Not quite sure how I feel....

[figmentvi]

Oh Chris....{{HUGS}}. I really do know what you're going through. I went through the same thing with my Mom a couple of years ago. Selling her house was the hardest thing I've done. I tried to think of everything that I could not to have to sell. But we had to let go.

There are still days when I'm cooking or sewing and need some advice. I'll go to the phone and start to dial her number. Silly me. I'll realize what I'm doing, look up to the sky and say "Yo Mom can you send down a little help here???". And guess what? She usually does.

I just know in my heart that your Mom is there for you as well. Just ask her.

Love,
Linda

 

[snoopy]

I went through this when my parents died, selling their house - the house we all grew up in. It was extraordinarily painful. Not long ago I went by the house. I had the urge to go in, so I knocked on the door and a nice woman answered. I told her it once was my family's house, and would she mind if I came in and looked around. She could have thought I was crazy, but she didn't, so she let me in. I had such mixed feelings about being there, but I think it sort of provided some long awaited closure for me. And I was so thrilled to see that a young family was living there now - it made me think of the circle of life, and how that family would now be making memories in that hoiuse. I told the lady to take good care of the house, that it had so many roots and needed to be tended to, and I left. Now when I drive by, I smile instead of cry.

{{{hugs}}} to you, Chris. This is a tough time for you, I'm here if you need a good listener.

 

[Nancy]

I think it gets harder as the time goes by because you realize you're not just selling a house, but you're selling all the memories. I felt that way when we sold the house I grew up in after my brother died. I was very angry at my parents because I could never walk into a room and picture him sitting there anymore. When I go over to my friends parents house (they live across the street from where I lived) I always want to run over there and ask to go through the house.

 

[Kitty 34]

{{{{HUGS}}}} Crhis. This has to be so hard for you. My Mom lives right next door to me, in the house we grew up in so I can't imagine what it will be like some day when we might have to sell it!

 

[yepod]

{{{hugs}}} Chris.

 

[Saffron]

I'm sorry. I can imagine how hard this is for you. {{{{Hugs}}}}

 

[holycow]

Just sending Hugs too...

 

[AJB]

Chris I'm so sorry and I know what you're going through. I still have the same feelings 10 years later. Memories can be hard to bring up, but things will smooth out in time. Keep your chin up my friend and know that you have a whole bunch of wonderful people here behind you.

 

[Ranatra]

(((((((((((( Hugs ))))))))))))
Treasure the memories, I guess that's all we can do, and let them bring a smile to our face. Memories are priceless.

 

[SonjaB]

{{{{{HUGS}}}}} Chris

 

[tar heel]

Why not take some of the flowers and plants and put them in your yard? If there are bulbs, this is a good time to plant them! That way, you'll have a little piece of your roots at your home.

 

[Chattyaholic]

Sending you a ((hug)) and a prayer...I kind of know how you are feeling, as I felt terrible when my grandparents sold their home and moved into a senior citizen complex. I have such wonderful memories of time spent with them in that house. I've made trips back up there from time to time and at first it was somewhat consoling that the new owners hadn't made any changes, but the last time I went up I think the original house must have been torn down, as there is a two-story house that's totally different there now!! But nothing can take away the memories, and you have memories like that too to cling to so hopefully that will help you. I don't think I'll have the same feelings about my parents' house as they have moved three times since I got married and left home. And I never felt so "attached" to the home where I grew up in, as I did my grandparents' house up north. It will be difficult to have to go through their things when they are no longer here, though, but my DH and kids will help me, I'm sure (I'm an only). Time heals, you will never forget...but it should get easier as time passes. Another ((hug)) your way...

 

[DixieDreamer]

Chris... not much I can say that others have not already expressed. Sorry you are feeling blue about this change. Hugs.

 

[Boots]

{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}} I am so sorry. My mother died a little over four years ago and I now have a wonderful stepmother. But it hurts to see things my mother treasured put up. I guess I will just hold them forever in my heart. I stayed with my grandparents a lot too. The people who now own their house have invited me over many times to see what they have done to it. But I just can not make myself go. I want to remember it the way it was. I like the suggestion of transplanting some plants. I now have a snowball bush and a sweet smellling "buddy" bush they were a twig from my grandparents bushes. Also DH and I recently went to the spot where his grandparents used to live and dug up some buttercups and tulips that had been there. The house burned several years ago and this is just a reminder to me of them. Saying a prayer for you!

 

[tiggerlover]

{{{HUGS}}}, Chris. More thoughts coming your way.

 

[nativetxn]

{{{HUGS}}} sweetie. This will be sad for you but what a relief when it is all over and done, you won't have this hanging over your head anymore.

Sorry it's making you sad.

 

[Pam]