Okay...I've Called the Late Night DISers, Now I'm Calling the Single DISers (Part 2)

[Pin Wizard]

Wow! People have been posting here! I haven't been getting the usual e-mail when someone's posted, and it hasn't been on the first two or three pages when I've checked in.

Legs...Hang in there!! You're still in the craziness of the move. I'm sure things will look better when it's settled down. I hope your ankle heals quickly!! DD needs her time to adjust also. School work may suffer a bit in the beginning. Not always though! DS's math was completely different up here. He struggled a bit in the beginning of the move. Math here is serious stuff!! In FL he had colorful books with cute pictures.

Saxon math here. But now he finds it easy. Even brought me a test to sign the other day...100%! Yeaaa! His teacher told him he was the only one to get that grade out of the three 6th grade classes...60 kids. Yeaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa!!!!!

Your DD will adjust fine.

Suzanne... Good to see you!! Hope all is going well!!

SSB... Glad you're feeling so good!

TigerBear...I can't believe that guy did that! Why ask the question if he had a time in mind. No, I wouldn't go on such short notice. Good thing you missed that message until it was too late. Did he ever get back to you on the time that works for you? I agree...e-harmony doesn't give enough of the important things. Education is a huge thing to me. They don't say what someone's education is. You can kind of judge based on their occupation, but not always. You have five pages you've closed?! LOL! Wow! There are some I've closed without ever corresponding with them. There's just places I don't want to go. It's been my experience with e-harmony that even if the guy is matched with us first, we're still the ones doing the actual corresponding first. Guess it's just the way they set it up. There's one sitting in the pot now. Strange...we've gone through the questions, open ended questions, and there it sits. Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm. This is the police officer. His turn.

I have an interview coming up on Wednesday. Let's hope this company has benefits!!

There was a different one I read the other day that sounded pretty decent until I got to..."No health insurance."

That's the main reason I look to work!! Sheesh!

Have a great weekend!

 

[TigerBear]

You have five pages you've closed?! LOL! Wow!

I guess that is one good thing about living in in the fourth largest city in the country - sheer numbers! I tend to get around 4 new matches every morning. I've been either closing them out if I am not at all interested or waiting for the guy to initiate communication.

I go back and forth on the education issue. I have a friend who also has a Ph.D. who looks at educational status first - above everything else. However, I was married to an attorney and dated a physician and what did it get me? Nada. What I have learned is that education relates primarily to intrapersonal characteristics (such as intelligence and ambition). It has nothing to do with interpersonal skills which are much more important to a relationship. I know that this has total face validity and y'all probably think I am an idiot - but at least I learned Eharmony by the way is definitely not matching based on level of education.

 

[legs22]

Well my sis and I got the rest of the stuff out of my house, painted, trimmed plants, mulched, etc., drove for 4 hours there and back and made it home by midnight. I'm glad we didn't have to spend the night there. Even going back there yesterday to a mostly empty house, I found that all the feelings and memories of our relationship are still there, and I was so glad to leave that house last night. The sadness comes from leaving memories of dd in that house. She was a newborn when I brought her home there. I look at her play castle in the backyard and think of all the times she blew bubbles up there.
When I was at the house I found that the rotted wood was replaced on the gables but there are two areas where they cut the wood at the wrong angle so it doesn't match the other ends or meet the edge of the roof. When I told my friend/realtor who is handling things for me, she said she hadn't checked their work after they finished. Well, I'm glad I didn't tell the painter to start without seeing the house first. This will now delay the outside house painting. Oh well, at least I've decided on the colors.

SSB- Glad you're doing well after your surgery!

I have eHarmony on hold because of the move. I may leave it on hold for a while because I have to totally concentrate on my new job. I find that education is important and I am attracted to an educated man. But it's not everything. There are successful men who don't have a college ed.

 

[Pin Wizard]

There's always so many things to consider in a relationship, and past experiences have a lot to do with what we want and what we don't. Plus the individual themselves. Just because I think in my mind that there's something I won't tolerate isn't necessarily the case after I get to know someone a bit. But there are things I won't compromise on at all. No, TB...you're not an idiot. LOL!

Glad you got so much done, Legs! When I sold my townhouse that my husband and I owned together, it took getting used to the idea that I wouldn't be where we shared life together any longer. Part of me was okay with it and wanted to move on, another part of it made me feel like maybe I imagined it all if I left. The last morning there after I put the keys on the kitchen counter with a slip of paper telling the new owner what color was in what room...LOL! (she liked them but wanted to freshen it up)...I went around and checked each room again to be sure no boxes were left any where. The bedroom got me. I sat down on the floor, looked out the window, and CRIED!!!! Make that sobbed! Moves are difficult. You're ready for something new and exciting, but leaving the good parts behind is difficult. You will have good things in your new place, too.

 

[TigerBear]

Legs, I too can understand the sense of mixed emotions from leaving the house behind. (((hugs))) It sounds like y'all got a lot of work done!

