The church we have attended for 10 years has never once gotten anywhere remotely close to any of the topics you're discussing. The most controversial thing the minister has said was that it would be wise to focus less on making money and acquiring things and spend more time with our familes. He's soooooo outrageous, that one!
Every week, he says a prayer for our political leaders....a generic prayer. I pay attention carefully because I'm a Democrat living in a 90% Republican town and if I started hearing "Republican" prayers, I'd be gone. But it has never happened. The closest we ever came was an elder who clearly had a bias and alluded to favoritism, but you would have had to have been paying very close attention to have noticed it. And he only did it once, because he was never given the chance to say the prayer again. I'm pretty sure the minister shut him down and told him we weren't going to play that game at this church. Every week, we say a prayer for some other church in town, that their ministry will thrive and that they will be able to help the community and do God's work. Only rarely are they of the same denomination as we are, so we spread it around.
This is the church we chose to attend just after we bolted from the church where the minister took a position on President Clinton's impeachment and sent a letter to all members and regular visitors like us regarding such. We were on the verge on joining, but nixed that idea after this very charismatic minister (who is so much a part of the church that he might as well BE the church...sound familiar?) pulled that stunt. The handwriting was on the wall that he was ready and willing to use his position as the minister to influence church members. No thanks. I let him know why we would not be attending again. He didn't use hateful words, but he took a political position and worse yet IMHO, made a legally flawed argument

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) and we want no part of such as church. There are better ones out there.
I don't want to have to do "damage control" with my child after church services. I want to be able to support what my minister says.

There's mild disagreement, strong disagreement and words/beliefs that are so abhorrent that they do require me to stand up, take my child's hand and walk down the aisle and out the door. That is the example I want to set for her. If someone....especially someone in authority...says something as offensive as Rev. Wright did, I would teach her that it is our
duty to stand up for what WE believe in and walk out. If we were absent one week and the grapevine let me know that such things had been said, I'd get confirmation and then I wouldn't go back. Why? I'd be afraid it would happen again, and THIS time my child would hear it. And I'd never want her to think we agreed with those words.
It is not in my nature to give tacit approval and just sit there. In school, I didn't sign petitions....I started them. My parents taught me to stand up for what you believe in, even when it is not popular. Hey, it's not fun being one of the 10% of Democrats in this town, but I'm sticking to it.
From reading these posts, it seems that there are quite a number of people who truly
would not walk out, let alone quit a church over these things. But that group needs to understand that for those of us who cannot fathom how a person could continue to stay, our position is not a false one meant for effect. It is what we would really do and several of us (on various threads) have given instances of doing exactly that.
And that for us, it is hard to imagine a person who wants our vote for POTUS not being the kind of person who would also stand up, walk out and not go back....whether he heard it in person or found out about it through the grapevine. Perhaps we envision a POTUS made of the stuff that would take an uncomfortable stand ASAP, even against a longtime friend, over something so disturbing as the sermons he delivered. Because doing the right thing is HARD. And I want a POTUS who can and will do the right thing, and do it before his back is up against a wall. .