Nobby's Gnomies... heading to WDW in April 2010

[jenjolt]

As far as the question of the day goes...I've been planning our vow renewal for awhile and we are definitely going to renew our vows at sunset on the beach at Poly. I know that's not in the park...but it is what we are going to do for our 10th anniversary and I can't wait...just me and Phillip and some of our close friends to celebrate 10 years of our love and commitment together...the really scary thing is that is coming up in like 3 years LOL...and as a good DISer I'm planning it already!

 

[jenjolt]

3 months after Tom and I got engaged... I found out I was pregnant with Kyle. Both our families bailed on what they said they'd help with for the wedding. My parents said we didn't deserve a "real" wedding party since we had put the cart before the horse, so to speak.

I was in college (aka broke) Tom was delivering pizzas for Dominos (aka nearly broke) and we had a baby on the way. And we now had to pay for our wedding all by ourselves.

We paid a grand total of $524 for our wedding... that included my dress and his tux, flowers, invitations, a 'reception' (snacks/fingerfoods in the church lounge that I made the day before) and a cake (from giant eagle LOL!!)

I don't regret it at all... it would have been very foolish for us to spend a ton of $$ we didn't have on a big wedding...or even an average wedding

now that I CAN spend some cash.... We will be renewing our vows on our 15th anniversary... I just can't decide where??? WDW??? Hawaii??? or Tom's pick....Vegas in jeans

YAY for economically friendly weddings!! We had a very economically friendly wedding also...my dress was my prom dress (it was white LOL) that I had altered...I had the cake made by a friend...my family pitched in and helped with the reception food...our biggest expense was the photos that my parents paid for and that was it....we didn't have a church or pastor fee because we got married on the post and had Phillip's chaplain do the ceremony LOL...it was very cost effective LOL!

 

[ILuvCrush]

YAY for economically friendly weddings!! We had a very economically friendly wedding also...my dress was my prom dress (it was white LOL) that I had altered...I had the cake made by a friend...my family pitched in and helped with the reception food...our biggest expense was the photos that my parents paid for and that was it....we didn't have a church or pastor fee because we got married on the post and had Phillip's chaplain do the ceremony LOL...it was very cost effective LOL!

We were married on campus by the university chaplain... so we saved the fees too

Pictures are my only regret...now that you mention it. I have a couple dozen snapshots that people gave to me. Thats it

We may do a 'late renewal' if we do Hawaii. Cause our 15th anniv is in January... and the new Hawaii DVC doesn't open til 2011

 

[MegansMom]

I was very atypical when Tom and I were getting married---I didn't want a big wedding AT ALL!!! I seriously just wanted Tom and I, our immediate families, and our best friends. I wanted something very small and very intimate, but he comes from a big Italian family, and kept telling me I would completely regret it if I didn't have the big fat Italian wedding. After months of trying to talk him down, I gave in. We had the very big Italian Catholic church wedding with the dinner reception for 350 people----which was 300too many in my opinion!!! Our wedding was beautiful---the flowers especially, but none of it was what I wanted. Our parents hired a wedding coordinator for us, and she made most of the selections and arrangements, but all of it was way too much for me!!! Luckily we had quite a few connections in the wedding industry---my cousin-in-law is a cakemaker, Tom's uncle is a professional photographer, one of Tom's best friends is a florist, and good friends of ours are DJs---so things came very cheaply to us, but still was much too overdone for my taste!!! His mother invited all these distant relatives that neither of us even knew!! THAT was the WORST part---running into people at your own wedding that you don't even know! We did have a wonderfully romantic honeymoon, and that is what I hold dearest to me when I remember our wedding. A couple years ago, two of our best friends got married down on the beach in Florida.....we were two out of only a handful of people that were invited to come----it was wonderful and beautiful and so what I would have wanted. After that night, Tom looked at me and said that I was right---that was probably what we should have done!!! We are getting ready to celebrate our 10th wedding anniversary this July---I can't believe it has gone by so quickly---and sometimes I think about how nice it would be to renew our vows on a beach somewhere this year just Tom, Megs, and myself. I'm keeping my fingers crossed that that can happen!

