disneysteve said:
Absolutely. The book quotes various people making not-so-big wages but who choose to buy certain luxury items. One guy made 30K but bought a 3K set of Callaway golf clubs. Lots of examples like that. These folks weren't necessarily in debt, though. They just found one area that was really important to them and spent freely in that area even though they may live simply in other areas.
DW and I are certainly like that. I see a lot of ourselves in that book. For example, we bought new cookware 2 weeks ago: Calphalon triply stainless. We paid $400 for the set of pots and pans. But we both love to cook and do it frequently and can really notice and appreciate the difference between the professional quality cookware and the stuff the average family is using from Target or Wal-Mart. Did we NEED to spend that much? Of coure not. But, if you look in our pantry you'll find lots of store brand grocery items. The kitchen drawer has a whole file of coupons. And our closets are filled with clothes from Target, Wal-Mart and other discount stores. So we may splurge in one area that really matters to us but be very thrifty in other areas to compensate.
The trouble only comes when people decide to splurge in too many areas and fund that luxury lifestyle with credit.
This was a very good post. My DH just bought a set of golf clubs--I told him to do that rather than me buying him a Christmas gift. We could afford those Calloways, but instead he got a "no name" set for about $600 from a local guy who makes custom built clubs based on your swing and style. There's just no reason for him, a twice a month golfer, to have that much money invested in clubs, and he's thrilled with the set he had custom built for a very reasonable amount of money.
I have the Calphalon One cookware. Like Steve, I also like to cook and have found that the Cal One is simply superior to my old Wal-Mart brand pots and pans--and I expect it to last about 20 times as long--so larger initial investment, long term same cost. It truly does cook the food better. I also have a pantry closet stuffed with lots of store brands. Things like flour, sugar, canned veggies, some soda and cereals, it's all the same. I do buy name brands if I have a coupon and they will be cheaper that way. I buy in bulk when things are on sale--last night I ran into Publix to buy a gallon of milk, and the first thing I see is buy one get one Froot Loops. Guess what? I came out with the milk and two boxes of cereal. I didn't need the cereal this week, but next week when it's not on sale, I'm covered and I'll use that budgeted money to buy something else at a deep discount--it's "Snowballing to ultimately cut your grocery bill in half". There are weeks when nothing I use is on sale, and because my pantry is stocked with items I've bought in bulk when they were on sale, I go to the market and leave with milk and a few other essentials that are either perishable or never go on sale. In the long run I save a TON of grocery money that way.
I do buy mostly name brand clothes, but I buy on sale or at outlets, and seldom pay full price for anything, and I also buy very few clothes anymore--I'd rather have six great outfits by my favorite label bought on clearence than 20 from discounts stores--for the same cost. I also buy clothes that don't need dry cleaning, except DH's suits. Neither of us do Starbucks--maybe once or twice a month we'll grab coffee and a donut at Dunkins on a Sunday morning. As Steve said, it's all in priorities.
Where we splurge is travel. We like to travel first class, otherwise we'd just rather stay home.
I have a friend who her and her husband constantly have to keep up with the Joneses. Unfortunately they make maybe $50K a year between them, owe everyone and their brother (last I knew they had some $40K in judgements against them) and see nothing wrong with spending $5000+ on a vacation or $3000 on a widescreen TV (both of which they did last year on a $50K income--see a problem here?) Well, it's all come back to bite them now, as they have decided they want to buy a house. They thought that as long as they pay their current bills ontime for a few months, they can get a mortgage. Boy was she floored when yesterday I told her that they would have to have all the judgements and collection accounts paid in full before they could even THINK about getting a mortgage. Based on their current income, even if they stopped buying anything but the absolute essentials (and cancelled the $100+/month cable bill

) they would be lucky to have that all paid off in about seven years, maybe longer as it keeps accruing interest. But that was the choice they made, and now they will ahve to live with their decision.
And that's what it comes back around to, personal choice and personal responsibility. Of course there are sometimes very extenuating circumstances. But 99.9% of the people who get themselves dug into debt do so because either they have no control over their spending or they live beyond their means. Neither one of these is a valid excuse or reason to complain about higher monthly minimum payments IMHO, as those people shouldn't have been spending the money to begin with. Dance classes for Suzie are not a neccesity. All the pay channels on cable is not a neccesity. Food, housing, heat, basic transportation, and medical care are. In fact, they are about the only things that are true needs as opposed to wants in this world. And if you can't make ends meet and provide for those items, then somethings wrong and you need to reassess your entire life.
Anne