I met Hottie this morning. We talked for an hour and a half over coffee. He is actually a nice guy, seems like a lot of fun...but I know I am not really interested in dating him (I bet we could be good friends though!). He just left a message on my cell asking me out for tomorrow night. This is the part that I am just not good at. He did absolutely nothing to turn me off...so what do I do now? I guess I am a baby when it comes to this dating thing. Wouldn't the world be such a better place if people would just automatically feel the same way about each other? LOL!

 

[Pin Wizard]

So Hottie seems like he's out for fun and that's it? Maybe a little too early to tell?

Ugh! Just signed up again last night at www.singleparentmeet.com. Haven't been at that one since in FL.

 

[Dan Murphy]

Just stopping by a great group of people here, a and a . A wish for a week for all.

 

[Pin Wizard]

Thank you, Dan!! I hope you have a great week, too!

 

[TigerBear]

Thanks Dan!

Sandy, no I didn't really get the feeling he was just out for fun. He even talked about really wanting to be a dad (on the first date!). But for whatever reason, I just know he isn't right for me. Its almost heard to explain but I have promised myself that I will trust my gut reaction from now on. I emailed him this morning that I enjoyed our time together and that it seemed to me that we could be good friends. I told him to call me if he ever just wants to hang out together. He will probably never call again but I don't have any regrets about my decision.

 

[Pin Wizard]

I agree. After ignoring my gut instinct too many times, I've also decided to listen to it. Well, at the rate you're getting matches, there are plenty of fish in the sea! Hopefully, someone will click.

 

[SideshowBob]

Good day, everyone!

Hope that all are having a good Monday...

SSB have the stir crazies... too many days/nights without leaving here. May have to make mad dash to the Thai restaurant tonight... haha!

You are most wise, TB... as SSB has had times of NOT doing that, and things turned out to be that I should have been listening to self.

Howdy, Mr. Dan! Time to travel back this way Sir... we MUST hook up next time, as too many trips in between. Last day that I was walking out, Mama T sent her regards to you.

 

[Kaycee]

OK, SSB, this is the second post I've read of yours where you're talking about going against doctor's orders and getting out and about before you should. Nurse Kaycee says you better take it easy and let yourself heal. Don't make me have to come down there...oh, wait a second, what's the temperature there again? Hmmmm....maybe SSB needs closer supervision after all.

 

[Pin Wizard]

Hi, SSB! Happy Monday to you. I know the "caged" feeling of being home too long well. Good luck!!

 

[Pin Wizard]

Been thinking about you, Vicki!! Hope you're doing okay.

 

[TigerBear]

Thai sounds good!! But Nurse Kaycee says "no". Kaycee. Sorry SSB.

Yep, I definitely need to follow my instincts. Remember I was the one who thought "This man is crazy" the first time my ex-husband first mentioned marriage. Then I got attached and ended up married to the man!

 

[legs22]

double post

 

[legs22]

Mmmmm.........let's all get together for Thai. I know a great place, but it's in Boynton Beach.

I know I haven't listened to my instincts. I tend to be more logical in my thinking. I first thought my XH was an idiot! My last bf...I knew something wasn't right, got in too deep too fast and realized he was a psycho.

However, with this move, I went with my instincts and feelings. I felt stuck. I felt like I had to leave there. Wasn't logical to me though. I had a pretty good job there and dd was in a great school. I would have to take a big pay cut to move. But it was just something I felt like I had to do. I've had many 2nd thoughts about this move but let's hope that listening to my instincts and not logic will work out!

 

[Pin Wizard]

Hi, Kaycee! (Hate when I miss posts and think...where's that coming from when someone else mentions something.)

Okay, since we're fessing up. I actually met my husband two years prior to when we started dating. At that time I didn't care for him. Spent an evening talking when I was out with friends. Then he asked me to go for a cup of coffee. I told him no!!! LOL! Then it was two years later when I ran into him somewhere else while out with a friend. Another night just talking, but this time he leaned over and kissed me on the lips in the middle of a conversation! That started it. Hmmmmmmmm.

DS's getting a shiner on the top of his cheek just below his eye. School bus bully apparently. This should be interesting.

 

[legs22]

PW-
Do you ever wish you had listened to your first reaction to him?

Hi Kaycee!

Can someone please tell me the best way to find a mortgage? I was just going to go through my credit union. I haven't checked rates elsewhere.
Do I just make a call to get pre-qualified? And do I have to get a loan with the place I pre-qualified with?

 

[SideshowBob]

Mmmmm.........let's all get together for Thai. I know a great place, but it's in Boynton Beach.

Hrrmm..... sounds GREAT to SSB, but methinks that Nurse Kaycee would have my SSB hide for driving that far... haha!! Fate did give SSB one more day without driving, as had co-worker call and come by with her Dad to bring me chicken salad and dessert she made. Really nice gesture, and kept me off of road one more day... but still having that taste for some Thai food!

Loved your instinct stories...! Mine were more so much later in the relationship than early... but guess that there had been some signs earlier on.
Guess we have all learned much.