 

[Lady Lallie]

I was very atypical when Tom and I were getting married---I didn't want a big wedding AT ALL!!! I seriously just wanted Tom and I, our immediate families, and our best friends. I wanted something very small and very intimate, but he comes from a big Italian family, and kept telling me I would completely regret it if I didn't have the big fat Italian wedding. After months of trying to talk him down, I gave in. We had the very big Italian Catholic church wedding with the dinner reception for 350 people----which was 300too many in my opinion!!! Our wedding was beautiful---the flowers especially, but none of it was what I wanted. Our parents hired a wedding coordinator for us, and she made most of the selections and arrangements, but all of it was way too much for me!!! Luckily we had quite a few connections in the wedding industry---my cousin-in-law is a cakemaker, Tom's uncle is a professional photographer, one of Tom's best friends is a florist, and good friends of ours are DJs---so things came very cheaply to us, but still was much too overdone for my taste!!! His mother invited all these distant relatives that neither of us even knew!! THAT was the WORST part---running into people at your own wedding that you don't even know! We did have a wonderfully romantic honeymoon, and that is what I hold dearest to me when I remember our wedding. A couple years ago, two of our best friends got married down on the beach in Florida.....we were two out of only a handful of people that were invited to come----it was wonderful and beautiful and so what I would have wanted. After that night, Tom looked at me and said that I was right---that was probably what we should have done!!! We are getting ready to celebrate our 10th wedding anniversary this July---I can't believe it has gone by so quickly---and sometimes I think about how nice it would be to renew our vows on a beach somewhere this year just Tom, Megs, and myself. I'm keeping my fingers crossed that that can happen!

I totally feel for you!! MIL had a guest list of almost 200 people just for her side before we told her NO WAY. We had a total of 99 people at our wedding and I still felt that about about 70 too many. I would not have regretted a small wedding, what I do regret is that I didn't get more of what I wanted for my wedding.

 

[MegansMom]

That is exactly how I feel LL!!!!

Tom has told me several times since that he wishes we would have stuck to what I had wanted and that he would have felt more powerful to stand up to his Mom at that point and not invite all the people that she did. We were young and naive and didn't feel we could tell our parents "no!" Boy do we wish we would have in regards to the guest list especially!!!

 

[Roxychica7]

If I were to have done the Disney wedding, I'd only do the 20 some guests option. I really don't even want bridesmaids. Dbf has a big family and a VERY close family, and has 2 siblings and 2 stepsiblings. I'm an only child. When his brother got married in Jan '08, he had all of them in the wedding (including myself as a bridesmaid which was kind of uncomfortable because I hardly even knew Dbf's sister in law). Well, I'm not as close with them, especially since we live 4 hours apart right now and I don't want to have to feel obligated to have them in my wedding, particularly as my bridesmaids. I'd rather have my closest friends, but I know that Dbf will want to have his brother, and step brother as groomsmen, and best friend (who is dating his sister) thus leaving his sister and sister in law out of the loop on my side. They are very touchy about things like that and I really really don't want unnecessary drama when it comes to a wedding.
So I'm now leaning toward NO bridesmaids, on the otherhand, I might put my foot down and tell them to get over it. But Dbf and I want to get married by the water, particularly on a dock with just the basic family/friends and then leave the vow renewal to us in Disney.

 

[Lady Lallie]

That is exactly how I feel LL!!!!

Tom has told me several times since that he wishes we would have stuck to what I had wanted and that he would have felt more powerful to stand up to his Mom at that point and not invite all the people that she did. We were young and naive and didn't feel we could tell our parents "no!" Boy do we wish we would have in regards to the guest list especially!!!

Marc is finally at that point with me too. He realizes what a stress all of the Wedding planning was especially dealing with MIL. I don't even want to show her my bear, god knows what she will say about that! Probably throw paint on it since it's real fur.

