I couldn't agree more with everything you said.
I have absolutely nothing against values, they just aren't for me. I've done it, for a night, and that one night was enough. For many of the same reasons that you mentioned. Maybe it's a personal space issue, a sleeping space issue or a million little reasons but we are very much in the same boat of saving up and going Deluxe. It does mean longer between trips. I do think it will be worth it for us. I want, actually I need, to feel like I can hang out in my room for a bit. Not just the resort, but the actual room. For that, I need more space.
Not to mention a coffee maker
I think it's perfectly fine, in fact good, to realize that things change and so do needs and wants. I mean I backpacked through Europe for 3 months not ever knowing where I was sleeping that night and staying mostly in hostels.
Was it incredible?
You bet.
Would I do it now, at this point in my life?
Not in a million years.
I kind of feel that way about values. Truth be told, even mods (double beds!) we are awalsy squished enough just due to our family size and double beds add insult to injury. Not to mention the fact that I don't get to sleep with my husband if the room is doubles and it's all 6 of us! I'd do one night, if I had to but more than that honestly I'd kind of rather not go! It will get easier once we are 4.... but, it's about the whole trip for me, not just the parks.
And for me, a huge part of that is dining. Sit down dining. More than one option. Not food courts. Maybe I'm just getting old.
That said, that ONE value night is what converted us to staying on property and was an absolute godsend at the time. Right time, right place.