Oh dear

[dakcp2001]

I havent been loving my new job, for those of you that have seen my prev posts. They job I was offered is not the job I got and the pay is lower and instead of days I was put on nights due to staffing issues. I have been interviewing and looking elswehere. I have been checking off the "NO" in the "May we contact your current employer" box and for explanation I have explained that I plan to give adequate notice but have not told them I am leaving yet. Well yesterday I had an interview that went really well. She asked me about my current job, I explained in simple terms, not a good fit, will tell them when I plan to leave. Well she called me today and apologized profusely for having called them. She said it was an accident and that they were very upset to hear I was looking elswhere. She said they were checking dates & references and her assistant accidentally called the one I had checked NO to. She told me to be prepared that they are understandably upset. While I appreciate her calling to warn me, I have to work tomorrow. Ugh. It is going to be a difficult day tomorrow I am hoping I dont get fired. On the other hand, the other place seems to be prepared to make me an offer but it appears as though it will pay much less than what I make now. UGH. And I do not have the offer in hand yet. I am so frustrated. This will be the icing on the cake for a job I already dread.

 

[handinpocket]

They didn't do this on accident. Nice of her to warn you, but a bitter pill to swallow if there is no offer. Sending good wishes.

 

[dislaney]

Wow that is horrible. At least they warned you and you didn't walk in tomorrow without knowing. No real advice but I hope you find another job soon. I know it really stinks to have a job you can't stand.

 

[chloelovesdisney]

Oh sorry, that stinks!

 

[dakcp2001]

They didn't do this on accident. Nice of her to warn you, but a bitter pill to swallow if there is no offer. Sending good wishes.

My df thinks this is her way of getting me to accept her lower offer. She had mentioned that their offer will be lower than what I currently make. Our conversation today ended with " I am so sorry, I have never had this happen before, but you will have something in writing from us by Monday at the latest"

But she sounded sincere and embarrased. I dont know this is what I get for being honest, I was going to leave my current job off my resume and not tell anyone about it since I have only been there a few months.

 

[PollyannaMom]

My df thinks this is her way of getting me to accept her lower offer. She had mentioned that their offer will be lower than what I currently make. Our conversation today ended with " I am so sorry, I have never had this happen before, but you will have something in writing from us by Monday at the latest"

But she sounded sincere and embarrased. I dont know this is what I get for being honest, I was going to leave my current job off my resume and not tell anyone about it since I have only been there a few months.

I think it was probably a mistake. We live in such a busy world that she was probably interrupted in the middle of the calls, and just went back to the next one on the list without really looking at the boxes. There are two good things that could come from this:
1) old place gets scared because they have really liked your work, and magically finds a day shift position for you
2) new place finds a way to offer you a bit more money than they had really intended because they feel guilty.

Hopefully, it will be one of those, but I know it's hard not to worry! Best of luck!

 

[Mama-san]

Oooooh, I know you're gonna love going into work this morning! Maybe since your current employer knows you are looking for other jobs, this can be a opportunity for "the airing of the grievances" and possibly make this job more tolerable. I hope everything works out for you!!

 

[anniemae]

Ouch. I think it probably was just an accident, and I hope the assistant that made the call got chewed out, although I am sure she feels awful. They better make you an offer!

Let us know how it goes today. Just try to keep busy and stay out of everyones way.

 

[tlbwriter]

REally? They were "upset?? They gave you a job that was not anything promised and they are upset you are looking?

No kidding. I'd say "Of course I'm looking. You offered me one job and gave me another. You offered me one pay rate and gave me another. You offered me one shift and gave me another. What on earth makes you think I'd be happy with you?"

 

[momof1princess]

No kidding. I'd say "Of course I'm looking. You offered me one job and gave me another. You offered me one pay rate and gave me another. You offered me one shift and gave me another. What on earth makes you think I'd be happy with you?"

MTE!

OP, i hope your day goes smoothly.

 

[LuvOrlando]

Uh-oh, I hope everything works out for you in the end. Just keep smiling and if provoked, don't take the bait and give them a reason to fire you.

 

[BCDisneyFanatic]

No kidding. I'd say "Of course I'm looking. You offered me one job and gave me another. You offered me one pay rate and gave me another. You offered me one shift and gave me another. What on earth makes you think I'd be happy with you?"

+1

Sometimes things have a way of working out for the best. I hope the new job offer comes through, and that it's in at an acceptable pay grade. To me, it sounds like it might be worth a bit of a cut in pay for a better work environment.

 

[robinb]

Oooooh, I know you're gonna love going into work this morning! Maybe since your current employer knows you are looking for other jobs, this can be a opportunity for "the airing of the grievances" and possibly make this job more tolerable. I hope everything works out for you!!

What? Is it Festivus already?!?