If I were to have done the Disney wedding, I'd only do the 20 some guests option. I really don't even want bridesmaids. Dbf has a big family and a VERY close family, and has 2 siblings and 2 stepsiblings. I'm an only child. When his brother got married in Jan '08, he had all of them in the wedding (including myself as a bridesmaid which was kind of uncomfortable because I hardly even knew Dbf's sister in law). Well, I'm not as close with them, especially since we live 4 hours apart right now and I don't want to have to feel obligated to have them in my wedding, particularly as my bridesmaids. I'd rather have my closest friends, but I know that Dbf will want to have his brother, and step brother as groomsmen, and best friend (who is dating his sister) thus leaving his sister and sister in law out of the loop on my side. They are very touchy about things like that and I really really don't want unnecessary drama when it comes to a wedding.
So I'm now leaning toward NO bridesmaids, on the otherhand, I might put my foot down and tell them to get over it. But Dbf and I want to get married by the water, particularly on a dock with just the basic family/friends and then leave the vow renewal to us in Disney.

Take it from me Jess. Do what YOU and DBF want, not anyone else. It's hard to put your foot down but you will regret it in the long run. I had to come up with four bridesmaids to match Marc's four groomsmen. UGH. I'm just not close to a lot of my older friends anymore and just felt awkward asking them but I had to do what I had to do. I also had one of Marc's cousins as a bridesmaid and she turned out to be the most helpful, but it was awkward. I was told I had to have a Bridal Shower and then I had to have a bachelorette party. I have told my mother and Marc that when I do get pregnant, under no certain terms do I want a baby shower. I hate being the center of attention, HATE IT. I was in tears before my bridal shower because MIL was being a pain and NO ONE would stand up for what I wanted. It was truly awful, I will not go through that stress when Marc and I are expecting.

 

[Roxychica7]

Take it from me Jess. Do what YOU and DBF want, not anyone else. It's hard to put your foot down but you will regret it in the long run. I had to come up with four bridesmaids to match Marc's four groomsmen. UGH. I'm just not close to a lot of my older friends anymore and just felt awkward asking them but I had to do what I had to do. I also had one of Marc's cousins as a bridesmaid and she turned out to be the most helpful, but it was awkward. I was told I had to have a Bridal Shower and then I had to have a bachelorette party. I have told my mother and Marc that when I do get pregnant, under no certain terms do I want a baby shower. I hate being the center of attention, HATE IT. I was in tears before my bridal shower because MIL was being a pain and NO ONE would stand up for what I wanted. It was truly awful, I will not go through that stress when Marc and I are expecting.

Thank you LL. Dbf's family is about the only thing we argue about. I understand that they are close, but it doesn't mean that I have to change who I am and be all lovey dovey with all of them and have them be my bridesmaids. I KNOW Dbf will want his brothers/best friend in the wedding and I know I at least want my best friend as my maid of honor. I don't talk to my older friends as much anymore, but personally I'd rather ask them OR ask some of my more current friends. Dbf and I always said we would never have a bachelorette/bachelor party, we'd rather have a cookout, and we wouldn't want to be split up for the night anyway..like you said and be FORCED into doing something we don't want to do. I can totally relate though, thank you for being you LL!

 

[Lady Lallie]

Thank you LL. Dbf's family is about the only thing we argue about. I understand that they are close, but it doesn't mean that I have to change who I am and be all lovey dovey with all of them and have them be my bridesmaids. I KNOW Dbf will want his brothers/best friend in the wedding and I know I at least want my best friend as my maid of honor. I don't talk to my older friends as much anymore, but personally I'd rather ask them OR ask some of my more current friends. Dbf and I always said we would never have a bachelorette/bachelor party, we'd rather have a cookout, and we wouldn't want to be split up for the night anyway..like you said and be FORCED into doing something we don't want to do. I can totally relate though, thank you for being you LL!

Marc & I are the same way, we've had a lot of arguments about his Family and while I love his family and enjoy family gatherings, sometimes I just don't want them involved in "our" special things if that makes sense. I dread a lot of milestones only because MIL is usually difficult about these things. Like right now we are in disagreement about Marc's birthday. This is his first birthday with me being his wife and I want to plan his birthday dinner, I don't think that is unreasonable! Marc is happy with what I have planned but MIL is still not satisfied.

Just do what you want to do and be who you are and everything will be fine, you will be a lot happier with yourself. I am still bitter about our wedding and I hate that, I try not to be because I am so lucky to have Marc but I do regret how everything went.

And if you ever need to vent, you know where to find me!

