off topic but please hug your children and tell them you love them today

[DisneyBishops]

Thanks again for all the kind words.

 

[auntie]

Thanks for checking in Dan. You're never far from our thoughts here...we're all praying for you. We're here to listen, when you need us to.

 

[disney4dan]

Never until now have I ever really pondered the thought of my children leaving this world.....never untill now have I even given thought to how hard the reality must actually be. Of coarse, in brief thoughts I KNEW losing a child MUST be difficult...how could something like that be easy for anyone...but .....not until now has it hit so close to my life. Dan.......Thank you. Thank you for giving us the insight to just how real the possibility of this happening to ANYONE OF US....at ANY GIVEN SECOND truelly is. Ive shed tears for you because of the feeling you've allowed us to know about , I couldnt hold them back, strangely enough. I thought, this is just a guy I know through the web...hes just words on a screen.....right? But thats NOT right, thats not right at all. Ive always thought you were obviously a swell guy...always quick with the wit with a hand on th trigger ready to shoot a smile or laugh at us, and its easy to make people laugh for some. But to bring tears to our eyes, Dan....that takes MORE THAN WORDS ON A SCREEN...that takes MORE than "some guy from the web" can do. I consider you a "friend" in the truest form of the word Dan, simply because youve allowed US to be your friends in your toughest time. Dropping your defenses, and letting it out to us.....that....well.......thats more than I can say about most of my family.

Thank you for letting us get a slight idea of how it hurts to lose a child, so that we can love our children a little harder, hug them a little tighter, watch them sleep a little longer, and complain a little less about how hard it is to be a good parent.

So true, Rog. My heart breaks for you, Bishop Family and I feel somewhat guilty in knowing the second chance I have to enjoy my kids. Justin turned 18 this week and I was wondering if I would ever get him there. He just returned from going to get milk for us at the store - seems so simple and yet I would not have expected that 4 months ago.

 

[Millermouseketeers]

God Bless you, Dan and your family. I continue to pray for you. My heart breaks for you.

 

[LORNADUCK]

Rog, you put these feeling into words for me. I have been feeling so upset about this all week, people don't understand totally, but to have it happen to someone you know
I feel honored that Dan has shared his feelings with us, that is hard to do. It has made us all look at our kids in a different light. I have always said live for today because you never know if you have tomorrow.

 

[BRDof3]

Good morning Dan.

No magic words this morning, I just wanted you to hear that.

 

[4mickey2]

just a hug from us dan... please share it with your family.

 

[Dizney_Luver]

Still keeping your Family in our thoughts!

 

[Donna]

Dan,
i hope i am not too late to offer my sincere condolences. I don't read DIS that much these days but happened to open your post. You are such a strong person and have really helped us all through your posts. I feel like i've taken my kids for granted sometimes but I am going to change that from now on. You are living my worst nightmare and i cannot imagine the magnitude of pain. Thank you for waking me up about how important it is to savor each moment. You and your family are in my prayers. Take care, Dan.

 

[DisneyBishops]

Thanks again to everyone. Just seems that I have lost the will to go on. I would not wish this pain on my worst enemy. Always love your children no matter what they do. Jeff was such a light in my life. I miss him so much.

I know there is a reason for this but I sure can't fingure it out. Yes I am hurting.

Thanks again for letting me vent

 

[Gatordad]

Rog, those are some of the most honest and insightful words I have ever read on an internet forum. I am with you completely on that. Thank you for putting into words what I could not express, but that I feel.

Rog has that effect on people... Don't judge him by his cover.

 

[Gatordad]

Thanks again to everyone. Just seems that I have lost the will to go on. I would not wish this pain on my worst enemy. Always love your children no matter what they do. Jeff was such a light in my life. I miss him so much.

I know there is a reason for this but I sure can't fingure it out. Yes I am hurting.

Thanks again for letting me vent

I hope you can find peace in your heart and in your mind..... I will pray for you.

 

[auntie]

Thanks again to everyone. Just seems that I have lost the will to go on. I would not wish this pain on my worst enemy. Always love your children no matter what they do. Jeff was such a light in my life. I miss him so much.

I know there is a reason for this but I sure can't fingure it out. Yes I am hurting.

Thanks again for letting me vent

Praying for you Dan.
There is no reason for this kind of hurt. It just is. Figuring it out..well, it doesn't change anything. You're trying to make sense..out of the senseless.
When you think you can't go on..think of your girls. They need their dad. They need you more than they have ever needed you before. I realize this doesn't do anything for the ache in your heart..but by helping them..it will get you through to the next day..sometimes just the next minute.

I am praying for you.


I hope you will continue to check in here, and share with us how you're feeling. We all care so very much. Please know you can come here to vent anytime. We are all praying for you.

 

[cm8]

Thanks again to everyone. Just seems that I have lost the will to go on. I would not wish this pain on my worst enemy. Always love your children no matter what they do. Jeff was such a light in my life. I miss him so much.

I know there is a reason for this but I sure can't fingure it out. Yes I am hurting.

Thanks again for letting me vent

, still in our thoughts and prayers

 

[BRDof3]

Please keep checking in with us Dan, even if only to tell us to leave you alone. It will let us know you are still hanging in there.

Dad prayers still coming your way.

 

[Eeyore'sthebest]

Thanks again to everyone. Just seems that I have lost the will to go on. I would not wish this pain on my worst enemy. Always love your children no matter what they do. Jeff was such a light in my life. I miss him so much.

I know there is a reason for this but I sure can't fingure it out. Yes I am hurting.

Thanks again for letting me vent

I'll continue to pray for you and your family Dan.

 

[disney4dan]

... Just seems that I have lost the will to go on. I would not wish this pain on my worst enemy. ...
I know there is a reason for this but I sure can't fingure it out. Yes I am hurting.

Thanks again for letting me vent

Dan - venting is the solution. The will to go on must be your priority, and understand that this will give you a renewed outlook on life that will possibly be the greatest gift you could recieve from your son. That is the only explanation I have for this. It is not pretty; it is very ugly and painful. You have two daughters and a wife to be strong for, and this is a place for you to unload once in a while, but realize that you are needed and the strength will come back.

I am willing to share information about the struggle my son has gone through and how we manage to cope if you think it will help. We seem to come from similar experiences with Justin being 18 and having two siblings; but obviously our plight is no where near as painful.

Fresh air and sunshine
Listen to some comedies from your past that you used to enjoy
Take your daughters by the hand and dance

 

[VACAMPER]

Dan, I can't imagine your pain. i don't even have words but know we are all here for you.

 

[LORNADUCK]

Dan, no matter what we say we can't make the pain go away, but keep hanging on, there are people who love you and need you. You will find your own peace and we are here for you. Again I wish there was something I could do to help you thru this.

 

[des1954]

Dan - Somehow, you have to find strength to carry on. Just take one second at a time right now, and don't even think about tomorrow. That's just too overwhelming. Please, don't be a "man" and try to hold in your grief. Expose it and share it with your wife and daughters, and close friends. No one will judge you or think less of you. You will be amazed at the strength you will all gain by sharing your grief, your memories, your stories. Even though you feel as if your heart & soul has been ripped from your chest, it's still there....with Jeff safely guarded inside of it. His light will always shine in your heart - so let his light warm your spirit. He would want it that way.