Despite that I work for a large hotel company, I don't stay at luxury hotels too often. The company has has us at a few choice properties before or course, which has been nice. The Waldorf Astoria Park City come to mind as just lovely.
One time though they took us for one-night for a meeting at this very fancy hotel in Virginia - not one that is in our portfolio. I did not care for it one bit. Yes, it was a super-nice room with all the luxury amenities and beautiful grounds, but it had a weird vibe. The staff was so defferent, like to the point of casting their eyes away from you. A housekeeper apologized to me for tossing some sheets into a laundry bin, as if it was an affront that I had to witness that (she was not in my way at all). It was a bit strange to me - like, you don't have to apologize for existing. It was a real 1%-er kind of place. That's not my thing. I was there feeling like my luggae wasn't fancy enough to be there!
*Full disclosure, I work for Hilton.