 

[Roxychica7]

Marc & I are the same way, we've had a lot of arguments about his Family and while I love his family and enjoy family gatherings, sometimes I just don't want them involved in "our" special things if that makes sense. I dread a lot of milestones only because MIL is usually difficult about these things. Like right now we are in disagreement about Marc's birthday. This is his first birthday with me being his wife and I want to plan his birthday dinner, I don't think that is unreasonable! Marc is happy with what I have planned but MIL is still not satisfied.

Just do what you want to do and be who you are and everything will be fine, you will be a lot happier with yourself. I am still bitter about our wedding and I hate that, I try not to be because I am so lucky to have Marc but I do regret how everything went.

And if you ever need to vent, you know where to find me!

Oh holy crap does this sound familiar! Dbf's family ALWAYS has big things planned for everyone's birthday. They have NEVER been there for one of my birthday's (4 in a row), so when the 5th one rolled around, I made the mistake of telling Dbf that I wanted to do something (meaning WITH him and only him) since last year was the 1st year that Dbf and I had been together for my birthday (due to school) but we had class/work and couldn't do much and this would be the first year it was actually on a weekend.

So..what does Dbf do..he calls his family up, 3 of them show up (his mom, his step dad and his sister). I get SO upset, because I wanted it just us, and they end up going to Gettysburg without me and spending the day together on my birthdaY!! Dbf still sees no problem with this as he thinks I had agreed to going the day before...but seriously...would I want to walk around a battlefield in february on my birthday?? And the main point of him wanting to go was because HIS FAMILY had never been to Gettysburg before. Oh..not a good birthday weekend. I don't bring it up anymore, we tried to agree that our "communication" got messed up. I told him next year though, never again!

So now it's been a month and a half since I've talked to/seen his family. There's a HUGE Housewarming party for his sister coming up on the 28th and I SO do not want to go as what went down for my birthday. I dont know...I just get SO frustrated with his family, especially since we're getting to that point where we're job hunting now and trying to figure out what state we want to live in. I don't want to stay in Maryland, he's from Virginia (which IS where a lot of biology government jobs are), but guess why he really wants to move there

 

[jenjolt]

Uggh Jess I'm sorry sounds like you got some decisions ahead of you!! I will be wishing you the best!!! And I'll be hoping you have a much better birthday next year!!!!

I'm very lucky and have a great relationship with my inlaws and my parents...of course I'm in Florida and my inlaws are in Michigan and my parents are Kansas...there is something to be said for being a distance away LOL!!!

 

[Roxychica7]

Uggh Jess I'm sorry sounds like you got some decisions ahead of you!! I will be wishing you the best!!! And I'll be hoping you have a much better birthday next year!!!!

I'm very lucky and have a great relationship with my inlaws and my parents...of course I'm in Florida and my inlaws are in Michigan and my parents are Kansas...there is something to be said for being a distance away LOL!!!

Thanks Jen! Although, we'll be going to Gnomefest in April, we could celebrate a late birthday!

That's what I'm trying to work on with Dbf. I want to move to Florida or South Carolina, always wanted to move to Florida (and not just because of WDW ) Dbf feels that with college he wants to move back to Virginia to be with his family, but is "considering" moving farther south. I told him if I HAD to move to VA, I'd take the starter house for 3 years and then move south. I keep trying to intice him with fishing and telling him he could have his own boat

 

[Lady Lallie]

Oh holy crap does this sound familiar! Dbf's family ALWAYS has big things planned for everyone's birthday. They have NEVER been there for one of my birthday's (4 in a row), so when the 5th one rolled around, I made the mistake of telling Dbf that I wanted to do something (meaning WITH him and only him) since last year was the 1st year that Dbf and I had been together for my birthday (due to school) but we had class/work and couldn't do much and this would be the first year it was actually on a weekend.

So..what does Dbf do..he calls his family up, 3 of them show up (his mom, his step dad and his sister). I get SO upset, because I wanted it just us, and they end up going to Gettysburg without me and spending the day together on my birthdaY!! Dbf still sees no problem with this as he thinks I had agreed to going the day before...but seriously...would I want to walk around a battlefield in february on my birthday?? And the main point of him wanting to go was because HIS FAMILY had never been to Gettysburg before. Oh..not a good birthday weekend. I don't bring it up anymore, we tried to agree that our "communication" got messed up. I told him next year though, never again!

