November 2012 Trip planners #4~almost Disney time! Everyone welcome!

[princesshope1982]

my mo is what we would call "crazy" she doesnt think i should be able to do anything in life without doing it with her. So i know as soon as i tell her it will be months of us fighting and not talking and just making my life miserable


She would never have come with us because she hates dh and wouldnt have pitched in to pay for the trip but still would have expected me to pay for her and bring her along and not dh.

She will basically ruin this trip for dd and myself which is why i have put off telling her, but with 2 weeks to go i have to because i can not disappear for 2 weeks without her knowing.

 

[AquaDame]

my mo is what we would call "crazy" she doesnt think i should be able to do anything in life without doing it with her. So i know as soon as i tell her it will be months of us fighting and not talking and just making my life miserable


She would never have come with us because she hates dh and wouldnt have pitched in to pay for the trip but still would have expected me to pay for her and bring her along and not dh.

She will basically ruin this trip for dd and myself which is why i have put off telling her, but with 2 weeks to go i have to because i can not disappear for 2 weeks without her knowing.

I would get it over with, all waiting ever seems to do for me is increase the dread. I like getting it over with and am VERY well versed in fighting with family. Over the last year I have just come to terms with the silent treatment, and actually prefer it to fighting with them. I can get on gettin' on with my life, y'know? All you can do is point out it is your money, and she should be happy that you both love and want to spend time together, period. If she wants to go she either needs to pay her way or learn to play nice.

Bottom line: toxic people are toxic, and I can't go through life chanting family family family as a way to force me to take it. I won't. Much happier! Good luck!

 

[Divaofdisney]

I would get it over with, all waiting ever seems to do for me is increase the dread. I like getting it over with and am VERY well versed in fighting with family. Over the last year I have just come to terms with the silent treatment, and actually prefer it to fighting with them. I can get on gettin' on with my life, y'know? All you can do is point out it is your money, and she should be happy that you both love and want to spend time together, period. If she wants to go she either needs to pay her way or learn to play nice.

Bottom line: toxic people are toxic, and I can't go through life chanting family family family as a way to force me to take it. I won't. Much happier! Good luck!

I agree, do it today...why wait!! I have my issues too within the family....luckily though I don't let it stop me from enjoying what I have worked hard to have for all these months. I work very hard all year and this year has been particularly bad because I was out of work for nearly 5months and that put us wayyyy behind. Just being able to afford this trip is a miracle in itself. I feel very blessed to be able to make this special trip with just my DH and my girls. We are basically all we have- as my DH has no surviving family and what little family I have don't even know I'm alive nor do they care. Bottom line....Don't let anyone rob you of your joy and happiness because if they do, then they have won. I try to always remember that.

 

[princesshope1982]

this is why i love you guys ..i dont feel so alone now. i have a family christening tonight and after that i will have to find some way to tell her.


lol any ideas

i wonder if i could get mickey to make a call for me lmao

 

[disneychic2]

Good Morning everyone!! 25 days and counting for us. My DH leaves on the 12 th flying down to Pensacola then driving with my daughter Sarah to WDW on 14th meeting us there. So excited. Hope that those who are having pain and other physical issues can still go and have great time!! I have 4 small herniated discs in my back so I know my limitations as I can't walk for long periods of time because ill get pain that goes into my hips. We plan on doing the parks in morning till after lunch then come back to hotel to rest and go back later in day or evening. There's just no way I can last all day and night.

This is pretty much what DH and I do anyway, just because we like it that way. It keeps us rested and relaxed.

my mo is what we would call "crazy" she doesnt think i should be able to do anything in life without doing it with her. So i know as soon as i tell her it will be months of us fighting and not talking and just making my life miserable


She would never have come with us because she hates dh and wouldnt have pitched in to pay for the trip but still would have expected me to pay for her and bring her along and not dh.

She will basically ruin this trip for dd and myself which is why i have put off telling her, but with 2 weeks to go i have to because i can not disappear for 2 weeks without her knowing.

I'm so sorry you have that kind of toxic relationship with your mom! I can't imagine what heartache that must bring. I understand holding off telling her since it will make your last couple of weeks miserable.

