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<font color=red>Who needs a birthday for birthday
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I'm a little irritated and just need to vent so I apologize in advance. Can't go to anyone else with this, i'm sorry!
As some of you might know from some of my past posts, my grandma is a over compulsive cleaner. She's told me a number of times that I am a bad housewife and my house is horrible, ect. And i've said it's not horrible.. it's lived in. It's not dirty or anything, it's just cluttered. And I do try my best, but especially after the car accident, I am still not moving so well.
A few times in the past when we've gone on vacation, my grandma who has a key for emergencies, came into my house and "cleaned" it. I get irritated because I hear about it from all my relatives and get reemed by her too and I end up feeling horrible. I do appreciate the thought but if I wanted her to do it, i'd ask... kwim?
So this time, when we were going to Ireland, we made sure she did not have a key to our house... no one had one. Lane took his with us, I had mine in a drawer in my house and my grandma had been blaming me for months for taking her spare and she did NOT have it. So we were all good.
The 2nd day in Ireland we call home and find out she's in our house cleaning it. We were like WTH? So we get home and NOTHING is in it's place. I'm so irritated. I can't find anything. They threw away 3/4 of our plastic cups I guess thinking "if we get rid of all their cups, they'd do dishes more often". We put dishes in the washer every night but don't run the wash but 3 times a week or so. So those are gone... all the baby's bottles and sippy cups are gone, still haven't found out why!
She got my MIL involved this time and she had at it in our living room. I had purposely left my free ticket from Universal Studios on the table next to the couch. It was a free ticket to Universal Studios and other entries for $35 each. The plan was to take my little sister up there next weekend. She took it upon herself to throw it away! She nor my grandma can't understand why I am upset about this. Hello! It was a FREE TICKET!!! She also threw away 2 ebay payments and a post office receipt that had delivery confirmation numbers that I needed on it.
Everything that I had in a nice neat bin under the table on a shelf is gone... I asked where the bin was and it's not where she "thought" she put it. It had stuff I NEEDED in it, like baby balmex and my tape measure for ebay listings and my pens and a number of other things. I keep having to call her or my grandma to ask where everything is. I'm so annoyed!
She also proudly told me she took 3 bags of clothes to Goodwill for me. Umm, I KNOW she knows that I ebay.. it's my source of income. Anything I buy for the kids I usually end up selling and make good money on because I buy sale racks and all from Gymboree and sell it for more after they've grown out of it then what I bought it for. So why would I be impressed that she just gave it away to Goodwill?????? I spent good money on that stuff and had no say on whether or not to throw it away.
And they think I should be all grateful and not be complaining in the least. I didn't INVITE them into my house while I was gone. I didn't ASK them to clean my house. And I didn't ALLOW them to throw away thing that I need.
Should I just get over it? My plans (my birthday present to MYSELF) are now ruined because she threw that free ticket away. I guess that's what I'm most teeved about.
Thanks for letting me vent... ugh.
As some of you might know from some of my past posts, my grandma is a over compulsive cleaner. She's told me a number of times that I am a bad housewife and my house is horrible, ect. And i've said it's not horrible.. it's lived in. It's not dirty or anything, it's just cluttered. And I do try my best, but especially after the car accident, I am still not moving so well.
A few times in the past when we've gone on vacation, my grandma who has a key for emergencies, came into my house and "cleaned" it. I get irritated because I hear about it from all my relatives and get reemed by her too and I end up feeling horrible. I do appreciate the thought but if I wanted her to do it, i'd ask... kwim?
So this time, when we were going to Ireland, we made sure she did not have a key to our house... no one had one. Lane took his with us, I had mine in a drawer in my house and my grandma had been blaming me for months for taking her spare and she did NOT have it. So we were all good.
The 2nd day in Ireland we call home and find out she's in our house cleaning it. We were like WTH? So we get home and NOTHING is in it's place. I'm so irritated. I can't find anything. They threw away 3/4 of our plastic cups I guess thinking "if we get rid of all their cups, they'd do dishes more often". We put dishes in the washer every night but don't run the wash but 3 times a week or so. So those are gone... all the baby's bottles and sippy cups are gone, still haven't found out why!
She got my MIL involved this time and she had at it in our living room. I had purposely left my free ticket from Universal Studios on the table next to the couch. It was a free ticket to Universal Studios and other entries for $35 each. The plan was to take my little sister up there next weekend. She took it upon herself to throw it away! She nor my grandma can't understand why I am upset about this. Hello! It was a FREE TICKET!!! She also threw away 2 ebay payments and a post office receipt that had delivery confirmation numbers that I needed on it.
Everything that I had in a nice neat bin under the table on a shelf is gone... I asked where the bin was and it's not where she "thought" she put it. It had stuff I NEEDED in it, like baby balmex and my tape measure for ebay listings and my pens and a number of other things. I keep having to call her or my grandma to ask where everything is. I'm so annoyed!
She also proudly told me she took 3 bags of clothes to Goodwill for me. Umm, I KNOW she knows that I ebay.. it's my source of income. Anything I buy for the kids I usually end up selling and make good money on because I buy sale racks and all from Gymboree and sell it for more after they've grown out of it then what I bought it for. So why would I be impressed that she just gave it away to Goodwill?????? I spent good money on that stuff and had no say on whether or not to throw it away.
And they think I should be all grateful and not be complaining in the least. I didn't INVITE them into my house while I was gone. I didn't ASK them to clean my house. And I didn't ALLOW them to throw away thing that I need.
Should I just get over it? My plans (my birthday present to MYSELF) are now ruined because she threw that free ticket away. I guess that's what I'm most teeved about.
Thanks for letting me vent... ugh.
I would be furious! How the heck did they get in your house? Did they break in? And the donations to Goodwill? OMG! They gave away your income!!! 
They had no right to go through your things!!!!! Did you ask where they got the key? I would figure out how much they cost you in getting rid of your stuff and "bill" them. That ought to make them think twice next time. 
. She probably genuinely thinks she's being nice, but I wonder what other weird stuff she does. 
