New TTC Thread

[Leger13]

Mrs Charming, I hope everything will be okay. Keep thinking good thought, but I know that is hard! I will be thinking of you..



Well, Sunday I took a test way early and it was positive! I was good with it all day, but for some reason today I am a wreck. Every twinge, every cramp has me feeling like I will throw up I am so worried something will happen. I called my Dr.'s office, and they want to see me the 13th, but said to call if I have any spotting or anything since I MCed at 6.5 weeks last time. I think my ovulation day must have been off, I thought it was Christmas eve/day, so there is no way I should have gotten a positive with a regular test (this was not even an early result test) on Sunday. Positive this morning too, just to be sure.

I promised myself I wouldn't do this, as it is not good for the baby. I also WANT to be positive, excited, and happy and I was yesterday. I know that being cautious about it rather than happy won't make it any better if something does happen. I have no reason to even think anything will at this point, but for some reason anxiety is taking over. I need to stop...

I think I will go take a nap and watch some sitcoms or something on TV...get back in a good mood. DH doesn't want to mention anything to anyone, but I have a few people I want to say something to. If all stays well, great. If things go wrong, it makes it easier when those that care know...I don't want to pretend it never happened if, God forbid, something goes wrong.

congrats on the positive. I know it's easier said than done but try to relax. Fingers crossed that this is a sticky bean and you go full term and wind up a very happy mama when all is said and done.

Irisbud- - Congratulations! I know it's early but try to relax and be happy, that is such great news!

And welcome Leger13- I hope IUI is successful for you two. Me and my husband are your guys' exact same ages.

Pollito- I have to use the nasal sprays for my allergies (flonase/nasarel) and those are out while TTC because there are steroids in them. For some reason the claritin/allegra/zyretec doesn't work for me- I wish it did. I might just give them another try this year out of desperation Thank you for the link, I will save that.

Well over the holidays we sent out a little "year end" newsletter as we always do and my SIL just emailed me and said she could "read between the lines" and she could tell that we were planning to have a baby in 2010... I have no idea where she got that hint because that was definitely not implied in ANY way. She said that they gathered all of their baby stuff- stroller/swing/car seat and crib and it is all ready for us to pick up and that she is really excited.... I haven't replied yet, I don't feel like crying today- what even made her come up with this thought?

Our families have no idea that we are/have been trying for a baby. I would love to take all of the baby stuff so that we wouldn't have to buy anything...but if we never have a child it would just make me cry- but if I ever did get pregnant I would sure wish we had it all!

Oh man, those well meaning people are always the hardest to deal with. I'm not really sure how I would handle that either. I was going to tell you to be honest with her about how her email made you feel but then I saw you say you don't want your mil or fil knowing about you TTC so I'm not really sure what to say. Maybe just tell her to back off and you will tell everyone when it does happen. Good luck. Families can be so hard to deal with. Especially nosy ones. And I agree with the other poster that said that you will want to buy your own things for your own baby. It will be just that much better. Especially making your registry. Oh I dream of that day.

 

[esbrick]

Hi ladies! Been catching up most of the day! Found out I can access DIS on my BB while in Ireland so here I am!

First off CONGRATULATIONS ladies! I did the happy dance this morning and said a prayer for sticky beans for all! That's great news.

I am happy to report that out 2nd wedding was fantastic and we had a lovely time.

I am sad to report that of course AF came 2 days before. I had a good cry and fortunately had a few distractions. I will call the RE when I get home. So that being said D&DD I'm still with u sister! Let's pull up our bar stools and have a chin wag!

Leger13 Welcome! As the girls have said I hope ur stay is a short one!

I just want you all to know your in my thoughts. Ill be back on Saturday night so will be able to login properly on Sunday! I still plan on looking at the bb during the day but may take me a while to post back.

Take care and Happy New Year! Yes it sucks that this is how we have to meet but at least we have eachother!

 

[D&DDisney]

I am happy to report that out 2nd wedding was fantastic and we had a lovely time.