So now it's been a month and a half since I've talked to/seen his family. There's a HUGE Housewarming party for his sister coming up on the 28th and I SO do not want to go as what went down for my birthday. I dont know...I just get SO frustrated with his family, especially since we're getting to that point where we're job hunting now and trying to figure out what state we want to live in. I don't want to stay in Maryland, he's from Virginia (which IS where a lot of biology government jobs are), but guess why he really wants to move there

Oh my goodness, it's like we are living the same lives! I have been trying to convince Marc to move south after all our debt is paid off. I think I was meant to be a Southern Belle. Anyhoo, he gets excited for it and then starts thinking about his family and then he changes his mind. It's very frustrating. The thing is, his family wants to be involved in all the special things but on a day to day basis they barely call him. I feel like sometimes they take Marc for granted that he will always be there no matter how crappy they treat him. I understand why he's like that because he grew up in a three family home, they had a huge house that was divided into three living quarters. Marc's family, his aunt, uncle and cousins and his grandparents lived in that house. I understand that but I also want Marc to realize that we are our own little family now and we have to come first.
MIL barely acknowledges my birthday, and I am not even going to go into detail because I will blow my top.

Thanks Jen! Although, we'll be going to Gnomefest in April, we could celebrate a late birthday!

That's what I'm trying to work on with Dbf. I want to move to Florida or South Carolina, always wanted to move to Florida (and not just because of WDW ) Dbf feels that with college he wants to move back to Virginia to be with his family, but is "considering" moving farther south. I told him if I HAD to move to VA, I'd take the starter house for 3 years and then move south. I keep trying to intice him with fishing and telling him he could have his own boat

Keep promising him that boat!

 

[Roxychica7]

Oh my goodness, it's like we are living the same lives! I have been trying to convince Marc to move south after all our debt is paid off. I think I was meant to be a Southern Belle. Anyhoo, he gets excited for it and then starts thinking about his family and then he changes his mind. It's very frustrating. The thing is, his family wants to be involved in all the special things but on a day to day basis they barely call him. I feel like sometimes they take Marc for granted that he will always be there no matter how crappy they treat him. I understand why he's like that because he grew up in a three family home, they had a huge house that was divided into three living quarters. Marc's family, his aunt, uncle and cousins and his grandparents lived in that house. I understand that but I also want Marc to realize that we are our own little family now and we have to come first.
MIL barely acknowledges my birthday, and I am not even going to go into detail because I will blow my top.

Oh my gosh, I think we ARE living the same life!
Wow...yes, I understand, Dbf (god, I think I can call him Blake now, lol, "Dbf" is just a habit!) But yes..Blake's dad left them when he was 5, his siblings were 4 and 8 so his mom was a single mom until he was 15 or so. So, yes I understand the closeness. But his dad still tries to come into his life, but only when it's convenient for him (he only lives 30 mins from them now) but has been married 4 other times since and barely calls/sees them. Don't even get me started on that man.
Blake feels like he has missed out on a lot with them since going away to college, especially now that his brother has 1 kid with another on the way this year. But I keep telling him, you know, you cant make your decisions based on your family. I understand that you want to live close, but what if we move there and 3 years later, everyone moves away from us. Especially since his sister will probably be married by then with kids and her bf is talking about California and his mom/step dad want to move back to her neck of the woods in North Carolina. I said, what would be the difference, if we moved where we wanted, if everyone is moving south anyway, they'd be closer to us in the end.
But I completely agree, he says, but I want to be "with my family" and I said..well, marrying me we would be our "own family." We have NEVER gotten the chance to be together without the stress of school. We met in '04, he was a freshman in college and I was a sophomore, now we're graduating with our master's this year. Once school is over, we'll be even closer than we are now I think...and I think that will push aside some of his wanting to be distanced from his family. Hopefully anyway.