I agree. I know I am looking on the "happy, clappy" side of things but this may be an opportunity for you. If they like you then they now know they need to step up and make things better for you if they want you to stay.

On a related note, I am sick and tired of employers screwing their employees and the employees feeling like they need to take whatever the employer dishes out (like a lower wage than was promised, a different job than promised and a different shift than promised) just to keep a job ... any job. It sucks that you are in that situation and I am angry for you .

 

[WDSearcher]

No kidding. I'd say "Of course I'm looking. You offered me one job and gave me another. You offered me one pay rate and gave me another. You offered me one shift and gave me another. What on earth makes you think I'd be happy with you?"

I get this, but somewhere along the line the OP said "yes" to all of those conditions. If the job she got wasn't the job she was offered, she had the opportunity to walk away. If they promised one pay rate and gave another ... she had the opportunity to walk away. If they offered one shift and gave another .... she had the opportunity to walk away. Every time she did what they gave her -- instead of what she was offered -- she was telling them it was okay to treat her like that.

Both parties erred here, IMO.

As for the other job -- if it pays less than what you want, DON'T TAKE IT. Tell them, thank you, but that's not adequate compensation for the job you want me to do. Stop just accepting what people give you without pushing back.

 

[tlbwriter]

I get this, but somewhere along the line the OP said "yes" to all of those conditions. If the job she got wasn't the job she was offered, she had the opportunity to walk away. If they promised one pay rate and gave another ... she had the opportunity to walk away. If they offered one shift and gave another .... she had the opportunity to walk away. Every time she did what they gave her -- instead of what she was offered -- she was telling them it was okay to treat her like that.

I assume she took the job anyway because she needed a job, and that her version of "not taking it" is to quickly find another job rather than reject this one.

 

[WDSearcher]

I assume she took the job anyway because she needed a job, and that her version of "not taking it" is to quickly find another job rather than reject this one.

I get that too, but whether she did it because she needed a job or for some other reason, she still agreed to whatever those conditions were. No one can take advantage of you unless you let them.

 

[npmommie]

My df thinks this is her way of getting me to accept her lower offer. She had mentioned that their offer will be lower than what I currently make. Our conversation today ended with " I am so sorry, I have never had this happen before, but you will have something in writing from us by Monday at the latest"

But she sounded sincere and embarrased. I dont know this is what I get for being honest, I was going to leave my current job off my resume and not tell anyone about it since I have only been there a few months.

OP you are a nurse right? don't take a lower salary than you are worth,, do you know the going rate in the area you work?
do not take lower, stand up for yourself

 

[C.Ann]

Hope they don't give you too much trouble and you end up with the new job instead.. Even if it pays less, you can still look elsewhere while working in the new position.. I don't think there's any laws against that..

Good luck!

 

[dakcp2001]

I get this, but somewhere along the line the OP said "yes" to all of those conditions. If the job she got wasn't the job she was offered, she had the opportunity to walk away. If they promised one pay rate and gave another ... she had the opportunity to walk away. If they offered one shift and gave another .... she had the opportunity to walk away. Every time she did what they gave her -- instead of what she was offered -- she was telling them it was okay to treat her like that.

Both parties erred here, IMO.

As for the other job -- if it pays less than what you want, DON'T TAKE IT. Tell them, thank you, but that's not adequate compensation for the job you want me to do. Stop just accepting what people give you without pushing back.

I relocated here for this job offer, and signed a lease. So I am stuck with it until I find something else. That doesnt mean I accepted their crap, it means I am taking it until I can find something better which will be sooner rather than later. Are you one of those evil HR people that makes all the promises & then doesnt deliver? Because from your post I am guessing you are.


BTW I am on my way into work in a few, I have a message on my voicemail from the director saying "we need to talk" and it was not a friendly message. I of course was sleeping because I work nights. Oh and I am also working the day after Thanksgiving, Christmas Eve, Christmas, NYE & New Years. Not quite the rotation I was offered so I would LOVE to give my two weeks any day now. I asked the director to fix the holiday schedule and she said I need to try to swap. Surprisingly no one wants to work any of my holiday shifts. This is not a place I will stay, especially now that I see how high the turnover and burnout rate is. Plus I am working some nights and some days, and it is making me a zombie. I cant do both!

I have 2 interviews next week and I did recieve 2 more messages from the job that sold me out today, an apology vm from the assistant and another from the interviewer stating that the offer letter will be in my inbox by close of business, which I think is 5pm?

Off to work in an hour, wish me luck. I am not going to quit, but if they fire me, then heck Ill have the holidays off. ANd more time to prepare for my interviews. I want to quit so bad, but I need the paycheck.

NPmommie- New grads dont have much bargaining power these days, but I am def going to counter offer if the offer is too low. I think the quality of life at the other job would be better, but the commute will be tough. Id rather make less and be happy, but I still need anough to pay the bills.

 

[krcit]

Good luck!!