Once you do tell her, try not to get sucked into her manipulation tactics. Just smile and nod and don't respond. She cannot ruin the trip if you don't allow it. She only has as much power over you as you give her. I know it's easy for me to say, but I genuinely care that she would be so controlling and mean spirited. I'll be saying prayers for you meanwhile!


Also, for those of you who have relationship problems with family, my heart goes out to you as well. That can't be an easy way to live.

 

[Eeyores#1Fan]

I would get it over with, all waiting ever seems to do for me is increase the dread. I like getting it over with and am VERY well versed in fighting with family. Over the last year I have just come to terms with the silent treatment, and actually prefer it to fighting with them. I can get on gettin' on with my life, y'know? All you can do is point out it is your money, and she should be happy that you both love and want to spend time together, period. If she wants to go she either needs to pay her way or learn to play nice.

Bottom line: toxic people are toxic, and I can't go through life chanting family family family as a way to force me to take it. I won't. Much happier! Good luck!

I agree with you 100% go ahead and tell her now. Although I can sympathize TOTALLY with princesshope1982! I moved my mom in with us a few years ago and OMG it's like having another kid. Just yesterday I told her 'last minute' that we won't be home this weekend and she freaked out! She just does not think I should make plans with my husband and kids and NOT include her. Now she does get along with DH BUT on the same note she works all our nerves with her whining at times. She also smokes and we don't so her wanting to ride with us isn't always desired from our end. ) Anyway as soon as I said that she freaked and looked like oh so you were just going to leave me here. In the end she asked if she could come and I said yes but ONLY because we are going to see my baby sister and her new baby.

All in all they call me the *itch of the family and I'm OK with that! Be mad and don't talk to me and I'm even happier.

 

[squirrel4569]

this is why i love you guys ..i dont feel so alone now. i have a family christening tonight and after that i will have to find some way to tell her.


lol any ideas

i wonder if i could get mickey to make a call for me lmao

Sorry to hear you have to deal with that and I can relate some. Putting on my faux therapist's hat I'll say that she has to own her own junk and you should feel comfortable knowing that you are not responsible for how she feels!

My wife has the people pleasing gene which doesn't go well with my MIL's guilt gene so I've seen that kind of thing play out in front of me often. My wife is moderately upset that her mom isn't coming with us to WDW, as my mom went with us last time, but the difference is that my mom paid her own way and my wife wanted me to pay for or loan my MIL the money. I wasn't willing to do it so she was a little peeved about that but I think in the long run it's for the best. Enjoy your trip with your family and don't let anyone else take your happiness away! *hugs*

4 weeks from today we're leaving for WDW!

 

[dillydilly]

AHHHH 16 days. Feeling very stressed and blah today.

Still havent told my mom and that is going to cause alot of issues and im worried about get into a fight with her. it is ruining my excitement

I am so sorry. Unfortunately we can totally relate. You are so not alone. I agree with the others, try not to let her steal your joy! I too have found that the silent treatment gives us the most peace.

 

[Smileybug]

35 days out and got Disney mail today!!!!!

 

[disney mom of 6]

Do you add yours from photobucket? That's where mine came from and when you click on the picture in your album, mouse over the top of the pic and it will give you the option to resize the pic. I chose 400x400. Hope that helps.

ETA: Look how close Mickey is to the edge of the castle in my ticker!!!!

I do use photobucket so I will try that next time. Thank you!

I shouldn't be on crutches but likely will have a brace on my ankle. I injured it a few years ago and had surgery on it to rebuild it. It had been quite fine for a while, but recently it had started swelling and becoming painful. I went back to the doctor and he gave me a shot and assigned physical therapy for the next few weeks. I also have a trip to Vegas coming soon which rivals walking at Disney as many of you know. It's not debilitating for the most part, but after a long day of walking and standing it can be somewhat miserable. Hopefully by the time Disney rolls around its better. I'll cope with it regardless.

I think you're right that they will be happy. I'm hoping we can catch the happy OMG moment on camera.

Spending time with my girls is a blessing for me. I didn't grow up with my dad so I take the job pretty seriously. We do have a lot of fun together so this weekend should be a lot of fun.

