Nothing Thread

[wtpclc]

Morning all! I'll get the coffee going and pop tarts out this morning. Here's my "Story of the Morning".

I'm doing a baby shower fro SIL1 with SIL2. SIL2 was very gracious and tried to schedule so that I would not have to devote a whole weekend with the ILs for the shower. Very nice of her, as we seem to spend half our lives away from home. DH comes home from a solo trip to the ILs Sunday afternoon and happily informs me that the ILs will celebrate my b-day the day before the shower. Yes, it is very generous of them to give me a b-day meal, but they have not done that in years so I did not expect it. The look on my face informed him that I was not planning to be there the whole weekend. I feel bad because it's a nice thing to do, but not worth a whole extra say away from home in my eyes. Not to mention, it means I'l lbe head dishwasher for a 20+ person family meal. Color me an ingrate. Vote me out of the closet if you wish.

Thanks for letting me vent.

 

[jnrrt]

Oh, come on. They'd make you head dishwasher on your birthday? That's just not right.

Just do what my in-laws do. In a fit of being helpful, they will do all the dishes without allowing me ever to say no (which is very nice of them!) but then they put everything away in the wrong place so I can't find it, even if I've repeatedly done the, "Oh, no! Let me! You done too much already, and I really appreciate your help!"

So, being nice and helpful? or being passive aggressive? I'll let you decide...


Notice: The former was mostly in jest. The author has taken liberties with her life in general, and does appreciate her in-laws very much unless she can't find her salad bowls. Thank you.

 

[wtpclc]

My MIL won't do that at my house, as she will not go anywhere near my evil dishwasher. I am a spoiled princess. (I wish you really knew me to know how funny that is.) When I was beginning my career, it was not uncommon for me to come home looking like Pig Pen, though. Does that paint a picture for you?

 

[jnrrt]

No, no, Carrie! You're missing the evil genius here. If you have to do the dishes, YOU get to put everything away in the wrong place. Or break something, or put them away dirty, or whatever, until they are begging you NOT to do the dishes. Insert evil laugh: BWWAAAA, HA, HA, HA, HA, HA!

And if you actually do the evil laugh while washing, they may just stop inviting you altogether! So claim that evil dish-washing laugh, make it your own! And do it badly, do it badly with everything in you!

Man, with evil genius like this, I should really be writing horror novels.

 

[wtpclc]

OK, so I'm a little slow this morning. I tend not to be able to get the putter-awayer job. Will try to work on that this time.

 

[TW1]

ug: aw:
What's Toon gonna think when he gets back! He's got this doggie thing coming from every direction now - Can't escape it!
Is Coaster missing cause he's busy plastered white fluffy dog pics all over So. Cal?
Maybe he should get one of the brown ones and call it Nougat?

 

[wtpclc]

Can we petition the powers that be to get a pik poodle before he comes back???

SOF has been on the boards. Maybe after meeting Toon, he's decided he'd better stay away from us?

And where's Mar'?

ETA: Nougat! I like it!

FYI -I'm so proud of myself. The smiles above were posted without clicking on the pictures!

 

[lllovell]

Good morning!!!

mmmmmmmmmmm Pop Tarts (I have a child that wont eat them - I am not sure if I am still claiming him or not )

Carrie, would it be possible to use the shower as an excuse to go OUT to eat? (something along the lines of needing to clean house and decorate, etc?) You could take charge and find a restaurant that holds that many people (with like a banquet room or something) so that you don't have to do dishes on your birthday. I am betting they wouldn't want to do that (somehow, I get the feeling you have been stuck here many times before), but maybe if you just plan it, it will happen

Jnrrt - I have Carrie's in law problem with my mother-in-law only with a slight variation. Hubby has ADD (big, mega bad, something awful, thought for the longest time he was not going to get to live because I was gonna bury him in a shallow grave in the back yard - luckily medicine and focus studies have helped so much!!) and once I met his mother I realized where it came from. Sadly she has NO get up and go and when she is at my house, basically sits (and I do mean sits) and waits for us to tell her what to do or to "ask" for assistance (which I don't feel right doing to a guest). Its sooooo different from my family where everyone just pitches in or just knows what to do. She is a sweet lady, loves us all but having her around is rather trying for me. Fastforward to baby coming....she will be here for 14 days She didn't really get to come when the boys were born and this is her last chance (hubby is an only child) to be around when the baby is first born. I couldn't say no (especially since I am without my mother this time ) because I will need the help after a c-section. So...I am going to have to put on my supervisor hat and just give lots of directions! (Please tell me I will get stars on some "good deed" sheet for this lol)

bwhahah TW1 - I think that Toon was doomed about the dog thing a LONG time ago! (but one does have to wonder how those smilies magically appeared at this time hehe).

