Hi!! WE MISSED YOU!!

 

[mickeysdsnyprncs]

Chris and I decided it's not time to meet the kids yet. Last night he spent time with his girls and I went out with my friends. It was a good night I had fun. Of course I missed him but I knew I would get to see him today and I knew he wasn't going anywhere so I am done thinking about all that. It will work out in time.

 

[Pin Wizard]

I think I may have a non-date today. I've been e-mailing with a guy for a few days from a single parents dating thing online. Ha! Funny how things pick up as I decide to cancel. I think I'm canceled as of today! Any way, he's telling me about a nice place to visit the next town over. I have no clue where this place is! LOL! But he's out fishing with a friend and told me to call him if I'm interested today. I have to call him? What the heck. I need to meet some people in the area any way. But it's not a date! Hmmmmmmmm...I hope I don't get too lost trying to find this place. Ha!

 

[Pin Wizard]

Hi, firefighter! Good to see you.

 

[mickeysdsnyprncs]

Non dates are a good thing too.

Went to a wedding today,som of Chris' friends. It was nice i had a good time. Met some more of his friends.

Another thing that I realized today about my relationship with Chris,I have this illness,IBS and it is activated by nerves, stress etc. And I usually get sick during the initial part of a relationship, however I don't get sick when I am with him. This is the best physically I have felt in years! Also one of my friends told me today she has NEVER seen me happier. I have known her all my life.

Well I am tired. Will post more tomorrow.

 

[Pin Wizard]

Non date didn't work out yesterday. He ended up with sunburn...like a lobster...after boating and fishing. I hope that teaches him to wear sun screen. He says he didn't sleep at all last night because of it and has gone through a tube of aloe and a tube of Nivea. Ouch! So, he's supposed to call tomorrow when he's feeling better. And we'll hopefully get together for lunch on Weds. or Thurs. We'll see.

 

[floridaminnie]

Pw...hopefuly your nondate will work out. Nondates can be very good.

Actually got a couple more hours of sleep last night. I had been going to bed around three with DD waking up at 6. Now this morning she won't get out of bed. But all is good

 

[Pin Wizard]

I agree...non-dates can be good. A bit more relaxed I think. I don't know if he considers it a date or not. LOL!

Staying up until 3 a.m.? Those are my usual hours. But the last 2 nights I've been in before 1. Yipee! Woke up at 5:30 yesterday morning on my own, today at 5:45 thanks to cell phone text message. Geez...to think that someone is up at 5:45 ready for the day and on their computer is beyond my comprehension! I guess that's a military guy for you. Ha!

Have a great day!

 

[firefighter326]

GOOD MORNING

I see some of you have A life. Me wish I could (kiss and tell)
nothing in my life but working, working, working, for now
tring too plan a trip to W D W in a few weeks. 4 - 5 days just to get away. well if gas keeps going up maybee NOT. we are at $ 2.11 here. I'm glad things do work out for people

well have a good day my day off YA RIGHT! ! ! ! !
more work too do on my day off than at work.

take care all.

 

[legs22]

Hi all,
Got back late last night and did not want to go to work this morning! I had a pretty good time in Vegas. I stayed at Caesar's Palace which is very nice. I did get to relax around the pool and have a strwberry daquari. One of their pools is European sunbathing (topless). Did not go to that one. I walked around and saw all the large themed resorts like Paris, NY, Luxor, etc. The resorts are not close together and you do a ton of walking. My favorite was the Bellagio. They had beautiful gardens inside and the flowers were beautiful and smelled sooo good. You know the Monet painting with the bridge? They had this bridge in the garden. The Bellagio fountains in front of the resort are the largest and best fountains set to music I have ever seen. And each hourly show is different. I went up to the top of the Eiffel Tower in Paris.
I took a taxi to downtown Freemont St. where the old casinos are and they have an overhead light show. I really liked this area.
Did not have any luck gambling.
So, I went all over the strip and downtown by myself in a strange city which I don't have a problem doing but it would have been more fun to have someone to share it with.
The second day I met a couple girls at the meeting. It was nice to have someone to finally talk to! One of them was from Houston. I wanted to say "I know someone in Houston! Do you know...um....um.....TigerBear? I couldn't think of your real name or maybe I never knew your real name. I did connect in Houston. I can't believe how green it is there. I always think of Texas as a desert!
I saw Cirque's show "O" which was really wild. Very dreamlike. Takes place in the water.
One night they had a special event for us at the Ritz Carlton in Lake Las Vegas that was really fun. The resort looks like a European village and we ate outside on the hills overlooking the lake. They had sketch artists, forturne tellers, stilt walkers, and jugglers. I had my sketch done and fortune told. She said I am a private person. True. And I have a big block when it comes to love. True! According to her I will meet someone in 6 months when I'm not looking. Then we also went on a gondola ride on the lake.
I was at Caesar's four days and had 3 different hotel rooms. The first room had an adjoining door. At 1:45am I head the Shapiros arrive next door and talk about going poopsie! Plus the light in their room was shining through under the door. Then someone at work gave my cell number to a patient who woke me up at 6:45am! And in between I had coughing attacks because I was sick. So I asked to be moved to a room without an adjoining door because of the noise factor. The next night I was awakened by the banging and clanging of construction work at 5am on a Saturday! I talked to a manager who convinced me to move again. I'm glad I did. Jacuzzi tub in the room! The nicest room yet. No adjoining door. No construction. Some things are worth waiting for!