Sorry to hear about your foot. Praying it heals quickly!

Did you cancel this already?

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Yes, I cancelled it right at 9:00 last night.

AHHHH 16 days. Feeling very stressed and blah today.

Still havent told my mom and that is going to cause alot of issues and im worried about get into a fight with her. it is ruining my excitement

Sorry you feel stressed. I read the others comments and agree. You are a grown girl with a family and can do as you please. Don't give her the power to ruin it.

Your going to Disney!!!!!!!

 

[disney mom of 6]

35 days out and got Disney mail today!!!!!

Yay!!!!!!!

 

[aroundtheriverbend]

I would get it over with, all waiting ever seems to do for me is increase the dread. I like getting it over with and am VERY well versed in fighting with family. Over the last year I have just come to terms with the silent treatment, and actually prefer it to fighting with them. I can get on gettin' on with my life, y'know? All you can do is point out it is your money, and she should be happy that you both love and want to spend time together, period. If she wants to go she either needs to pay her way or learn to play nice.

Bottom line: toxic people are toxic, and I can't go through life chanting family family family as a way to force me to take it. I won't. Much happier! Good luck!

This is great advice

 

[aroundtheriverbend]

35 days out and got Disney mail today!!!!!

Hooray!!! can't wait!!!

 

[Divaofdisney]

35 days out and got Disney mail today!!!!!

Yay!!!! So exciting isn't it??? Not too much longer now. I just know the days are going to drag on till we leave. I so wanna go now but then I want to wait till its our time too!!

 

[anjalee6]

In exactly two weeks we will be in Disney in Epcot walking around Food and Wine (hopefully with a good drink) after eating dinner at San Angel Inn! Can't believe I can do online check in on Tuesday. Time is going so fast.

 

[Smileybug]

Yay!!!! So exciting isn't it??? Not too much longer now. I just know the days are going to drag on till we leave. I so wanna go now but then I want to wait till its our time too!!

This is exactly how I feel.

I still can't believe the trip was booked 464 days ago.

 

[FaerieFire]

AHHHH 16 days. Feeling very stressed and blah today.

Still havent told my mom and that is going to cause alot of issues and im worried about get into a fight with her. it is ruining my excitement

I know that feeling... I haven't told my dad we're going. He'd actually be willing to pay for this trip, but only if I waited another year, with the cash sitting in the bank, and we already put this trip off a year. I wasn't going to make DS wait another year... So, when he finds out, he's going to be peeved. Last time, he offered to pay, since DS and I had never had an actual vacation, and my sister found out and gave me grief afterward for having let him pay (he's not a pauper, and it was his idea and I made sure he really wanted to). It kind of retroactively ruined the trip for me. I decided not to tell her at all this time... But I'm determined to enjoy this trip, since we probably won't be able to go back for a while...

°o° Lace  Planning our second WDW adventure, 11/1-12 AoA-LM (Sent from my iPad using DISBoards)

 

[nmills]

32 days! It is really starting to come up quick... We spent all day working on our Disney shirts, I made a super cute one with a tie and suspenders with mickey ribbon, if I could figure out how to post pictures I would. Then I have 6 shirts with mickey heads and our names, I have the heads all done and just have to put the names on. I got a lot more accomplished then I thought I could and am quite proud of myself. My mom is making my DD a Minnie inspired dress and just has to put it together after we cut all the fabric cut out. Once that is done I can breath a little bit. I felt like it would never get done once I sat down and saw everything in front of me. I almost wish we had just bought shirts, but we saved a ton by making them and it will be special since I did them. I hope everyone feels better soon, my DH and I have been suffering from severe back pain so hopefully that gets under control before our trip. Have a great weekend everyone !

 

[MomofKatie]

We are down to less than 2 weeks- I can hardly believe it! I have been packing and getting items on my 'to do' lists checked off. Onlne checkin comes up on Monday!!

 

[Tulles]

3 weeks from today we'll be settling in at POR. Can't wait! Only thing between now and then is Halloween. That and the kid's swimming lessons, about 5 doctor's appointments and the rest of normal life. Lol