No princess dress for me.

[ktlm]

I have an only also. It took us 4 years of trying to get her. I was hoping for a little girl and so was DH and we were so lucky to get her. But... just remember that when she is 13 and absolutely hates me your son will still be a Mama's boy and will still adore you! I have to admit I wish I had one of each. I never planned to have an only, but we are lucky to have a child at all. DD is such a Daddy's girl. I knew she would be and I am glad that she is (and I do get some good hugs and kisses too), but I would love to have had a Mama's boy too!

Plus, just because you have a DD doesn't mean that you would get to do BBB. My DD is 3 (almost 4). She is a girly girl who only likes to wear dresses. She usually throws a fit when you try to make her wear pants or jeans and has been that way since she was old enough to voice her opinion. However, although she is a girly girl, she took one look at the hair on the BBB girls on her 1st trip to WDW when she was 2 yrs 10 months and said-- I don't ever want to do that! We were lucky enough to get to go to WDW twice when she was was 3 and she has not changed her mind. She hates having anything in her hair for very long and usually pulls out ponytails, barettes, headbands etc after about an hour, if she leaves them in that long. If she got one of those doesn't come out for days BBB tight hairstyles it would be a disaster!

 

[LuvBaloo]

I think its natural to have some curiousity about what you don't have.

I have 2 girls, which is what I wanted, but I still am curious about a little boy. My DH is the only boy to carry on the family name, and there's lots of male traditions that will die out now, but he wouldn't trade his girls in for the world. Even DH's dad wouldn't trade his granddaughters to get a grandson. I think its natural for people to miss the things they know won't get, but its okay as long as it doesn't consume you.

 

[msmama]

Wow, I'm the opposite!

I saw all the frilly princess stuff, and all the little girls whining for it and though "I'm really glad I have a boy and don't have to deal with that!" LOL!!

 

[savannahcat]

You never know...one of my girlfriends had a little boy who LOVED dressing up in little girl clothes and playing princess.....and yes, I know what you are thinking and at eleven he seems to be "all boy." Another had a little girl who wouldn't be caught dead in a dress.

Sex isn't the be all and end all in gender identity - particularly for young kids.

Neither of my DDs are girly girls. No princess dresses in my house. We rarely meet a princess at WDW. No interest in the BBB, but the Pirate League on the other hand... I have a feeling I'll have to fork over some cash for that on our next trip!

 

[QVCshopper]

Well, my DS has an older sister who loves her Cinderella dress. About 18 months ago, I got her a green Tinkerbelle dress. Guess who decided it was his, since his favorite color is green? He was the cutest little Tinkerbelle around. I have pictures to show his future wife!

 

[debilovesmickey]

Yes I totally understand.
I have two wonderful sons, ages 17 and 20, but I will always long for a daughter. I am hoping for a granddaughter, but not quite yet!!

Debi

 

[Mrs. Charming]

*snip*

Truely if you think your sons or daughters don't pick up on the vibe that you wanted the opposite sex you are 100% wrong. I am the daughter to a man that wanted a SON. I know he loves me but he is also bitterly disappointed I was not a boy.

Me too... my dad doesn't seem to realize, even to this day that I'm a girl. He even called DD the "bambino." Ugh. Now that I think about it, FIL dumped my DD because my SIL had a boy.

I'd give anything at this point for any baby.

Ahh please don't think this is a flame of any sort, just sharing my experience.

 

[judyh1]

I have 2 girls and my husband wanted a boy all along...but i guess he has resigned to the fact that we will never have a boy. I am happy to have 2 girls as i get to bring them out for shopping and try out shoes and dresses. My husband has slowly improved his taste for dresses too...girls are fun but i guess boys are too Well...as long as they are healthy and well..i am thankful

 

[Lil' Grumpy]

take it from me, you never know...what surprises the future can
hold... or behold...until it happens.



the year our second son was born. i came across one


....outfit for a boy, . of course, my wife made me put it

back... not to jinx us ( she wanted a girl), & i did. but i hide...it ,
on the back rack.