I am sad to report that of course AF came 2 days before. I had a good cry and fortunately had a few distractions. I will call the RE when I get home. So that being said D&DD I'm still with u sister! Let's pull up our bar stools and have a chin wag!

I am so glad you are having a great 2nd wedding. So sorry to hear about AF.
She came to visit me over the weekend. I am so bummed that I feel like throwing in the towel. Not sure a drink will even help me now.
Am I going to have to face the fact that this will NEVER happen??? This just totally STINKS!!!!

 

[esbrick]

I am so glad you are having a great 2nd wedding. So sorry to hear about AF.
She came to visit me over the weekend. I am so bummed that I feel like throwing in the towel. Not sure a drink will even help me now.
Am I going to have to face the fact that this will NEVER happen??? This just totally STINKS!!!!

Oh honey I'm sending you a big hug right now. I can't tell you that this will pass what I will tell you is that getting it out is better then keeping it in. I don't know what any of our futures hold but until the lady sings were in this and can't give up. It sucks its rotten and I wouldn't wish it on anyone but infortunately this is the hand we've been delt.

Take a break, step back, do what you gotta do and if you give up hope I will hope for you! We can only do/ deal with so much so give yourself a break which is easier said then done and we'll hope again when ur ready. That goes for all of yas too!

Here's to us, the ones here now and the ones who've been here and gone! The strongest women on the DIS!

 

[Leger13]

Well I'm 7 dpo so 1 week of He@# is over. My temps are continuing to climb which I hope is a good sign. I am so ready to either get my BFP or just quit trying.

Fingers crossed that the high temps are a good sign!!

I'm with you I have had breast tenderness belly twinges and I'm super emotional. We went it alone this month so I could have a break but if I get a BFN then I am done for a while. I cannot even think about it anymore. Everyone around me is pregnant and I am having a hard time with it. Of course not the girls here they all have waited so long for there little miracles

Irisbud- Congrats I am so happy for you. Baby sticking dust.

Mrs. Charming- He is amazing, but a little terror

I totally understand needing a break. I hope that this is your miracle month for you. TTC is NOT fun when you have to try and try and try.

Good luck soontobewed and wdworbust!

Thanks for all of the well wishes everyone. I can't wait for our first appointment, but I don't want it to get here any sooner, as that would mean I had to go in early because something wasn't right.

I actually think that appt will be too early to see anything, but I will feel some reassurance if I have bloodwork done then, etc. My CBEFM showed peak Dec 24-25, but I was able to get a very strong, quickly developing positive on Jan 3 using a regular tests (not an early result). (I just decided to test then so I could tell myself it was too early if I got a BFN...), so I am not sure that the CBEFM was right.

If the CBEFM was right, I would be at 4 weeks and 5-6 days at my appt time, so too early for heartbeat or anything, but I will not complain about that as I will feel better getting a blood panel, etc. done and getting a new vitamin perscription as mine will just make it to that date.

When I MCed last time, they said everything looked good with hormone levels, etc., and the most likely problem was a genetic problem. I am hoping that it was just a fluke and won't occur again. I feel a little better today than I did yesterday, but still dread going to the bathroom as I am so afraid to see any spotting (sorry, TMI)

I would probably be paranoid too about spotting or the same thing happening again if I had m/c'd prior to a pregnancy. I'm glad you are going to the dr. That will at least hopefully put your mind at ease about this pregnancy that it is viable and you will carry to term. Good luck!

Hi ladies! Been catching up most of the day! Found out I can access DIS on my BB while in Ireland so here I am!

First off CONGRATULATIONS ladies! I did the happy dance this morning and said a prayer for sticky beans for all! That's great news.

I am happy to report that out 2nd wedding was fantastic and we had a lovely time.

I am sad to report that of course AF came 2 days before. I had a good cry and fortunately had a few distractions. I will call the RE when I get home. So that being said D&DD I'm still with u sister! Let's pull up our bar stools and have a chin wag!

Leger13 Welcome! As the girls have said I hope ur stay is a short one!