Whew - I am blabby today (I know - stop rolling your eyes lol )

 

[TW1]

Thread name changed again
Whay do I feel so good about being a part of Nothing

 

[wtpclc]

ILs won't be at my house, I'll be at theirs. SIL2 and I are already blacklisted fo rhaving shower at a Country Club. Long story, but very reasonable prices. With me long distance and SIL2 havign an in-home day care, we'd rather pay a little more for convenience. I am a spoiled pricess, but the familiy is so big, we sent out 60 invites! We'd both have to take a week off work and still rent a hall for that. No, dinner will be at ILs. The only other approprite place for them ot have a birthday dinner is Old Country Buffet. I'm sorry, this is where I will look spoiled, but I've never eaten there and not had a stomach ache for a week.

Laura! You MUST have supervisor's hat on. You cannot be teh hostess after a c-section. Period. It is good of you to put up with MIL, but you must take care of yourself. I'm so sorry about your mom. This must make it even harder for you right now.

FYI -My MIL is not lazy. She really cracks the whip and works her hiney off too. However, I do not appreciate her cracking the whip over me in my own home. Her house, fine. Not mine. We'll leave it at that.

 

[TW1]

I live by the general rule that family is like fish.

Both begin to stink quickly.

 

[wtpclc]

yup, yup!

 

[WithDisneySpirit]

A more appropriate thread name would be the "everything" thread

 

[lllovell]

Laura! You MUST have supervisor's hat on. You cannot be teh hostess after a c-section. Period. It is good of you to put up with MIL, but you must take care of yourself. I'm so sorry about your mom. This must make it even harder for you right now.

Thank you hun! I will be ok with M-i-L. I am sticking with my family mantra of "you can put up with anything as long as you know when it will end" She is a good person, we are just going to have to have a plan in place.

hahaha - I like the fish comment about family. Even as close a I am to mine, a week together is probably enough for us. We are similar enough to have a blast together, but different enough that eventually, we need a break.

I think the "nothing" part of our thread name is a reference to our Seinfield like qualities here of talking about just anything. I am proud to be a part of "nothing" with all of you.

Laura

 

[wtpclc]

I was going to agree with WithDIsneySpirit, but changed my mind. No offense intended. I like the nothing thread. It's where I go to get away from everything.

 

[lllovell]

A more appropriate thread name would be the "everything" thread

Woohoo - someone else to talk about everything and nothing with. Hiya disneyspirit - love your name! for you

 

[calypso*a*go-go]

Gosh...I almost didn't open the thread because I didn't realize what it was!

Trust me you guys, it's better to have IL's that are part of your lives (even the bad parts!) than one that barely acknowledges your existance -- which is what I've got. We've been married almost 20 years and my MIL never calls and only comes to visit when we pay her way and make the arrangements (she lives three hours away). I know a lot of it is due to her circumstances in life, but it's irksome just the same.

 

[TW1]

Trust me you guys, it's better to have IL's that are part of your lives (even the bad parts!) (

'Tis true, afterall.

DW lost both her parents a few years back, and while we are both in a constant state of eye-rolling at my folks, it would probably be more difficult without them. Sure they are quirky, opinionated, occassionally useless, and can be difficult to live with for more than a day or two, but in the end they are family and probably more like us than we'll ever admit.

That said, my mother is still the world's worst cook and my dad's about as sensitive as a nuclear warhead.

 

[lllovell]

but in the end they are family and probably more like us than we'll ever admit.

LMBO!!! That totally sums up most things about family doesn't it?

Like Calypso, my M-i-L only comes when we make the plans for her to come. (which I dont mind paying, we are in a much better position in life than she is, but sometimes it does feel weird to me...kinda like the relative that says "come see us sometime" and acts like YOU never show up but in truth, they NEVER invite you) So, with my M-i-L, at least I have control over WHEN and WHERE. We took her to WDW with us last Thanksgiving and it was a fantastic trip, because we had a plan every day and I am used to being "in charge" when we are in the parks, so it didn't feel the same as being at home with everyone staring at me waiting for me to make every decisions like whats for dinner to which child gets to skip school today to stay home with grandma. So - maybe we will just take her to the world again

 

[wtpclc]

Good point Caypsa*go*go. I still think there are more days than not that my MIL wishes I had not stolen her golden frist born from her, though. SHe odes have a good heart and really does mean well. Then again, some days I think she juts does that to confues me!