Not sure how to handle this situation.Looking for advice.

[reesecup]

Hello all!

Here is our situation. And I have a couple of questions.

We already have our room booked at BWV for Oct. My sister and her husband were going but now can't. But, I have a friend who's son is my son's best friend and they have two other children (one son is the same age as my daughter). Anyway, they do not drink alcoholic beverages at all. My husband and I on the other hand, are not town drunks But we do like to have a beer or glass of wine (or margarita) with our meals on occasion and particularly when we are on vacation. Do you think our friends will be offended and would you just tell them up front that when we go , we may have a drink and wanted them to know that up front???

My husband and I loved the Hoop-de-doo revue . (I think my DH liked it b/k of the free beer). Not really, we loved the show , but paying the price we pay , we most certainly will have some beer and wine since we don't have to drive, with our meal. And we are just afraid of what the reaction will be with our friends.

Also, one other question. I thought about getting put on the waitlist for BCV for our time frame instead of BWV; putting them there. That way we could have the best of both worlds. I'm figuring if we are their guest (really they are our guest but for reservation purposes, we would be theirs) we could enjoy SAB also. And then we would have BWV at night.

One last thing, we also need some money out of the points they will be using and we will have to get them a larger room. I know there was a post on this before, but do you guys recommend any amount we should ask them for? I know we will have a great time with them, but we just can't afford to pay for their whole stay.

Any advice will be greatly appreciated.

 

[Dean]

When we go, we have a few rules and tell everyone up front.

• You pay for yours and I'll pay for mine.
• I don't wait on you and you don't wait on me.
• There will be alcoholic beverages.
• No arguements.

If these srules aren't ok, DON'T GO. My brother, the minister, is sitting her in the hospital room and can attest to the fact I have the rules and communicate them.

 

[reesecup]

Wow, Dean!! You put that together so well. Thank you. That was kind of my thoughts exactly but I just wanted to see what everyone else thought!!!

 

[DVCLiz]

Also, remember that unless you are listed on the reservation and have individual room cards for the BCV room, you won't be allowed to use SAB. They don't permit "guests" to use the pool, only people actually staying at the resort. Even if you are the owner of the points, if you aren't on the reservation you won't get to swim!! Just a thought...

 

[mikesmom]

And be aware that your time frame is during the Food & Wine Fest. While we are not drunks, either, I can't imagine walking through Epcot and NOT having a drink. Which brings up the thought if your friends are not just non-drinkers, but actually object to alcohol, they may not have a good time being in Epcot at that time of year. There WILL be drinking, as a matter of fact, it will be celebrated.

 

[mamatojon]

I was just thinking the same thing as mikesmom. Do they find alcohol consumption offensive? Or do they just choose not to drink? The most I drink is *maybe* once a year but I'm not in the least offended by others drinking, in fact I kind get a "pseudo-buzz" when I'm around people who are taking in a bit too much, LOL. Living vicariously I suppose. I have known people who are really anti-alcohol though, and if that's the case with your friends you might want to reconsider taking them, even if they say they'll be okay with it there will be hard feelings and awkwardness the whole time I'm sure. Who needs that at WDW, right?

 

[reesecup]

DVCLiz,

Thanks for the information on SAB. I wasn't sure what the rule was on that. Is there no pool hopping at all during the year there?

I just talked with my friend on the phone and now we are actually considering a late August trip (right before the kids go back to school). Does anyone know how busy it is then and how miserable we will be with the heat? The times we've gone have always been at Christmas time.

I don't think they would be that offended by others around them having a drink. But, you are right, I just need to be up front and let them know and then let them make their own decision. My husband is just not one to "act" differently around others. He is just always going to be himself and he has already said he will vacation just as we always have, no matter who is with us.

 

[childsplay]

When we go, we have a few rules and tell everyone up front.

• There will be alcoholic beverages.

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  If memory serves, the beverage of choice is one six-pack of Corona
  
  I agree with a very simple list of rules.
  I also provide a loose itinerary for our days, just to let them know.

 

[MikeBW]

Anyway, they do not drink alcoholic beverages at all.

I don't understand....

 

[DVCLiz]

Right, no pool hopping at all to either SAB or the pool at Animal Kingdom Lodge.

Late August is a great time for lower crowds, but a miserable time for heat - temps and humidity at their highest. A good reason to go early, when the parks first open, use FastPasses wisely, and take a nap/pool break in the heat of the day, returning after sunset for more park fun. Of course, most attractions and restaurants are REALLY well air-conditioned, but it's Florida in August, so be prepared to sweat!!!!

 

[SueOKW]

My brother, the minister, is sitting here in the hospital room ....

what did i miss? or would you rather not say?

why drink corona when you can have yuengling?


sign me,
ready for another trip!

 

[Dean]

If memory serves, the beverage of choice is one six-pack of Corona QUOTE]That is correct. My wife gets made at me because I bring one or two back and they sit in the fridge. Two years ago we went on the DCL 7 day cruise and I had 3 in the fridge some from a year prior and some from 2 years prior.

what did i miss? or would you rather not say?

why drink corona when you can have yuengling?