I just want you all to know your in my thoughts. Ill be back on Saturday night so will be able to login properly on Sunday! I still plan on looking at the bb during the day but may take me a while to post back.

Take care and Happy New Year! Yes it sucks that this is how we have to meet but at least we have eachother!

Thank you for the welcome!

 

[Leger13]

I just wanted to give a little update on what's going on with me and my husband. I had some insurance issues with getting in with a new doctor so my husband and I decided we should just go back to the dr we were with 2 years ago. We never got any treatments or anything from that dr. Just Dh's s/a and an ultrasound test and then my DH had his mental break down with everything. So here we are 2 years later going to the same dr. I got an appointment with her for Jan 15th. I really wanted to get in on this next cycle but I think I will be too far into it by then for the dr to be motivated to do that. Unless she wants us to try a natural IUI first. If we can't get in on this cycle then I want a medicated IUI. Screw natural. I've proven anything natural with us doesn't work. I'm not ready to waste any time. So I'm hoping that if I have to ask for some meds (clomid or something) that she will just be willing to give it to me. I'm excited and nervous for this appointment. I'm really hoping that the dr will just do treatments as we want/ask for because I don't want to have to go through any more testing. I know there is nothing wrong with me. It's DH. So lets move on.

Anyways, that's where I am now. I'll update again after we go to our appointment.

 

[irisbud]

Esbrick: Glad to hear you had a great wedding. Sorry AF arrived though

Ledger: Hopefully your doctor will be proactive and will listen to you about further testing.

 

[Leger13]

Esbrick: Glad to hear you had a great wedding. Sorry AF arrived though

Ledger: Hopefully your doctor will be proactive and will listen to you about further testing.

Thanks irisbud I really hope so.

 

[WDWorBUST]

Well 9dpo and my temps have dropped a bit the last two days.....not anywhere close to the coverline even....but down. Another LONG week left to go......

 

[WDWorBUST]

Leger - I'm keeping my fingers crossed that your doctor will be proactive and you can move forward this next cycle.

 

[Mrs. Charming]

Well 9dpo and my temps have dropped a bit the last two days.....not anywhere close to the coverline even....but down. Another LONG week left to go......

It's not over until the red witch shows! My temps were all over the place, so don't give up yet. And hey, I think there's something to those belly talks!

 

[Mrs. Charming]

I just wanted to give a little update on what's going on with me and my husband. I had some insurance issues with getting in with a new doctor so my husband and I decided we should just go back to the dr we were with 2 years ago. We never got any treatments or anything from that dr. Just Dh's s/a and an ultrasound test and then my DH had his mental break down with everything. So here we are 2 years later going to the same dr. I got an appointment with her for Jan 15th. I really wanted to get in on this next cycle but I think I will be too far into it by then for the dr to be motivated to do that. Unless she wants us to try a natural IUI first. If we can't get in on this cycle then I want a medicated IUI. Screw natural. I've proven anything natural with us doesn't work. I'm not ready to waste any time. So I'm hoping that if I have to ask for some meds (clomid or something) that she will just be willing to give it to me. I'm excited and nervous for this appointment. I'm really hoping that the dr will just do treatments as we want/ask for because I don't want to have to go through any more testing. I know there is nothing wrong with me. It's DH. So lets move on.

Anyways, that's where I am now. I'll update again after we go to our appointment.

I hope they can be aggressive with your treatment, too. I think that since you have all the "evidence" that maybe the Dr. will be willing go right ahead with the medicated IUI. And you never know, a natural IUI might work for you since it's your DH with the not-so-stellar spermies, not your eggies.

 

[Kronk's girl]

Esbrick I am glad the wedding went well and I hope you are having a great time in Ireland- sorry about the AF visit right before

I have decided that I am going to try to be really positive this month- I am only going to think good thoughts- this is the month! This will be it-- January '10 I am going to get pregnant! Okay...well I have really log cycles so technically it would probably be February '10- but this cycle- this is it! I am going to keep busy, focused- but not too focused and most of all positive! This is a NEW YEAR!

