NO I am NOT expecting!

[sconnell]

Ok, for the last freaking time, I am not pregnant! I may look pregnant, but I'm not. I may have a huge pot belly that I often forget to hold in, but I'm not pregnant.
Ok, so today one more sweet older lady asked when I was expecting... Of course, I sweetly told her I wasn't and then moved on like nothing happened.
It's not the first time this has happened. In fact, it's probably happened well over a dozen times since last summer. I'm sure when she glanced that way, I wasn't holding my big belly in, but I was busy doing something for her. See, I work in a church office and I see and help lots of people every day. Often (especially on Wednesdays) it's older people.

So, I really just needed to vent. I'm trying to get rid of it, but it's just so hard! It's not her fault, I really can look pregnant, but it seems to come on the days when I feel like I'm looking cute.

 

[fofinia]

Hi. I'm so sorry you are getting the dreaded "PG" comment! I hate it too! I'm so careful myself to never ask anyone if they are pregnant. I never want to be the one making the mistake! It's so embarrassing. Seems for me my stomach just wont' go away. I think I'm gonna have the 4 month pregnant stomach forever!!!

Good luck!

 

[ohMom]

(((hugs)))

 

[MunkyMe13]

 

[lkwssss]

I am sorry....the same thing happens to me after my hysterectomy....I am having so much trouble trying to lose my big belly and the way I handle it is probably not the best, but.....when it is someone that I don't know very well...I say no I am not pregnant I am fat....it usually embarrasses them so much they don't ever do that to anyone again.....lol

 

[sconnell]

Funny, I just go along with strangers. But, with people I know, I don't want them expecting the baby with me!

Wanna know something funny? I got a second comment later the same day I started this thread. Guess I'm not wearing that shirt anytime soon!

 

[RIDISNEYLOVERS]

Yup, I get that comment too and it burns me up.

Why is it that people that carry their weight in their stomach look fatter than people who have a flat stomach but big hips, thighs and butt????

Hugs to you - you are not alone in this belly fat battle!!

 

[Tarabra]

O.k., this is sort of embarassing, but it may help. After I had my first daughter, I quit breastfeeding, but was still finishing up my prenatal vitamins which had a lot of iron in it. I gained 10 lbs. almost overnight and my stomach blew up to where it looked like I was 5 months pregnant. (I was really 5 months postpartum) I even started wearing maternity clothes again. I took 3 pregnancy tests and my ob/gyn even gave me an ultrasound to see if I was pregnant since I hadn't had my period yet. Needless to say, I wasn't preg. but my Dr. asked if I was constipated. Hmmm...??? Not really, I was going to the bathroom at least once a day. Anyhow, his recommendation was citrate magnesium I think it's called. Like .89 at the pharmacy around laxatives. It turned out I REALLY was constipated and it was caused by the extra iron. It just caused by stomach to be very distended. After I took the citrate it gradually started coming down. I'm definitely not advocating laxatives by any means, but it was just this one time thing that really seemed to work. You always hear about that extra 5 lbs. of undigested meat that is stuck in the intestines, who knows, that could be part of it.

 

[corinnak]

I got a comment like this right after my first son was born - he was about 3 weeks old and WITH me. "When is the baby due?" Uh, about a month ago.

I have one shirt I can't wear cause it's empire waist and therefore even someone without a belly (which is not me these days) would look kind of PG while wearing it.

There is a teacher at my DS's school who is four or five months along and barely showing even at all - still wearing regular pants, I think! So I guess there is maybe some law of conservation at work here, but I must say, it's not fair.

 

[Tarabra]

I just thought of a couple more things that might help w/ the belly since I was just doing them myself. (I have a 6 mo old so still working on getting the abs back) One thing I read and catch myself doing is sticking my butt out and sort of arching my back in the old "pregnancy stance." Stand sideways looking in the mirror and pull your butt in and under your waist, hips forward. You'll be amazed how it pulls your stomach in. I always have to remember to stand like I did before the babies. It makes a huge difference. Another tip I read was (and you can do this anytime) is to think of your abs as an elevator and pull them in with 3 or 4 contractions. Release and do it again. 3 sets of 10 reps or as often as you think of it. You can do this while waiting at a red light or at the computer (I'm doing them now!!!)