New TTC Thread

[esbrick]

They sure do! How about I send ya that drink?

Lady it's 5 O'Clock somewhere! Bring it on!

 

[esbrick]

Hi everyone. I read along here anytime on the dis following your triumphs and hopes and fears feeling the same way silently.

Today is a day where I just feel like giving up. A week from today I'll be 31. Last week I saw my primary care doctor(PCM) for a couple things and asked about a referral to a specialist because of difficulty conceving. Because of the nature of insurance, we have to have documented proof i.e. doctor papers stating that for the last year we have been "actively" trying to conceive. Well, I don't think in the seven years of marriage I've evern had my husband for a whole year to practice the whole art of conception.

Because of the insurance stuff, we have to start now with the official papers before I can go to a specialist. We guess what? My husband leaves in three weeks for 6 damn months and then is home for 3 months before leaving again for 3 months. I DO NOT EVER GET A YEAR WITH HIM!! I cannot get anyone here to understand this concept as this army place does not deploy like the normal army.

I'm trying to press the fact that I have documented proof about going off bc in 2007 and still nothing now. I can't get anyone to understand that this very small window of 3 years and with my husband gone alot is very likely the only window we have to have a baby. After this move, we will go back to a unit where he will be deployed every other year and home only 6 months with me when stateside.

I feel like I'm never going to even find out if something is "wrong" with us because no one will test. So I'll be 31 and I have a husband that wants a baby something fierce and we can't do a damn thing besides keep on keeping on. I'm going to keep on this darn doctor and force the issue even if I have to play some kind of health worry card to see a specialist.

Thank you for listening. No one else I know is going through this. All our friends have babies or pregnant now and just pat my hand when I try to shrug it off. I just want some results one way or the other.

Here's lots of baby dust for you all.

Hey Tina ~

I'm so sorry you are going through this! You may want to speak with the office administrators in your dr's office. They may know alot more about insurance believe it or not then your dr and they may have a work around of some sort that could help. Never undersestimate the adminstrators/ secretaries in any office they can sometimes perform miricles! Just a thought though. I hope this works out for you. Insurance is seriously misquided especially when it comes to women's health options. Sending pixie dust and prayers your way!



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[lovemygoofy]

Tina -

Did you ask your PCM if there is anything he can do? How about your gynecologist? They could at least get the process started with some blood tests. If the blood tests find something funky, that would be documentation for a specialist.

My insurance did not cover any infertility testing or treatment when we got started. I think it cost me $500 for the initial testing.

Something to think about. Lots of luck!

Denae

Thanks Denae,

I'm going to speak with my PCM again at my next appointment. I'm hoping she will find some more compassion about this. I've never seen a gyno since I've been in military care. My PCM has always done my well woman exams. The gyno's that I've known were reserved for preg women or women with issues and I guess I was never labeled that.

My well woman exam is in Novemeber and I'm going to ask for every test ever created from blood to phyiscal including a full physical that I haven't had in a while. I'm hoping that this will get the ball rolling onto something else.

 

[mickeyboat]

Tina -

Do you have regular cycles? I didn't so my docotr was able to have some testing done under that diagnosis as opposed to infertility.

Also, have you been charting? If you are able to do it for a couple of months before your well woman exam, it will give your doctor something to go by to figure out whether you are ovulating or not.

 

[lovemygoofy]

Tina -

Do you have regular cycles? I didn't so my docotr was able to have some testing done under that diagnosis as opposed to infertility.

Also, have you been charting? If you are able to do it for a couple of months before your well woman exam, it will give your doctor something to go by to figure out whether you are ovulating or not.

Well I'm having a regular cycle. Very seldom is my AF late but very seldom do I show signs of ovulating so I'm confused as all get out. I guess I was hoping that something was just happen *snap* and one month I'd miss a period and be pregnant and lalalalala live happily every after. I'm still hoping and haven't gave up though.

 

[D&DDisney]

Skuttle - Any news yet??? Did you test?

Welcome Tina! Hope your stay is a short one and I hope you get some answers soon. We're always here if you need to chat or rant.

Esbrick - It's 5:00 on the east coast.

Let me pour ya one or two.

 

[esbrick]

Allison ~ How'r ya doin?

D&DDisney ~ I'm on my way home to get on my flannel pants and t-shirt and grab a coldy from the fridge! I'll be joining you in a bit!

Ladies we are totally on a rollercoaster with our TTC journey, and although I wish none of you were here, I gotta tell you I'm glad I met yas!

 

[mrsklamc]

Well, when Esbrick wished me a short stay I don't think this is what she meant...

I went in and they thought it might be my thyroid because the ARNP noticed swelling in my neck. Nope, I have PCOS and the thyroid is a total different matter. After a CT scan and and an ultrasound, I now have to have a biopsy...and back on BC until they make sure it's not cancer.

Tina- did you know they sell ovulation test kits at the dollar tree? Pregnancy tests, too....saved me a ton of money when I went off BC and no period, no period, no period...

 

[esbrick]

Aww crud! I'm so sorry! The thyroid can have a lot of crazy symptoms. These are the times I pray for NEGATIVE test results!!!

