boomhauer
When the world gets in my face, I say - Have A Nic
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If I posted that, I wonder how many points I'd get.
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When you don't like the fact that your wife's ex calls or your stepson talks to his father, just tell yourself, "I signed up for this j-o-b and now I have to do it and if I don't like it, that's just too damn bad, because I signed up for this j-o-b..." Repeat.
Boomhauer I fear that you are slightly in over your head at this point. It seems like your ex is really getting on your nerves lately. Why would you want to limit contact with your step son and his dad? That won't help your relationship with him. As hard as it is I really think you have to get out of the middle of this. The relationship your wife has with her ex will always be there. She had a child with him. So until that child is 18 he will be in your life. Let HER deal with him. And by him I mean her ex.
Does your stepson like the phone calls? It can only make him feel loved I would think. Is that bad?
As I am NOT a step I am sure it is a lot easier for me to say it than have to do it. And I am a child of divorced parents. If my Mom's husband had tried to limit my contact or even spoke about him in a way that is not flattering- I would have checked him off my list. Don't do that to your step son. I am sure now that you see how great it is to be a Dad you can understand how your wife's ex must feel not being there all the time.
Good luck you have a long road of this ahead.
And as I stated, he doesn't pay for anything extra. He pays child support.
Well then use some of that support money to buy the cell phone. The money is there for his well being and talking to his dad is for his well being.
As I said, I obviously don't get my point across veyr well. For that I apologize. You wanna rub it in my face - Do it. Don't know why that would make you feel better, but obviosuly, it does.
Your posts about your feelings for him were very clear. Looks like you're just upset that people notice when you can't keep your story straight.
Originally Posted by phorsenuf View Post
Just curious. Is there a particular reason why the dad has started calling so often and concerned where his child is? Was he not be able to talk to him for a while and was concerned. Seems a little odd that a father would start calling repeatably for no reason.
I have no idea.
Maybe his car got hit by a falling rock and wanted to let his son know he was ok?
It wouldn't be a waste to get another landline installed now because then the dad could use it to call his son. Win-Win situation for everyone.Just wanted to say, as I see it's been brought up - We got rid of the land line about 3 years ago. He just started calling a month ago. One had nothing to do with the other.
We just found that we weren't using it. It was a waste of $40 a month.
Don't get voicemail on his phone. Just get him a prepaid cell phone.Sorry - I don't agree with that at all.
Child support is for food, clothing, medicine, shelter. Not for cellular telephones.
I'm curious - What do you tihnk will change if he calls the son's cell phone, gets voicemail? There's just as much of a chance of that happening with that phone as there is with my wife's phone. The issue is, he seems to have a problem with not having his calls picked up right away. If we're out doing something as a family, that phone's not going to be answered either right away.
Yeah yeah, excuses excuses. You pose the question. It's a pretty valid response.
It wouldn't be a waste to get another landline installed now because then the dad could use it to call his son. Win-Win situation for everyone.![]()
It is very true that cell phones are easily lost, but landline phones are much easier to keep track of. I know I've never lost a regular landline phone. ETA: A landline phone with an answering machine is what is needed.
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Sorry - I don't agree with that at all.
Child support is for food, clothing, medicine, shelter. Not for cellular telephones.
I'm curious - What do you tihnk will change if he calls the son's cell phone, gets voicemail? There's just as much of a chance of that happening with that phone as there is with my wife's phone. The issue is, he seems to have a problem with not having his calls picked up right away. If we're out doing something as a family, that phone's not going to be answered either right away.
Yeah yeah, excuses excuses. You pose the question. It's a pretty valid response.
Sorry - I don't agree with that at all.
Child support is for food, clothing, medicine, shelter. Not for cellular telephones
Let me say again, Dad calling and talking to his son - No problem at all.
Dad calling repeatedly, leaving voicemail after voicemail questioning where we are - Problem.
Sorry - I don't agree with that at all.
Child support is for food, clothing, medicine, shelter. Not for cellular telephones.
I'm curious - What do you tihnk will change if he calls the son's cell phone, gets voicemail? There's just as much of a chance of that happening with that phone as there is with my wife's phone. The issue is, he seems to have a problem with not having his calls picked up right away. If we're out doing something as a family, that phone's not going to be answered either right away.
Yeah yeah, excuses excuses. You pose the question. It's a pretty valid response.
Whatever you say Cardaway. You da man.
Sorry - I don't agree with that at all.
Child support is for food, clothing, medicine, shelter. Not for cellular telephones.
I'm curious - What do you tihnk will change if he calls the son's cell phone, gets voicemail? There's just as much of a chance of that happening with that phone as there is with my wife's phone. The issue is, he seems to have a problem with not having his calls picked up right away. If we're out doing something as a family, that phone's not going to be answered either right away.
Yeah yeah, excuses excuses. You pose the question. It's a pretty valid response.
OK, I missed the part where messages of any kind would be a problem for Boom. I saw where you quoted him.And you can not get voicemail or an answering machine with the landline.![]()
Sorry - I don't agree with that at all.
Child support is for food, clothing, medicine, shelter. Not for cellular telephones.
OP, what exactly are you looking for from a bunch of strangers?You present a scenario, then posters offer their opinions, disagree with you, agree with you, etc. All of a sudden, you begin arguing with everyone that says something that strikes a nerve. Does it really matter what strangers think?
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I think you just want to converse with people, looking for attention.
When I read posts like this one, I often hope that the poster is making it up or stretching the truth. I mean, who wants to live like this? Always looking to be "wronged" by someone or something to gripe about.Again, I hope the whole post is exaggerated or fabricated. If not, I truly feel for that little boy. I hate to see children dragged through the mud by selfish adults.
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