New TTC Thread

[KiKi Mouse]

skuttle: You are right...we wouldn't be able to type because we kept lancing our fingers. They would be all calloused and covered in bandaids every month. I guess we could use our toes...LOL I told DH I was anxious to test yesterday but he is making me wait and I am going to honour his decision. He is trying to protect me from having a major meltdown.

That is great you were able to be honest and your friend understood. That's a great friend. For some people it would be all about them and they would be mad. I know a few myself.

Not sure what is going on with me. Temp dropped a bit and I feel like the witch is on her way. If she is just bring it on already so I can start a new cycle and get going for April. I just want to know one way or the other.
I know that if I were pregnant it would really take a miracle since my body is still figuring itself out after the m/c. Doesn't hurt to hope and pray though.

http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/20124b

 

[helenabear]

Hi everyone! I've been reading but of course no time for replying. Just had busy weeks at home with the holiday and a few things right after that.

Kiki, good luck to you. I will say this after having a miscarriage, it probably would be better if you weren't pregnant this month. If you are, the lining may not be quite ready to hold a viable pregnancy. That is why I was told to take at least a month off after mine. We wound up taking 2, but I knew my body needed to physically heal.

Allison, my fingers are crossed for you. I really hope that you won't see AF anytime soon!! Was your DH on spring break this week? Was he able to get the sample off? You truly have a wonderful friend there. I do know I would be equally as understanding if I were her though.

Aurora, good luck with the shower. Your SIL's mom sounds like she is very nosey and insensitive. I hate people like that.

Diana, I am so sorry about the miscarriage as well. We went through that in November of 2006. It still is heartbreaking for me at times. Physically I healed rather quickly but emotionally, I'm not sure I'll ever heal. The emotions after were rough for me and my doctor reminded me that the hormones really are out of whack and that I should expect to have those mood swings for a month.

Okay I am about to kill my cat. Spring must be in the air

 

[WDWAurora]

D&D-the monitor is just for ovulation. It is so simple to use-thank goodness.

Mine read PEAK fertility today! I'm so excited that I'm probably ovulating, it's sad. I wanted to call everybody I knew this morning, but realized there's nobody to call about this...So I know what I'm doing part of the night tonight. We've only skipped one day of 4 high fertility days and now today, peak, so that seems like it should be good. Hopefully tomorrow will be peak, too. I wish it was a little earlier so I would be able to know before the shower, but I'll take anything at this point. April 2 made 1 year since I went off the pill (a little more, but that's when I went to the GYN last year, so that's the date I go by) so I could technically be diagnosed now, so that's a little depressing.

skuttle-Your friend sounds like the kind every girl should have. Any news on the results yet?

The shower is definitely happening...I'm still looking for a dress that makes me feel great about myself, because I know I'll need it that day. I've gained so much weight from my non-miscarriage miscarriage (whatever it was in the fall) and I just feel like a house in everything. I bought a dress last night that was *ok* but I'm going back out today to try for something better.

 

[KiKi Mouse]

Mine read PEAK fertility today! I'm so excited that I'm probably ovulating, it's sad. I wanted to call everybody I knew this morning, but realized there's nobody to call about this...So I know what I'm doing part of the night tonight. We've only skipped one day of 4 high fertility days and now today, peak, so that seems like it should be good. Hopefully tomorrow will be peak, too. I wish it was a little earlier so I would be able to know before the shower, but I'll take anything at this point. April 2 made 1 year since I went off the pill (a little more, but that's when I went to the GYN last year, so that's the date I go by) so I could technically be diagnosed now, so that's a little depressing.

I will throw a disney style big "O" parade for you. You and DH are in charge of the fireworks!

 

[D&DDisney]

The shower is definitely happening...I'm still looking for a dress that makes me feel great about myself, because I know I'll need it that day. I've gained so much weight from my non-miscarriage miscarriage (whatever it was in the fall) and I just feel like a house in everything. I bought a dress last night that was *ok* but I'm going back out today to try for something better.

You find the cutest, most attractive outfit you can that makes you look as skinny as possible. I figure the pregnant women need to envy us for something too.

Happy O to you! I'm in the same time frame you are - today through Monday. And, my SIL just had a baby girl on Wed. So I intent to go hold her this weekend for extra baby luck. Baby dust for all!

 

[skuttle]

Sounds like many of us are on the same schedule, or very close!

Elaine, DH had spring break the week after Easter. I dropped off his sample on the Tuesday after Easter. I was told that my dr would receive the results approximately one week later. I haven't heard anything yet, but I figure it would take a little time for my dr to get the results and then contact me. I plan on calling Tuesday, which will be 2 weeks.

 

[D&DDisney]

Wouldn't it be great to all have luck in the same month?