long story short, i had worked all night...and the doctor..had
missed her dates. finally she was induced. however, the regular
labor nurse had called in...so they stuck....an inept nursery nurse.
[ who tried to catch up...my wife's pit drip, where there was no
doctor..in the hospital...] & when all heck broke loose, the nurse
panic...leaving us by ourselves.....except..students. they didn't
last.....after my wife's blood-curdling scream.....sent them ..
not walking but running out the labor room. { you know it's
trouble....when there's no doctor, and the husband.....is in
the "delivering position." }


the fact....he was not brain damaged...is proof of the miracle she
accomplished that night.

later, we heard this awful baby crying....& as i whispered to my wife,
..i feel sorry...for whoever get stuck...with that lil'monster....the
same inept..nursery nurse wheeled him into her room....he had
been "barred" from ever going back..to the nursery, ever again. &
he wasn't even..24 hrs..old.

..the good news....that lil'outfit...was still on the rack.

.....my mother passed 2 years later. just the weekend before, poking
holes..in baby jars...so the boys could catch...lightening bugs.

...... 5 years later, we just built our second home & my wife just graduated
from osu 's nuclear med program. do we try for a third...[ getting old ],

...& i can remember...how she reacted...."you can't ask me to go
thru...labor again". so that was that. too help my wife...cope i
helped her start ..a barbie collection....( explained..funny looks
i got..during hunting trips....picking up her barbies...?

..then another 5 years passed....& we had some kind..of fight, over
something stupid....& she said, " iam taking all three & leaving".....
in which....i replied, "leave the dog here". she made this funny look,
....you don't get it~

well , we are pretty darn older..for this adventure.....which meant
going to the high -risk doctors..from the start. including the amino.

& by now, it should be evident..we never do things..the easy way.
...when they did this amino.., they used this needle 2 feet long.
..and ultrasound...as not to "stick"..the placenta. as the dr. poked
her...the needle filled with blood. [ not what you liked to see...]
...but here's what made the critical difference, by our dr., he
didn't do anything..instead..he left it there..which allowed it to clot
..& then slowly pulled it out. ] he then redid the whole procedure,
.....for obtaining the fluid. was it over? not exactly. i told him....afterward,
not to lose it! [ half~way joking]. the dr., stated in 25 years
..his lab...has never lost.....amino fluid...right?!

so guess...what? * but just because ....i got on him, he kept...some on
his own. and he quit..that lab....as one time, is really one to many.
& he asked..my wife..not to tell me....& she didn't until our baby
was over 3- year old.

during her labor...she had every monitor in the world on her. stuff
she should had...on the last one. also my wife's has coal black hair.
.....our 2 boys....had their mother's coloring....however, my
sister...( * in my family, there were 10 kids..mostly boys...except,
my red~haired sister...& just by chance..had 3 kids..also. 2 boys &
one red~haired girl. ) . i could had fell over..when the dr.,....announced,
she isn't only a girl.....but a red~haired, too boot !,

..just liked her grandmother.

..& here we thought..our disney days were over. ps, my wife...made
all our disney trips, + cruises. i spent the whole year..dreading the
crowds..and .....dragging the kid ...all over, once again.

..but another lil'girl..gave us a precious gift.....she was about 3y/o.
we were staying @ the lodge, & heading out..to christmas party....
on one of those lil'boats. this lil'girl...just knew..,our daughter...was ariel.
she begged her mother...to ask if she could sit by her. i wished
i took their picture...., she had those baby doll eyes....& my
daughter was too young, to understand..what was going on...made
one prefect kodak moment.

i'm so happy..my wife....had a lil' . to thank her, i try to
do something....@ crt, by making up...my daughter 's autograph book
into.....a "baby brag...book.". thinking that the young princesses being
that age....& would react....to her mother. [ all i did was handed the
book for them to signed]


...princess aurora...didn't get it. then came snow white. my wife's
favorite.....so i couldn't asked for a better outcome. & she did! she
kept...them over between "sessions". and before leaving, the
snow white lady..whispered to our daughter...." you're a very special
young lady...to have a mother...that cares so much , to make
such a special book."

outside... i mentioned..to my wife, "honey , i noticed you didn't correct
snow white's mistake? ..., in which..she grabbed & squeezed
my hand. she deserved it.