I haven't tried that one but am familiar with it. I also had Blue Moon recently and may like it better. The only other time I drink is when someone else is paying like at meetings.

You didn't miss anything per se. My mom is ill and in the hospital. She's been ill but had a major and unepected event with a greater than 1 hour new onset seizure on Tues. We took her off the vent yesterday with the expectation she'll pass soon, we just don't want her to suffer like my dad did. That's why I've been on at weird times so please forgive me if I don't word things as tactfully as I might try to otherwise.

 

[dgaston]

You didn't miss anything per se. My mom is ill and in the hospital. She's been ill but had a major and unepected event with a greater than 1 hour new onset seizure on Tues. We took her off the vent yesterday with the expectation she'll pass soon, we just don't want her to suffer like my dad did. That's why I've been on at weird times so please forgive me if I don't word things as tactfully as I might try to otherwise.

OT but adding some prayers and pixie dust for your entire family.

 

[kidsister]

Pixie dust to Dean...losing parent's is just a hard time for us all. Don't worry about 'tact'...we'll all love you just the same.

Re 'expectations of your friends' : do they not know that you drink? Are they perhaps Mormon? My Mormon friends don't drink but they certainly don't act offended when I do. If they were offended...I would call that being judgmental, wouldn't you? Of course, because they are using your points, there is good reason to have a little conversation before hand. Start with points....I think that you should let them know that 'points' are rented and transferred here on the board at a cost of $10-$11 per point. So ask them what kind of accommodations they prefer, so you can figure out how many points it would cost and know what to charge them. This makes it all upfront, and also lets them have input: perhaps they'll decide that if they could get a standard view BWV studio in value season, that they could afford 5 weekday nights. (If they don't see a points list, they won't undertand why weekend nights are usually avoided by owners). They might even suggest that you all share a 2 bedroom unit....(not sure how many kids,if any, we are talking tho)
If they ask about sharing anything...that's when I'd talk to them about noticing that they don't drink and that you do and that you wouldn't want them to be offended. If they don't bring up sharing, then you could still bring up dining together, the need for ADR etc...and mention drinking then.

It's a vacation and your DH should be allowed to act the way he normally acts on vacation (within reason ). I'm sure your friends do understand and respect that. But advance communication really helps keep things fun and friendly. And do let them know the style of vacation you prefer (commando or lie by the pool ) so that they can either say: yep, us too or make their own 'style' plans re visiting the parks.

In any event, have a great trip!

 

[DisneyFreaks]

You didn't miss anything per se. My mom is ill and in the hospital. She's been ill but had a major and unepected event with a greater than 1 hour new onset seizure on Tues. We took her off the vent yesterday with the expectation she'll pass soon, we just don't want her to suffer like my dad did. That's why I've been on at weird times so please forgive me if I don't word things as tactfully as I might try to otherwise.

We just went through this same sad situation with the passing of my brother in law. My prayers are with you and your family Dean.

 

[Dean]

Thanks for all the well wishes both public and private. I didn't mean to hijack this thread or get off topic. But it does help remind me how much DIS is like a family. There may be a squabble here and there but when the chips are down, everyone pulls together.

 

[MiaSRN62]

My mom is ill and in the hospital. She's been ill but had a major and unepected event with a greater than 1 hour new onset seizure on Tues. We took her off the vent yesterday with the expectation she'll pass soon,

Dean,
No need to apologize.....your posts are always so helpful.
Thoughts and prayers going out to you and your family during this difficult time.

 

[jmatias]

Dean: Just wanted to send you and your family some Aloha. It's amazing you are still posting and helping other DISsers during such a difficult time.

OP: Clear "rules" or guidelines ( sounds better ) worked for us. We've taken several different family members on various vacations and we are always sure that things are clear.....makes for a much more enjoyable vacation.

 

[Dean]

Dean: Just wanted to send you and your family some Aloha. It's amazing you are still posting and helping other DISsers during such a difficult time.

To be honest, it's great to get a mental break.

 

[reesecup]

First of all, Dean I want to apologize. I meant to wish you my best and send prayers your way when you mentioned in the first post that you were sitting in the hospital. We all will be thinking of you.

To everyone else, thank you for your advice. I agree that being open will be the best. To, who posted with the question if our friends are Mormon. No, they are Southern Baptist. Don't want to get in a religious discussion here but that is their denomination. My husband and I are Wesleyan. He grew up Baptist, I grew up Methodist so it was a great combination.

When we joined our church, my husband told our minister up front that he does drink beer on occasion. He just felt it is best to be up front and not put on airs about the whole thing. I agreed.

Anyway, our friends are wonderful people and we have a great time with them. I think if I tell them what to expect from us, it will be no big deal. We will have a wonderful time I'm sure. Our sons are the same age, same name, look pretty much the same and are best buds. I really can't wait to go with them. And I can surely have a good time without a glass of wine or a margarita, but hey, I just doubt I will pass one up!!!

Thank you everyone!!!! And Dean, you should never feel like you hijacked this thread. Take care of your loved ones. That is the most important thing!!!!