If you dont want to be truly depressed - skip this thread
Yep - shes at it again.... Mother just come to the door and ruined my day
Guess her first sentance as she walked in the door? ..."When are we losing Ellis then?" (I told her we'd sold last night - I got an "oh" in response last night.)
When are we losing Ellis? - what kind of sentance is that??
She could have said congratulations on selling, or I pleased for you or I'll miss you all when you move...etc.... but no..... When are we losing Ellis.
My reply was "You're not...we're 10 minutes away and you'll see him just as much. I'll bring him to you or bring you to him, its not a problem. I've said it umpteen times already".
Then she fills up with tears....yeah...make ME feel guilty now why dont ya...
You know she didnt even ask me how I'd got on at the hospital the other day? Not even a "how was it?"
I am just the person who
finally produced a grandchild...now he's here I am not needed, listened to or thought of.
She can turn milk sour by just looking at it.
She then asks about the money I'm holding for her in a bank account - "what happens to that now?" she asks like I'm gonna steel it
- I would have loved to say "its gone - we used it as a deposit on the house". Of course I didnt say that but geez I was tempted. Instead I bit my tongue AGAIN and just told her I would change the address of the bank account and it would stay as it is. She didnt have to worry.
Is it me? - Am I being over sensitive? I know I have a lot on with the move, Ellis' school and my sister and possible match etc, but I am sick of being ignored or only spoken to when she needs something or wants Ellis to visit(not me).
As an example - I took Ellis to hers straight from the ballpit yesterday - it was awkward and I didnt really have time, but I did. She got him for an hour while I cooked his dinner ready for Beavers. I then had to rush him through dinner and to Beavers just so she could see him before the easter hols were over and he went back to school. Anyway, when I got there she called me into the kitchen, and there on the worktop were the plants that I had mail ordered as a gift for her over 3 weeks ago still in the original packaging and not even planted up. She showed me that 6 of the 9 had died and gone mouldy. Forgive me for stating the obvious here, but OF COURSE THEY'RE NOW BLOODY MOULDY - You've left them in the packaging for 3 weeks. Now I know its not the plants cos I ordered 18 - (9 each) and mine are flourishing and really healthy. She insists that they were like it when she got them...they werent - the packaging is clear - you can see the plants through the box - I checked them before she had them - I even gave her the biggest plants. She is really good usually with plants - she can get anything to grow, so it must have been deliberate
. I took them away and rang Guernsey where I had ordered them from, lied on her behalf
and they said they would send more plants, but could not guarantee the exact same ones as they were a special brand new species of her favourite flower - fuscia (which is why I bought them for her as a treat) might be out of stock. I rang her to tell her and she moaned about them possibly being different.
I tell you...from now on I do nothing...I dont try anymore to please her...I dont go out of my way to do things she might like...I give up.
Sorry, rant over, just felt like offloading.
It must be easier being an orphan.
- I can do noon
. and half day at Blizzard and Typhoon. 
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