no funds :(

[pookie10]

we were supposed to be doin disney in february, but my husband somehow pissed away my 3000 dollars saved towards it. Anyone know when they will have specials for late sept?

 

[mistysue]

Good news about September - you can probably go for half as much and the crowds will be lower.

 

[A Mickeyfan]

I am sorry.... DH's sometimes do things like that.. The September discounts should be out maybe in the summer... start watching for them around June.... and start saving, but don't tell him that is what I do If he knows I have extra money, he seems to need it for something for the house...

 

[Pumbaa_]

DH's sometimes do things like that

they do? Not in my reality

 

[okeydokey]

I honestly don't know what to say. Did your kids know you were planning on a trip in Feb? How horrible.

 

[Aliceacc]

To be honest, I would be far more concerned about him "pissing away" that kind of money without your knowledge or consent than I would with a Disney trip.

 

[ilovemk76]

we were supposed to be doin disney in february, but my husband somehow pissed away my 3000 dollars saved towards it. Anyone know when they will have specials for late sept?

Rather than finding out about a trip in September I would want to find out about what your DH pissed the money away at, what other funds he has pissed away and how we will prevent it from happening again.

To the PP - Husbands do not do this!

 

[NancyIL]

You have a bigger problem than no money for a WDW trip! How was the $3000 "saved"? Did you not realize your husband was dipping into the funds until they were all gone? You and your husband need to get on the same financial page.

 

[GOOFY4DONALD]

The OP did not say if he did this is one shot or 100 little shots. My DH would not piss away 3000 in one (or 5) sittings without my knowing about it but a hundred here and a hundred there is super easy to do.

 

[shortbun]

To be honest, I would be far more concerned about him "pissing away" that kind of money without your knowledge or consent.

Yeah, before I started saving money for September, I'd find a place to put the money my husband could not access. To me, this would be a red flag.

 

[Aliceacc]

Yeah, before I started saving money for September, I'd find a place to put the money my husband could not access. To me, this would be a red flag.

I don't even think it's about hiding the money. It shouldn't have to be hidden. If that is necessary, then Disney is the least of the issues confronting this family.

I think it's about financial security for the family. If $3000 in saved money can be "pissed away" I would be very concerned about where he turned the next time he wanted or needed some money. Would the mortgage go unpaid? Or the electric bill?

It's not about "his" or "her" money, it's about the financial security of the family. It's about trusting the decisions your spouse makes.

Now if that money was spent putting a tranmission into the car, and he forgot to tell her how he paid it, that's one thing. But it doesn't sound to me as though that's what we're talking about here.

My apologies if I'm wrong in my assessment.

OP, in the event that several of us have misinterpreted your post, take a look at www.mousesavers.com for info on discounts.

 

[MELSMICE]

they do? Not in my reality

Mine either

 

[SaraJayne]

I am sorry.... DH's sometimes do things like that.. The September discounts should be out maybe in the summer... start watching for them around June.... and start saving, but don't tell him that is what I do If he knows I have extra money, he seems to need it for something for the house...

Uh, no they don't.

OP, I'm so sorry all of your vacation money was spent. How disappointed and angry you must be.

 

[Sinderelly]

Maybe you should just take your kids and leave your DH at home since he blew all the vacation money. I hope you find a way to take your kids in Sept.

 

[bumbershoot]

they do? Not in my reality

When they do, it's not good! When mine managed to spend an extra $800 that he didn't even realize was in the account, because he refuses to properly balance a checkbook and just thought, all summer, without ever telling me, "oh wow, we have more money than I expected"....when that happened, he was taken OFF of money duty altogether!

 

[Swan4Me]

I have a seperate Checking & savings-apart from our joint accounts-so there's no way he could touch any saved WDW $$

What the heck did he spend $3k on?

 

[LSUDis]

Well, at least you get kudos for not just going ahead and charging the whole thing on your credit card anyway!

 

[arthur06]

I am a DH, and sometimes I do piss away $40 or $50 at the casino. DW would kill me (an collect the life insurance ) if I blew $100 there, I couldn't imagine blowing $3,000...

 

[Colleen27]

I don't even think it's about hiding the money. It shouldn't have to be hidden. If that is necessary, then Disney is the least of the issues confronting this family.

I think it's about financial security for the family. If $3000 in saved money can be "pissed away" I would be very concerned about where he turned the next time he wanted or needed some money. Would the mortgage go unpaid? Or the electric bill?

It's not about "his" or "her" money, it's about the financial security of the family. It's about trusting the decisions your spouse makes.

To me, it is an issue of respect and communication. I wouldn't necessarily make the leap to him blowing the mortgage or electric bill funds just because he went through what he likely saw as "extra" money. Clearly there's some disagreement and serious absence of communication when it comes to how to use discretionary funds, but that seems to be a fairly common "symptom" of one spouse being a spender/instant gratification type when the other tends towards saver/delayed gratification. I hear it from friends surprisingly often and it is something DH & I had to hammer out early in our marriage as well - one spouse is saving for a big trip or other high-dollar luxury purchase but the other doesn't see any problem with dipping into that savings for football tickets, to order pizza, to buy a new GPS for the boat, and other low-dollar extras that eventually add up to eroding the funds the "saver" was trying to put together for that big-ticket item.

OP, you have to have your DH on the same page about saving for your trip or the same thing will happen again and again. Compromise is key; if he feels like you're scrimping too much/keeping the family on too short a financial leash right now in pursuit of that eventual trip he's not likely to get on board with leaving the trip fund alone. Saving more slowly with everyone working together is better than saving quickly with that sort of resentment building.

 

[Nayan]

we were supposed to be doin disney in february, but my husband somehow pissed away my 3000 dollars saved towards it. Anyone know when they will have specials for late sept?

Well, looking at you're signature you have a trip planned in 2 months?