 

[Leger13]

Well 9dpo and my temps have dropped a bit the last two days.....not anywhere close to the coverline even....but down. Another LONG week left to go......

Well, that is good that your temps are no where near your CL. That always still looks good. Continuing to keep my fingers crossed for you. The two week wait sucks!

Leger - I'm keeping my fingers crossed that your doctor will be proactive and you can move forward this next cycle.

Thank you so much WDW. It means a lot to have such great support.

 

[Leger13]

I hope they can be aggressive with your treatment, too. I think that since you have all the "evidence" that maybe the Dr. will be willing go right ahead with the medicated IUI. And you never know, a natural IUI might work for you since it's your DH with the not-so-stellar spermies, not your eggies.

Thank you so much Mrs. Charming. And you are right, a natural cycle could just do the trick. I'm willing to do the natural cycle if my RE wants to try that with this cycle. I don't know how I will feel about it next cycle though. I guess it all depends on what me and my DH decide together so hopefully that since it's our money my dr will just do whatever we ask. It's those decisions that are going to be the hardest I think.

Esbrick I am glad the wedding went well and I hope you are having a great time in Ireland- sorry about the AF visit right before

I have decided that I am going to try to be really positive this month- I am only going to think good thoughts- this is the month! This will be it-- January '10 I am going to get pregnant! Okay...well I have really log cycles so technically it would probably be February '10- but this cycle- this is it! I am going to keep busy, focused- but not too focused and most of all positive! This is a NEW YEAR!

That is a GREAT way to be. It's always so much better when we can get ourselves to be positive about things. I really hope that Jan/Feb '10 is YOUR month!! I'm trying to be positive too and so is my DH. Just the fact that he is being so supportive has got me very excited for this year. My DH actually txtd me saying "this is our baby year" I hope 2010 is the baby year for us all. Hopefully we can all help eachother to stay positive.

 

[Kronk's girl]

My DH actually txtd me saying "this is our baby year"

That is so sweet! I am glad you guys are both on the same page- I have to get DH to think positive this month too because I think he is feeling a little pressured at this point. I am not going to tell him when I ovulate- which is hard to hide because of my bad cramps, but I am going to do my best to hide it and make him think that we are just newlyweds again

Here is a positive post I just saw- I guess we really never should give up hope!
http://disboards.com/showthread.php?t=2364804

 

[Leger13]

That is so sweet! I am glad you guys are both on the same page- I have to get DH to think positive this month too because I think he is feeling a little pressured at this point. I am not going to tell him when I ovulate- which is hard to hide because of my bad cramps, but I am going to do my best to hide it and make him think that we are just newlyweds again

Here is a positive post I just saw- I guess we really never should give up hope!
http://disboards.com/showthread.php?t=2364804

Thanks It's really a breath of fresh air because it has taken me nearly 5 years of TTC to get my DH on the same page with me about TTC. I'm loving every moment of it and I hope that it's not just a fluke. I think that is a good idea with your DH to just treat this cycle as if you are newlyweds again. He will probably appreciate that. Hopefully that will get him on the positive train with you. That stinks that you have such bad cramps when you ovulate. Us women have to go through so much.

And wow on that post. That is just AMAZING!!!! Thanks for sharing that. That is the definition of "when there is a will there is a way". I have goose bumps after reading that. It makes me wonder though why infertility treatments did not work for them. I'm always the person that wants all the info

 

[Mrs. Charming]

Ugh... more spotting today. Someone shoot me! Or at least tell me to schedule the D&C or something... ugh.

 

[WDWorBUST]

Ugh... more spotting today. Someone shoot me! Or at least tell me to schedule the D&C or something... ugh.

Now - NONE of that. Think positive.....there is probably not a thing wrong. Just call your doctor and see if they will check your levels for your peace of mind. Hang in there.....I know it's hard. I'll be praying for you.

 

[esbrick]

I agree w/ WDW! I'm sending hugs across the ocean all the same!