..so if i may, i strongly suggest....you enjoy all the special times....you
can muster with your lil'fella...& keep the faith...because if life has taught
me thru all the tears, lil'miracles..do happen ...especially when one
don't give up hope. good luck in all your adventures,



just a footnote.."we"..esp. me...was never a big disney person..until
that lil' girl...shared her dream. [ i was an naval officer & did alot
military duty..in orlando..where i had to spend my weekends..doing
wdw..with our boys. was not thrill having to redo..with our lil' ]

but there's no way, i could say..no...to my wife's wanting to buy
....@ dvc. [ we checked it out..in 2002.....but wasn't interested until
we came across....blt by accident this past july. it is the gift of
memories...we want to pass on.... , that's our story...&
we're still adding to it, thanks...to that darn mickey!

 

[Luv Bunnies]

You sound like me a year ago. I have two wonderful boys (8 and 5) who I love more than anything. Last November it came as a shock when we found out we were pregnant. I have always wanted a little girl but was sure that I was having a boy. I even got out all of the blue clothes and hung them in the closet. I was shocked when they told us we were having a girl. So shocked that I went into denial. I refused to put the boy stuff away, and only bought 1 pink onesie. I was sure that the ultrasound tech was wrong. As I type this, I am looking at my beautiful 4 month baby girl. To this day I still can't believe it. We are in the process of planning her first trip to Disney in April and I am frantically searching for a princess dress in her size. Yes, I would have been happy with 3 boys, but I am so thankful for the chance to raise my princess.

I have a similar story that took a different turn. We had a 2 year old son when we found out we were expecting again. I'll admit to hoping for a girl so we would have one of each since we were planning to have two. At 18 weeks, the ultrasound tech said she was 99% sure I was having a girl. For some reason, I didn't believe it. I didn't buy any pink clothes. When people asked what I was having I'd say, "Supposedly it's a girl but we'll see." Then at 37 weeks, the same ultrasound tech said she was wrong and I was having a boy. I was like "Yeah, I kind of knew that."

Our beautiful, perfect boy was born the week after that. During the next few months, we had our suspicions confirmed that our oldest boy was mildly autistic. As the boys grew together, it made so much sense for our oldest to have a brother. Making friends and socializing is difficult for him but he has his brother who shares his interests and plays with him. I never looked back after finding out he was a boy. I don't know what I would do without either of my boys.

I've never missed any of the princess or frilly stuff. This past summer, we walked by the Princess Fantasy Faire at Disneyland and saw the long lines to see the princesses and people spending hundreds of dollars for merchandise. I asked my boys (14 and 11) if they'd like to go see the princesses. They gave me one of those "Duh Mom!" looks and then yanked us off to Space Mountain. Those are my kind of dudes!

 

[jacksmomma]

I have one son and I am a girly girl. I am completely happy with my son and would not have it any other way. I love being a boy mom. The only thing that frusterates me is the lack of selection in boy clothes and shoes. Man, in any given store there are 50 different styles of girl's shoes and 10 for boys, of those 10, 7 of them either have characters on them or they light up.

Just remember..with girls comes frills and hairbows, but also lots of drama...at any age.

 

[dfchelbay]

Consider it a blessing in disguise right now. Girls can be wretched little teenagers. Attitudes and mouths that are completely awful. We have a neighbor across the street with one boy and one girl...different as night and day. He's easy going and funny, while his sister is an angry, mouthy, drama queen. The language I hear that girl screaming is horrifying.

You are blessed with the angel you have.

 

[DawnM]

I have 3 boys and LOVE having them. I like the girlie things but every time I am around little girls I realize they are far more high maintainance!

In fact, I love boys so much that I gave birth to two and adopted the third!

Dawn

 

[ktlm]

Just remember..with girls comes frills and hairbows, but also lots of drama...at any age.

So true! My 3 year old is a complete and total drama queen. I don't even want to know what she is going to be like when she is 13!

 

[lizzyb]

I am a mother of 3 beautiful boys and although I would have loved to do the princess thing I wouldn't change my boys for anything.