I say, starting today, we go on strike.

Feel free to copy this smilie if you like.

 

[KiKi Mouse]

Kiki, good luck to you. I will say this after having a miscarriage, it probably would be better if you weren't pregnant this month. If you are, the lining may not be quite ready to hold a viable pregnancy. That is why I was told to take at least a month off after mine. We wound up taking 2, but I knew my body needed to physically heal.

Oh I know you are so right...and I am totally okay with it.

DH and I were childless last night...we had some big romance planned...AF showed up in the afternoon. I have surprised myself (and DH) by accepting AF and this morning I feel like "it's a new day" and my body is telling me that it has returned to "normal". I am going into this next cycle more settled and with a more peaceful feeling. I have a really good feeling the Ukrainian Easter Bunny is going to bring us a fertilized egg.

Ugh...just got back from shopping. Had a full meltdown in Michaels because of seeing the baby scrapbooking stuff. Then went to Toys R Us and parked beside the "expecting mother" spot.

 

[WDWAurora]

Well...just when I think things are looking up, I'm hit with something new. My other SIL is now pregnant, too. They came over yesterday and told us. They have 2 boys. I can't believe it because they're at a point in their life that is completely not practical for having another one (facing a move, change in job, change in financial status, etc.) and I know she was recently on the pill, so I just thought this was the one thing I wasn't going to have to deal with. I went from having DH's parents 3rd grandchild to, at the earliest, their 5th.

It's a little tough right now...

 

[KiKi Mouse]

Well...just when I think things are looking up, I'm hit with something new. My other SIL is now pregnant, too. They came over yesterday and told us. They have 2 boys. I can't believe it because they're at a point in their life that is completely not practical for having another one (facing a move, change in job, change in financial status, etc.) and I know she was recently on the pill, so I just thought this was the one thing I wasn't going to have to deal with. I went from having DH's parents 3rd grandchild to, at the earliest, their 5th.

It's a little tough right now...

Yes that would be tough. It's hard to put on the game face and then have to cry later etc.
Hang in there *hugs*

 

[helenabear]

Allison, do let us know when you get the results. At least you can slowly start eliminating or treating it once you get started.

Kiki, I am glad you undrestood what I meant. I know it sounded harsh, but I remember going through it myself. Even though it was a year and a half ago, I remember it like yesterday. Still breaks my heart to think about it all.

Aurora, my heart goes out to you. I know I always cheer on my friends/family who had a little more trouble getting pregnant. It still is hard for me to be happy for someone who has an "oops" or gets pregnant w/o really trying. I'll probably always be jealous like that Hang in there

 

[Jen_in_NH]

Hi everyone. I feel like I disappeared from this thread for months and it's only been a week or 2.

Skuttle - hopefully the results will be good, and you can move on to something else. The whole waiting part is tough though.

Aurora - that's tough about your SIL. It's hard when you want to be happy for them, but you want what they have.

I'm just so down with TTC lately. This month was another bust. The doc told me to call him if I wasn't pregnant this month, and he wanted to refer me to RE. I haven't even called yet. Somehow admitting that I need to go just seems so final, you know? Half of me keeps thinking that having DS was just blind luck, and it won't happen again. The other half says we tried for 18 months for him, and he's not even a year yet.

And I get to go to a baby shower for a friend in a few weeks. They're having twins. I really am excited for them, but still kind of bittersweet. One of my other friends is going with me - she's TTC, but has had 3 miscarriages in a row now. We figure we can get each other there, and cry on each other's shoulders on the way home.

 

[Octoberbride03]

I've sort of popped in b4, But Dh and I are going full blast at ttc now, so I was wondering if there were any good messageboards or communities out there for this topic. Any favorite place y'all like to visit?

TYIA

 

[skuttle]

Aurora, I am so sorry. It is so hard, I know. I agree with Elaine, it's always easier for me to be happy for a pregnancy that I know took a while. Does this SIL know about your situation?

KiKi, I always get down for the first day or two after AF arrives. You sound like you are looking at it the right way, though. You are lucky that AF arrived on its own with no problems.

Jen, I think all of us have been really down lately. I know I have been. I know what you mean about not wanting to admit there's a problem. I think that's part of the reason I put off having DH tested. Just kept thinking, "just one more month." I think going to an RE will actually help you feel better about the whole situation. Like you have some control and have a new roadmap. I hope you and your friend make it through the baby shower. I'm sure there will be a lot of tears on the ride home.

Maureen, This is actually the only place I go re TTC. I have checked out Baby Center's boards every once in a while, but I already feel comfortable here and know my story so I just stay on here. Good luck!!