 

[Lady Lallie]

Oh my gosh, I think we ARE living the same life!
Wow...yes, I understand, Dbf (god, I think I can call him Blake now, lol, "Dbf" is just a habit!) But yes..Blake's dad left them when he was 5, his siblings were 4 and 8 so his mom was a single mom until he was 15 or so. So, yes I understand the closeness. But his dad still tries to come into his life, but only when it's convenient for him (he only lives 30 mins from them now) but has been married 4 other times since and barely calls/sees them. Don't even get me started on that man.
Blake feels like he has missed out on a lot with them since going away to college, especially now that his brother has 1 kid with another on the way this year. But I keep telling him, you know, you cant make your decisions based on your family. I understand that you want to live close, but what if we move there and 3 years later, everyone moves away from us. Especially since his sister will probably be married by then with kids and her bf is talking about California and his mom/step dad want to move back to her neck of the woods in North Carolina. I said, what would be the difference, if we moved where we wanted, if everyone is moving south anyway, they'd be closer to us in the end.
But I completely agree, he says, but I want to be "with my family" and I said..well, marrying me we would be our "own family." We have NEVER gotten the chance to be together without the stress of school. We met in '04, he was a freshman in college and I was a sophomore, now we're graduating with our master's this year. Once school is over, we'll be even closer than we are now I think...and I think that will push aside some of his wanting to be distanced from his family. Hopefully anyway.

It's tough to keep everything balanced. It really is. One of the things that made me fall in love with Marc was how devoted he was to his family so I hate that it is such a difficult thing for us to balance now. I couldn't even tell you the last time his brother called him to just see how he is doing but he wouldn't hesitate to call him if he needed something, you know? It's frustrating.

I hope that you will get everything worked out and that graduating will make it less stressful for you two.

I get frustrated too because I compromised and moved to MA which is NOT my favorite place in the world to be with Marc and he won't even seriously discuss moving south or even back to Maine with me. I think I would get along with his family even more with more distance between us. I am constantly having my family compared to his family by MIL. She makes me feel like just because I don't celebrate every milestone with my family makes us not close but that is not true. I haven't lived near my family for years, she doesn't know how often I email my Aunt or talk to my parents on the phone. We are still close, just not her type of close, you know? So she looks down on that.

I haven't even spoken to MIL since we went out to the movies. And don't get me wrong, I had a decent time at the movies with her but she hasn't called to schedule anything else and on top of that she hasn't invited us over to dinner since before Christmas so I feel like I have done something to offend her or something.

She has offered to help us move on our moving day but I think that will be more stressful than helpful. We'll see!

 

[Roxychica7]

It's tough to keep everything balanced. It really is. One of the things that made me fall in love with Marc was how devoted he was to his family so I hate that it is such a difficult thing for us to balance now. I couldn't even tell you the last time his brother called him to just see how he is doing but he wouldn't hesitate to call him if he needed something, you know? It's frustrating.

I hope that you will get everything worked out and that graduating will make it less stressful for you two.

I get frustrated too because I compromised and moved to MA which is NOT my favorite place in the world to be with Marc and he won't even seriously discuss moving south or even back to Maine with me. I think I would get along with his family even more with more distance between us. I am constantly having my family compared to his family by MIL. She makes me feel like just because I don't celebrate every milestone with my family makes us not close but that is not true. I haven't lived near my family for years, she doesn't know how often I email my Aunt or talk to my parents on the phone. We are still close, just not her type of close, you know? So she looks down on that.

I haven't even spoken to MIL since we went out to the movies. And don't get me wrong, I had a decent time at the movies with her but she hasn't called to schedule anything else and on top of that she hasn't invited us over to dinner since before Christmas so I feel like I have done something to offend her or something.

She has offered to help us move on our moving day but I think that will be more stressful than helpful. We'll see!

Oh I totally agree. Blake will be an excellent dad when the time comes, he's so selfless. But again, like you, when it comes to having the family around, he spends SO much time making sure everyone else is fine that him and I lose time together. I'm working on it, but I don't know. Your family sounds like my family. I'm an only child, and we're all kind of independent to an extent. Like, I don't have any problem going to the mall by myself if I need something or spending time in the apartment DIS'ing if Blake isn't at home. As soon as we are in the area at Blake's house, mind you we hadn't spent much time together because of school/work and we want to sit down and grab some dinner before we head to their house, everyone invites themselves to dinner and it ends up being 8 people instead of 2 and of course Blake usually can't say no and I feel bad sometimes making him choose. But, Blake's mom says she feels like she doesn't know me yet. Well, obviously..if I'm usually the one making the trips to see YOU ALL and not the other way around. She wrote me this LONG email a week or two after my birthday, it upset me and I think that's another reason why I don't want to go see them on the 28th, I don't want to face them/have the confrontation. I feel like right now, I don't care about it as much as I should.

