Oh Baby!

[allamericancheergirl]

My best friend just told me yesterday that she might me having a baby with her neighbor (who she isn't even dating) who may I remind you is 15! And she is only 13! I have no idea what to do! She is so nervous. I really need your help! She asked me to put this up here so she can get some help! PLEASE HELP!!!


Kate

 

[AngienLuLu]

Wow, that's some pretty crazy stuff. I really don't know what to say...

 

[PG Sweetie]

when you say she might be, is she pregnant or is she thinking about getting pregnant????

 

[Sparx]

Mmmkay, I'm assuming she's had sex and her period is late. But you have to remember, most 13 year old girls aren't like clockwork. I suggest a cheap pregnancy test, and a talk with her mother. If she is in fact pregnant, she's got some important decisions to make. If shes not, I hope she realizes that she's not ready for sex if she's not ready for the obvious consequences.

 

[PG Sweetie]

Mmmkay, I'm assuming she's had sex and her period is late. But you have to remember, most 13 year old girls aren't like clockwork. I suggest a cheap pregnancy test, and a talk with her mother. If she is in fact pregnant, she's got some important decisions to make. If shes not, I hope she realizes that she's not ready for sex if she's not ready for the obvious consequences.

Very well said.

Also wanted to add that if she is pregnant she needs to figure out what her beliefs about what to do are. No one can tell her what decision to make. If she believes that abortion is the right choice for her than that is what she should do, I personally wouldn't do that but she has to decide for herself. If she decides to have the baby just make sure that she always has someone there to support her because it will not be easy for her.

And as Shelby said she needs to talk to her parents or just her mom if that's easier for her. Also if she is having trouble dealing with what could be the result of the sex than she was obviously not ready for it and she needs to realize that. She has to understand that this is something she will have to deal with for the rest of her life wether she's pregnant or not.

I hope that everything works out for your friend.

 

[PrincessKally]

OKay, well like both Tara and Shelby stated, she has some very important decisions she needs to make. First she needs to speak with her mother, and have a pregancy test done, one that you buy from the store. Then you need to go from there, at 13 girls periods are not on a very secure cycle, they vary alot.

Now even though a 13 year old girls reproductive system is ready for a baby, a 13 year old girl is not emotionally ready, or even 100% physically ready. The younger you are the harder it is to give birth. At 13 she will have a very difficult time giving birth. But if you go with abortion there is a chance she could never have a baby again. Basically it is a lose lose situation.

I'm very sorry for you because you have to go through this, thats to young too deal with such emotional stress. Even at 15, 16, 17 and 18 thats a big load to carry. Good luck with everything.

 

[meeshheartsdisney217]

no flaming.

but why if you have an abortion can you maybe not have another child?

 

[poconoboatniks]

She had it about a year ago. Then she had it about 3 weeks ago. On Monday she went to the doctor's and he said that she might be pregnant. She can't talk to her mom about it because if she does she will be kicked out of the house and her step dad will beat the living fire out of her. Her sister went with her so only me her and her sister know about it. She said if she is pregnant that she is not going to get an abortion. "That's just out of the question." she said.

Kate

 

[allamericancheergirl]

Sorry the computer logged me on to my mom's account. OOOOPS!

Kate

 

[daughter_of_amid_chaos]

She had it about a year ago. Then she had it about 3 weeks ago. On Monday she went to the doctor's and he said that she might be pregnant. She can't talk to her mom about it because if she does she will be kicked out of the house and her step dad will beat the living fire out of her. Her sister went with her so only me her and her sister know about it. She said if she is pregnant that she is not going to get an abortion. "That's just out of the question." she said.

Kate

Well see now every single person on the public DIS forum knows too...I know you didnt give her name but you have given enough information where someone could possibly figure it out if they know the girl.

 

[pigletgirl]

The only really that you can do is just be there for your friend. I'm really sorry to hear that.

 

[Sparx]

no flaming.

but why if you have an abortion can you maybe not have another child?

when you get an abortion, most of the time the equivalent of a BC pill is put inside the ******l canal. that is incredibly dangerous. That concentration of hormones in a place like that is enough to make you infertile. Sometimes abortions aren't preformed by the best doctor either.

Its been awhile since I've studied them, so this info may be a tad outdated. feel free to correct me.

EDIT:
I love how we can't use anatomically correct terms here. thats just fantastic.

 

[PG Sweetie]

Just curious as to why the doctor couldn't tell her if she was actually pregnant or not. They should have been able to give her a definate answer. And she needs to tell her mom regardless of the consequences because they would find out eventually and personally if I were her parents I would want to know right away not find out later.

 

[pigletgirl]

I wanted to add to Shelby's post, but it also scars the uterus, and all the surrounding areas.

 

[Mickey1122]

I agree with Tara...this doesn't seem like the kind of thing she should be hiding.

 

[Vannah]

Like other posters have stated, her parents will find out. I don't really know much, but a girl in my science class had her baby on Thanksgiving, she is adorable. But still, it's not right having a baby at 13.

 

[StephaBabe50]

I agree with what everyone is saying, she
needs to find out for sure, make her own
decision, tell her parents, and find out
what she is going to do. But as her best
friend the best thing you can do is be
there for her

 

[StitchfansJr]

Hmm.. I wonder if they have a video about this of Maury on YouTube. There are several episodes about this.
EDIT: This is close.. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=px4Q8jEjBnI If she doesn't tell her mom this could happen to her.

 

[BeachBabi0]

ok i know there are probably people who are going to hate me for saying this, but i think she needs to tell her parents and get an abortion. tell only her parents and the neighbors parents. having a kid will ruin her life, if it doesnt kill her.

 

[StitchfansJr]

ok i know there are probably people who are going to hate me for saying this, but i think she needs to tell her parents and get an abortion. tell only her parents and the neighbors parents. having a kid will ruin her life, if it doesnt kill her.

Too bad I can't find the right Maury video. Listen, if she does have a baby, no doubt she'll be one of those girls that says "I can't do my schoolwork and take care of a baby!" *cry cry* *sob sob*
No doubt about it!