"Nice Heels"

[IdesOmarch]

I just let a woman in our office building (the main front door is locked, we have our own entrance and usually don't use it) but anyway, she was knocking, so I let her in. (We usually do as long as they don't look like a burglar or something). Anyway, she had on these rocking heels so I let her in and said "nice heels." She seemed to enjoy the compliment and said, thanks with a big smile on her face. She then proceeded to clog down the hall.

Point is, is that OK? If you get a compliment like that from a stranger do you feel good? Offended? Do you think the guy is trying to "pick you up." Just curious.

 

[luvmy3]

I don't see a problem with it. I mean if you said, "nice heels, I'd like to see what you look wearing just them", then there'd be problems

ETA I'd think its nice there is a guy out there who appreciates a fine shoe.

 

[Dax]

I just let a woman in our office building (the main front door is locked, we have our own entrance and usually don't use it) but anyway, she was knocking, so I let her in. (We usually do as long as they don't look like a burglar or something). Anyway, she had on these rocking heels so I let her in and said "nice heels." She seemed to enjoy the compliment and said, thanks with a big smile on her face. She then proceeded to clog down the hall.

Point is, is that OK? If you get a compliment like that from a stranger do you feel good? Offended? Do you think the guy is trying to "pick you up." Just curious.

It would make me feel good...Always nice for someone to compliment you..

 

[TheColtonsMom]

I just let a woman in our office building (the main front door is locked, we have our own entrance and usually don't use it) but anyway, she was knocking, so I let her in. (We usually do as long as they don't look like a burglar or something). Anyway, she had on these rocking heels so I let her in and said "nice heels." She seemed to enjoy the compliment and said, thanks with a big smile on her face. She then proceeded to clog down the hall.

Point is, is that OK? If you get a compliment like that from a stranger do you feel good? Offended? Do you think the guy is trying to "pick you up." Just curious.

We women in general are very into our shoes! We spend alot of time on picking them out and collecting them (at least I do) and they are not always the most comfortable thing to wear. Saying you liked her heels not only was a compliment on pretty shoes but probably made her feel good as it also complimented her taste as well as showing that 8 hours a day in heels is appreciated so compliment my shoes anytime always gives me a lift that has me walking on sunshine!

 

[Hoodie]

Honestly, if a man noticed my footwear, I'd probably assume he was gay and take the compliment! Definitely wouldn't think he was trying to pick me up. Pick up comments tend to be on things about 4 feet higher than my shoes.

 

[Liberty Belle]

Hmm...it depends. I do think it's slightly flirty. From a stranger, I'd probably not think much about it, but if you were a co-worker and seemed to want to talk to me a lot or gave me a lot of other compliments, I might find it a bit creepy.

 

[The_Alice]

Trust me, if I spend a lot of money (or heck even a little) on some nice heels, I want people to notice. You're fine especially if she seemed to appreciate it.

 

[FredinFL]

I think it's nice.

 

[tlbwriter]

Honestly, if a man noticed my footwear, I'd probably assume he was gay and take the compliment!

This.

 

[IdesOmarch]

Honestly, if a man noticed my footwear, I'd probably assume he was gay and take the compliment! Definitely wouldn't think he was trying to pick me up. Pick up comments tend to be on things about 4 feet higher than my shoes.

All the straight men I know (most of my guy friends) love and compliment women on heels. Its definitely not just a gay guy thing.

 

[tlbwriter]

All the straight men I know (most of my guy friends) love and compliment women on heels. Its definitely not just a gay guy thing.

In my experience, if a straight guy compliments you on an article of clothing, it's about how you look in that clothing ("those shoes look great on you.") If a gay guy compliments you on your shoes, it's more likely to be all about the shoes.

 

[IdesOmarch]

In my experience, if a straight guy compliments you on an article of clothing, it's about how you look in that clothing ("those shoes look great on you.") If a gay guy compliments you on your shoes, it's more likely to be all about the shoes.

I think its probably both, metrosexuals can appreciate how they look on the woman, plus appreciate the shoes or dress as well. I mean maybe not just metrosexuals, but some straight men that aren't also metro probably as well.

 

[Disney Doll]

I would take it as the compliment that it was intended to be.

One of the docs where I work has a lilac shirt and a lilac tie with deeper purple Mickey heads on it. Every time I see him when he is wearing that combination I say "Oh you're wearing my favorite outfit today" and we have a laugh, since he knows my love of Disney. I hope he's not taking it as a come on, because that isn't how it's intended at all.

I think most people can recognize a genuine compliment vs. a come on....

 

[Tinkermommy]

I love shoes. I do get compliments on the frequently from both men and women. I don't read anything into them, I take them a face value.

I always make sure my shoes stand out. Whether it's zebra print or metallic red patent leather, I wear them so people will notice and I enjoy when I get compliments on them.

 

[shortbun]

I just let a woman in our office building (the main front door is locked, we have our own entrance and usually don't use it) but anyway, she was knocking, so I let her in. (We usually do as long as they don't look like a burglar or something). Anyway, she had on these rocking heels so I let her in and said "nice heels." She seemed to enjoy the compliment and said, thanks with a big smile on her face. She then proceeded to clog down the hall.

Point is, is that OK? If you get a compliment like that from a stranger do you feel good? Offended? Do you think the guy is trying to "pick you up." Just curious.

"she had on these rocking heels so I let her in"
Yeah, I think you were flirting with her and I'm pretty sure you hoped she might react to you in a positive way, like flirt back.
You flirt on this board all the time and can't avoid, for some reason, being a little inappropriate.

So, no, I don't think it was ok. If it was someone who was simply trying to be nice, it would be ok. But, you've shown us, said straight out, that you have this THING about heels and women. Thus, your intentions were not innocent. This is my opinion. You might want to secure your boundaries with strangers.

 

[shortbun]

All the straight men I know (most of my guy friends) love and compliment women on heels. Its definitely not just a gay guy thing.

Oh, come on!!! I worked in offices with men and women for years and I NEVER heard a man comment on a woman's shoes. never. Well, I take that back, I did hear my boss say a woman wearing what I thought were gorgeous shoes should take her job as seriously as her shoes. And-he, the boss, was gay.

 

[Uncle Remus]

It must be Monday mornin', how was your weekend, Ides?

 

[IdesOmarch]

It must be Monday mornin', how was your weekend, Ides?

Weekend was great, thanks for asking, only bad part is, that its over and its now Monday. How's yours?

 

[IdesOmarch]

Oh, come on!!! I worked in offices with men and women for years and I NEVER heard a man comment on a woman's shoes. never. Well, I take that back, I did hear my boss say a woman wearing what I thought were gorgeous shoes should take her job as seriously as her shoes. And-he, the boss, was gay.

I"m actually surprised by that. The guy friends I have actually buy their women heels. Now your situation, (in your office) doesn't necessarily surprise me for this reason. I think in most offices these days, compliments are generally less common, because everyone is so paranoid that a mere compliment is going to get turned into a claim for sexual harrassment.

 

[IdesOmarch]

"she had on these rocking heels so I let her in"
Yeah, I think you were flirting with her and I'm pretty sure you hoped she might react to you in a positive way, like flirt back.
You flirt on this board all the time and can't avoid, for some reason, being a little inappropriate.

So, no, I don't think it was ok. If it was someone who was simply trying to be nice, it would be ok. But, you've shown us, said straight out, that you have this THING about heels and women. Thus, your intentions were not innocent. This is my opinion. You might want to secure your boundaries with strangers.

Did I say my intentions were not innocent?