 

[D&DDisney]

A few other forums I have used in the past...

http://www.hannah.org/ - If you don't mind a Christian/religious site, this one is good. I actually found a pen pal/email pal to write to and commisserate with.

http://babyuniversity.com/forums/index.php? - They have a TTC thread/section. I've lurked here but have not posted.

This is how I feel when I hear of an "oops"/easy pregnancy.

 

[skuttle]

This is how I feel when I hear of an "oops"/easy pregnancy.

Ya know, I feel that way too, but that's crazy for me because my DS was actually an "oops" pregnancy. I'm SO thankful for that oops now!! DH and I had been together 8 years (married for 3) when I found out I was pregnant with DS so who knows how long that oops took!

Today makes 2 weeks since I dropped off DH's sample. I'm out of the office all day today, so if I don't hear anything today I'll be calling first thing tomorrow morning.

Hope everyone has a great day!! Anyone close to a test date? I'm on CD24 today, but only about 5-6 dpo. My temp dropped a little this morning, so I'm a little bummed.

 

[TinkerbellMama]

Hi all,
Wondering if I can join in and post from time to time...
We have made the decision to have another child and have a time frame for TTC...haven't started yet due to several factors (one being already planned/paid for trips and the other being wanting DS to be a little bit older/less intense work before we add a new baby to the mix). We have never TTC before, as DS was a surprise while using a form of birth control, so we really don't know what to expect, in terms of the process or how long we'll have to try/wait. I am 35 and will be 36 before we begin TTC, so I am assuming that does have some bearing on the results...we shall see. I was 31 last time (32 when he was born). I know at my age we can get some help after a shorter time period (6 months, I believe?), so I just want to be aware of the different procedures available before we start trying...just in case.

ETA: I hadn't read ahead, but now I'm thinking this isn't the place for me (after reading some previous posts just before mine)... I did have an oops/very easy pregnancy and don't know that I would have any problems TTC or carrying a child to term again. I didn't realize it was a thread for those with infertility issues. Sorry.

 

[Madaboutthemouse]

I can't remember if I posted that our first round of IUI failed or not. AF came with a vengeance on Friday. Called for a baseline ultrasound and to get the results of DH's analysis when he gave the sample for the IUI. Turns out whoever was running the tests missed the fact that they were supposed to do a full analysis since we had some morphology issues that we needed clarification on. So...DH went in and gave another sample yesterday and the results were consistent with the better of the two previous tests. That made me feel a little better...that the IUI wasn't a total waste, but I was still ticked that they were careless in reading the chart.

Went in today for my baseline and I have two large corpus luteum follicles on my right ovary. So, it's back to bc for me for 3 weeks to hopefully shrink them before we get to try another IUI. Grrrr...this is all so frustrating!

To add to the emotional rollercoaster I'm on, my brother told me that my 18 y.o. cousin delivered her second baby yesterday. Great. Just what I needed to hear.

for all who are still "in" for this cycle! We need another string of BFPs!

 

[mickeyboat]

Hi all,
Wondering if I can join in and post from time to time...
We have made the decision to have another child and have a time frame for TTC...haven't started yet due to several factors (one being already planned/paid for trips and the other being wanting DS to be a little bit older/less intense work before we add a new baby to the mix). We have never TTC before, as DS was a surprise while using a form of birth control, so we really don't know what to expect, in terms of the process or how long we'll have to try/wait. I am 35 and will be 36 before we begin TTC, so I am assuming that does have some bearing on the results...we shall see. I was 31 last time (32 when he was born). I know at my age we can get some help after a shorter time period (6 months, I believe?), so I just want to be aware of the different procedures available before we start trying...just in case.

ETA: I hadn't read ahead, but now I'm thinking this isn't the place for me (after reading some previous posts just before mine)... I did have an oops/very easy pregnancy and don't know that I would have any problems TTC or carrying a child to term again. I didn't realize it was a thread for those with infertility issues. Sorry.

No, no, no - don't leave. This is a thread for everyone! Heck, I am not even TTC! I might jump off a bridge if I found myself PG at this point. I did have infertility issues and then an oops! pregnancy, along with several losses. You will find our experiences here run the gammit from easy conception, to years of trying. You will find lots of support either way, so, please stay! I am sure you will have lots to offer, too.

Lots and lots of luck and baby dust to you TM! My recommendation for you is to start charting your temperature to find out how regular your cycles are, and to pinpoint when (and if) you are ovulating. Then once you really start TTC, you will know when to BD (baby dance), and if you aren't having normal cycles, you will have some information to provide to your doctor. Charting stresses some people out, so don't worry if it is something you can't do.

Denae

 

[D&DDisney]

Sorry...don't leave....didn't mean to scare anyone away.
Sometimes, TTC issues can make one especially in the 2WW.