offering your seat up on the bus???

[GEM]

In October, we left DTD on a full bus. I was standing holding my 37 lb. 2 year old on my right hip. I was swaying all over the place holding on with my left arm in the strap hanging from above. Not one single solitary person offered their seat to me! You cannot tell me that every single person on that bus had a hidden medical condition.

I finally said out loud to DH "let's remember this when Zack is older - we don't offer seats to mothers holding toddlers!"

I'm sure that was very effective.

What you should have said was, "Let's remember next time not to get onto a packed bus expecting others to accomodate us because we were too impatient to wait."

Or, was that the absolute last bus leaving Downtown Disney that evening?

Our secretary has a sign over here desk that says, "A lack of planning on your part does not constitute an emergency on my part." That seems to apply here.

 

[Boater]

A wise man once said:
"Chivalry is dead, and women killed it"

 

[maddhatir]

A wise man once said:
"Chivalry is dead, and women killed it"

not this woman.....

 

[MetalPrincess]

Exactly! My DH will offer his seat to an elderly person (man or women), or a person holding a child, or a small child. He doesn't automatically offer his seat to a female--neither of us see the need for him to stand while a woman sits. Ya'll want equal rights--you've got them LOL!

Anne

Amen to that! I totally agree.

 

[Tigger_Magic]

Our secretary has a sign over here desk that says, "A lack of planning on your part does not constitute an emergency on my part." That seems to apply here.

When we visit Disney, we are very careful to manage our expectations, which includes not projecting what we expect onto others. If a bus pulls up and it's already pretty full, we don't board expecting anyone to give us their seat. It's first come, first seated -- everyone else stands. If you want a seat, wait for the next bus. If you gotta get on THIS bus, be prepared to stand (and hang on!).

 

[mytwotinks]

A wise man once said:
"Chivalry is dead, and women killed it"

It wasn't me! If this topic had come up with a group from around where I live, the outcome would have been much different! I guess I am lucky to live in a part of the country where chivalry is not dead! At least not like it seems to be in other areas!

 

[Boater]

It wasn't me! If this topic had come up with a group from around where I live, the outcome would have been much different! I guess I am lucky to live in a part of the country where chivalry is not dead! At least not like it seems to be in other areas!

I for one still open the door for my wife, still pull out the chair, let her sit at the bar when there's only one seat. Do all the things men should do.
I would give up my seat for those needing it on a bus (if I were ever on a bus).
It's the Nor'easters that killed it.

 

[LSchrow]

A wise man once said:
"Chivalry is dead, and women killed it"

aw, pooh......
that's one man i prob would NOT hold the door open for

bottom line (IMHO, of course) is that RAOK's are just plain ol' nice. when you get the opportunity to do a kind act, let your heart lead you & ignore the naysayers (of course, RAOKs should NOT involve expectations from others ~ reciprocation, or expecting someone to follow your lead ~ do it because we're all (hopefully ) still human & should care about one another...........of all the things we've taught our children, simple courtesy is one of the most important )

 

[DMRick]

It's the Nor'easters that killed it.

I hope you are kidding..since that's just not true.

 

[Boater]

I hope you are kidding..since that's just not true.

Of course I was..................
I'm sorry I offended anyone from Boston

 

[AllyBri]

A wise man once said:
"Chivalry is dead, and women killed it"

Isn't it just like a man to blame a women.

 

[maddhatir]

I for one still open the door for my wife, still pull out the chair, let her sit at the bar when there's only one seat. Do all the things men should do.
I would give up my seat for those needing it on a bus (if I were ever on a bus).
It's the Nor'easters that killed it.

Hey wait---I am from the Northeast and i am the one who started all this trouble! definitely not us!

hey, but maybe you have a point! maybe its IS SOME of the WOMEN in the NE that killed it (not all of us are responsible), that is what the OP quoted WOMEN KILLED IT- they seem to be the ones who have most of the problems with my post-- but that might be b/c there are more women on the boards than men.

and everyone...again- we are not just talking about seats on the DISNEY bus and if there is room! what happens if you are on the subway etc- and you dont have the option to wait for the next one?? we are talking reality-- not just our disney trips!

and-- of course you hold the door for your wife etc- again that is just being kind (but i guess there are some guys who dont ..but anyway)

i think the answer to my question keeps getting off track- and reverts back to the disney bus.

I think its funny because i am reading the posts from a lot of women regarding not expecting men to get up for them (of course my husband is one who offers his seat to any disabled person and woman - w/ child, disabled or other)...he SAID "WAIT A MINUTE- IF I KNEW THEY ALL FEEL THIS WAY--S*** (aka crap) MY NEXT TRIP I AM NOT GETTING UP FOR ANYBODY"!!! .....of course he was just kidding!....BUT THERE YOU HAVE IT-- JUST WHY CHIVALRY MAY BE GONE!