Although I have finally got it into Blake's head that I may move down there, but if and only if, 1) we BOTH can find jobs down there, 2) It's at least 30 mins away from his family so they're not over there all the time (Blake's sister in law made the mistake of moving a street over from them and they all treat her house like it's their vacation home) and 3) we can find a house that we can afford. But, mostly because of #1, we does realize that much at least though. It drives me NUTS when everyone (his mom and sister mostly) are like "Hey! When are you moving back home?" every single time we see them! AHH!

 

[Roxychica7]

Paula-Can I blame you for my procrastination today? Darn those "how much do you know" quizzes on facebook about disney movies and twilight!!

Although, that would be pretty fun to have all of us play them, it could get pretty darn competitive

 

[Lady Lallie]

Oh I totally agree. Blake will be an excellent dad when the time comes, he's so selfless. But again, like you, when it comes to having the family around, he spends SO much time making sure everyone else is fine that him and I lose time together. I'm working on it, but I don't know. Your family sounds like my family. I'm an only child, and we're all kind of independent to an extent. Like, I don't have any problem going to the mall by myself if I need something or spending time in the apartment DIS'ing if Blake isn't at home. As soon as we are in the area at Blake's house, mind you we hadn't spent much time together because of school/work and we want to sit down and grab some dinner before we head to their house, everyone invites themselves to dinner and it ends up being 8 people instead of 2 and of course Blake usually can't say no and I feel bad sometimes making him choose. But, Blake's mom says she feels like she doesn't know me yet. Well, obviously..if I'm usually the one making the trips to see YOU ALL and not the other way around. She wrote me this LONG email a week or two after my birthday, it upset me and I think that's another reason why I don't want to go see them on the 28th, I don't want to face them/have the confrontation. I feel like right now, I don't care about it as much as I should.

Although I have finally got it into Blake's head that I may move down there, but if and only if, 1) we BOTH can find jobs down there, 2) It's at least 30 mins away from his family so they're not over there all the time (Blake's sister in law made the mistake of moving a street over from them and they all treat her house like it's their vacation home) and 3) we can find a house that we can afford. But, mostly because of #1, we does realize that much at least though. It drives me NUTS when everyone (his mom and sister mostly) are like "Hey! When are you moving back home?" every single time we see them! AHH!

I have had confrontations like that with MIL too, they are not fun.
I have picked up a few helpful tips that have made things with MIL a little better. When Marc talks to her about anything about a decision we've made or what have you, instead of saying "I want or Leslie wants" he says "WE" It does make a difference. I do that too and it has helped, especially with the wedding plans. When I said "WE" she couldn't argue that Marc didn't want that, if you know what I mean.
I've also found that sometimes it's easier for "news" or decisions that she isn't going to like to be brought up by Marc when I'm not there, that way I don't have to see her reaction and be upset by it.
It took awhile for Marc to realize how hard these MIL/Inlaw dealings were for me but now that he has, he does try to help and make them easier on me. I am sure Blake will get to that point too. It's hard making them see that their first priority should be your little family now.

Paula-Can I blame you for my procrastination today? Darn those "how much do you know" quizzes on facebook about disney movies and twilight!!

Although, that would be pretty fun to have all of us play them, it could get pretty darn competitive

I've been doing a lot of them too! They are so much fun!

 

[ILuvCrush]

Paula-Can I blame you for my procrastination today? Darn those "how much do you know" quizzes on facebook about disney movies and twilight!!

Although, that would be pretty fun to have all of us play them, it could get pretty darn competitive

Sorry!! LOL!! My friend Mike was laughing at me about it the other day....You can take the girl outta the school but not the school outta the girl! I can't help that I still enjoy a good test... even if I've been out of college since '96 LOL!!!

I bet game night at gnomefest will be very competitive!! But with the AWESOME prizes I'm bringing it should be

Paula