 

[mrsklamc]

Aww crud! I'm so sorry! The thyroid can have a lot of crazy symptoms. These are the times I pray for NEGATIVE test results!!!

There's definitely something there...My aunt had benign tumors, so that's what were're praying for...If that's what it is, just take em out and back to TTC.

 

[KiKi Mouse]

Hi everyone. I read along here anytime on the dis following your triumphs and hopes and fears feeling the same way silently.

Today is a day where I just feel like giving up. A week from today I'll be 31. Last week I saw my primary care doctor(PCM) for a couple things and asked about a referral to a specialist because of difficulty conceving. Because of the nature of insurance, we have to have documented proof i.e. doctor papers stating that for the last year we have been "actively" trying to conceive. Well, I don't think in the seven years of marriage I've evern had my husband for a whole year to practice the whole art of conception.

Because of the insurance stuff, we have to start now with the official papers before I can go to a specialist. We guess what? My husband leaves in three weeks for 6 damn months and then is home for 3 months before leaving again for 3 months. I DO NOT EVER GET A YEAR WITH HIM!! I cannot get anyone here to understand this concept as this army place does not deploy like the normal army.

I'm trying to press the fact that I have documented proof about going off bc in 2007 and still nothing now. I can't get anyone to understand that this very small window of 3 years and with my husband gone alot is very likely the only window we have to have a baby. After this move, we will go back to a unit where he will be deployed every other year and home only 6 months with me when stateside.

I feel like I'm never going to even find out if something is "wrong" with us because no one will test. So I'll be 31 and I have a husband that wants a baby something fierce and we can't do a damn thing besides keep on keeping on. I'm going to keep on this darn doctor and force the issue even if I have to play some kind of health worry card to see a specialist.

Thank you for listening. No one else I know is going through this. All our friends have babies or pregnant now and just pat my hand when I try to shrug it off. I just want some results one way or the other.

Here's lots of baby dust for you all.

**hugs** )

I was 36 when I met my DH. I was lucky to have a daughter from my first marriage which I had at 31 y/o. I was even luckier to meet DH who wanted children as well. we were married in 2006 and had our daughter in January 2007. Between then and now I had two miscarriages which were both like a big kick in the ychees. KWIM? The other day I turned 43 and I am 16 weeks pregnant and this one seems to be sticking. I wouldn't suggest trying to get pregnant or being pregnant in your 40s. The point I am trying to make is that at 31 your days of babymaking are certainly not close to being over and I am here to send some positive thoughts and hope your way. Don't give up and don't beat yourself up too much. I know it is frustrating waiting for doctor appts. and I am sure dealing with insurance issues is not fun but try to see beyond that and rememember at the end of all of this you may have a beautiful child and you can put this all behind you.

 

[skuttle]

10dpiui- BFN. I'm trying not to get disappointed yet. It's still early to test, I know. Still sucks though.

mrsklamc...I'm so sorry!! I hope the tests come out okay!!

Tina...Slow down and take a breath! I agree with Denae...if you haven't already, you need to start charting to try to figure out if you are ovulating. Having a few charts will really help you get the ball rolling next time you see a Dr. You could also do the OPKs like mrsklamc suggested...Dollar Tree or you can buy really cheap ones on the internet.

When I first was having problems, my Dr ran a glucose test as well as thyroid...both I think you could get coded for something other than infertility. It's a start at least.

I've been seeing my OB/GYN for everything so far. If this IUI fails, she'll send us to an RE. We've been TTC #2 for over 3 years now. I think things were slow going for us in the beginning because we already had one easy and successful pregnancy. I think if we were still TTC our first, she would have been a lot more aggressive.

 

[esbrick]

Great ideas for Tina ladies!

Allison ~ :hug

 

[D&DDisney]

Ladies we are totally on a rollercoaster with our TTC journey, and although I wish none of you were here, I gotta tell you I'm glad I met yas!

It is great to have friends who understand.

Well, when Esbrick wished me a short stay I don't think this is what she meant...
I went in and they thought it might be my thyroid because the ARNP noticed swelling in my neck. Nope, I have PCOS and the thyroid is a total different matter. After a CT scan and and an ultrasound, I now have to have a biopsy...and back on BC until they make sure it's not cancer.

Sending prayers your way that this is just a small bump in the road and nothing serious. Hang in there!

10dpiui- BFN. I'm trying not to get disappointed yet. It's still early to test, I know. Still sucks though.

Ugh!!! That does suck. But it is early. Still have fingers crossed. If all else fails you can join Esbrick and I with a drink.

 

[skuttle]

12dpiui: BFN

 

[esbrick]

How's everyone doin?

Wish it were 5PM already. Very tired today.

Hope you all have great weekends!

E

 

[mrsklamc]

Biopsy was yesterday...prayers appreciated while we wait.

 

[mickeyboat]

Biopsy was yesterday...prayers appreciated while we wait.

Sending some up.

Denae

 

[Minnesota!]

Prayers for you and &&& good news from the biopsy.

Allison - I am so sorry you got that ugly BFN (((((((hugs))))))

 

[mrsklamc]

Hey have you guys seen the new First Response OTC test to see if you are fertile? I don't know if they are testing for FSH?