 

[goofy4tink]

Okay then....lets talk about being on the subway, here in beautiful Boston. If I get on and have to stand, I do not expect anyone to get up and offer me a seat...same for the train or a bus. If I am seated, and an elderly person gets on, and has to stand, then I am on my feet offering my seat to them. Same thing if they are disabled in some way. Now....if a mom gets on with her baby and a folded up stroller (not something you see very much on public transportation) I would most likely get up and offer her my seat.

The difference is...at WDW there is another bus coming, and you can pretty easily see if there will be room for you, your kids and your stroller. We're comparing apples to oranges here.

 

[Kristi1357]

Now....if a mom gets on with her baby and a folded up stroller (not something you see very much on public transportation) I would most likely get up and offer her my seat.

The difference is...at WDW there is another bus coming, and you can pretty easily see if there will be room for you, your kids and your stroller. We're comparing apples to oranges here.

There is always another T coming too...
I really think the mom should wait for the next one.

(sorry, I just can't resist! )

 

[goofy4tink]

There is always another T coming too...
I really think the mom should wait for the next one.

(sorry, I just can't resist! )

Ah now....come on....no !!!

 

[Tigger_Magic]

With few exceptions, other's expectations do not determine my actions, whether at Disney or on public transportation I use every day.

 

[JodyTG]

Actually, sometimes the next bus coming will be no less full than the current bus. Some of the hotels have multiple stops and you just have to get on and take your chances.

I remember a few years ago, when I was 7 months pregnant (what was I thinking?) that all the buses to the parks were standing room only. We'd waited out a few previous buses and realized that we'd never get to the park unless we just get on.

So...on the bus we go, standing room only. I looked around to see if there was a seat, any seat, anywhere on the bus and couldn't help but notice quite a few men acting as if they were avoiding eye contact with me. (Remember, I was looking for a "seat" not a "man".) Right before the bus left, a gentleman wearing a WWII Veteran cap stood up and told me to take his seat. Since I felt that he looked as if he needed the seat more, I told him, "Thank you, but I'm okay." He then told me, "Great, then we can stand up together because I'm not sitting with you standing. My mother would have God strike me down if I didn't offer you my seat."

We laughed it off and I sat down. The gentleman and my husband (a Desert Storm veteran) began talking about military life when a few teenagers tried to talk to them and ask questions. The gentleman told them that the military is no place for men who don't understand honor.

I think this about sums it up.

 

[maddhatir]

Actually, sometimes the next bus coming will be no less full than the current bus. Some of the hotels have multiple stops and you just have to get on and take your chances.

I remember a few years ago, when I was 7 months pregnant (what was I thinking?) that all the buses to the parks were standing room only. We'd waited out a few previous buses and realized that we'd never get to the park unless we just get on.

So...on the bus we go, standing room only. I looked around to see if there was a seat, any seat, anywhere on the bus and couldn't help but notice quite a few men acting as if they were avoiding eye contact with me. (Remember, I was looking for a "seat" not a "man".) Right before the bus left, a gentleman wearing a WWII Veteran cap stood up and told me to take his seat. Since I felt that he looked as if he needed the seat more, I told him, "Thank you, but I'm okay." He then told me, "Great, then we can stand up together because I'm not sitting with you standing. My mother would have God strike me down if I didn't offer you my seat."

We laughed it off and I sat down. The gentleman and my husband (a Desert Storm veteran) began talking about military life when a few teenagers tried to talk to them and ask questions. The gentleman told them that the military is no place for men who don't understand honor.

I think this about sums it up.

BRAVO!! great story!!

the "no eye contact thing" is just sad.

 

[Karnak]

It's dead as far as I'm concerned. Last time I visited NYC I held the door open for a lady coming into Macy's. Her hatefull comment as she brushed by me was "You think I can't open a door? Jerk!"

Guess it's time for equal rights across the board.

 

[mickeyfan2]

Actually, sometimes the next bus coming will be no less full than the current bus. Some of the hotels have multiple stops and you just have to get on and take your chances.

I remember a few years ago, when I was 7 months pregnant (what was I thinking?) that all the buses to the parks were standing room only. We'd waited out a few previous buses and realized that we'd never get to the park unless we just get on.

So...on the bus we go, standing room only. I looked around to see if there was a seat, any seat, anywhere on the bus and couldn't help but notice quite a few men acting as if they were avoiding eye contact with me. (Remember, I was looking for a "seat" not a "man".) Right before the bus left, a gentleman wearing a WWII Veteran cap stood up and told me to take his seat. Since I felt that he looked as if he needed the seat more, I told him, "Thank you, but I'm okay." He then told me, "Great, then we can stand up together because I'm not sitting with you standing. My mother would have God strike me down if I didn't offer you my seat."

We laughed it off and I sat down. The gentleman and my husband (a Desert Storm veteran) began talking about military life when a few teenagers tried to talk to them and ask questions. The gentleman told them that the military is no place for men who don't understand honor.

I think this about sums it up.

This sure does sum it all up.