Neighbor: Crazy or Justified?

[verleniahall]

Sounds crazy - a NORMAL person would have WALKED the package over, knocked and said - hey - fedex dropped this at our house by mistake!

 

[Wishing on a star]

Crazy..... Totally CRAZY.
If she didn't want to walk over, she should have called Fed-Ex and complained.

I would call this theft...
If the package had your name and address on it, then there is nothing to say that she didn't TAKE if off of your doorstep.
Even if delivered to her doorstep, I am thinking that it is just not legal to take possesion of somebody else's mail/packages.

I would speak to FEd-EX again to clarify exactly what happened.
I would also make sure to have tracking, and FOLLOW it on every single package.
I would also be getting some kind of delivery confirmation, insurance, etc...

I would have gotten to the bottom of this situation about a month ago!

PS: WHY would there be any confusion between your name and address and hers???

 

[mummabear]

Last month my DD ordered some stuff on eBay. UPS showed the package as delivered, but it wasn't. She filed a claim and the UPS driver stopped by her house one day and said she had delivered it to the next street over......different street, different house number! The worst part is that those folks refused to give the package back to either DD or to UPS! Said it was delivered to them so it is theirs. At least DD got a refund!

Is it not illegal to tamper with someone else’s mail?
Can they not be charged with theft?

Oh. I thought I was calling FedEx. I want them to pick it up and deliver it to you so I can tell them not to do that anymore

They only reason I could think that this would come to someone’s head-is if I was worried that there was a trail to me but not proof that I had handed it over (easily solved by getting them to sign something saying they have received the package)

This women is seriously crazy though. Particularly that she didn’t tell you for a month, and refused to let you come get it.

 

[Jaspers]

Man, that neighbor is weird. I wonder what other things she might be up to.

 

[verleniahall]

You haven't seen her husband in over a year? I'd be worried she has him chained in the basement, or buried in the backyard!

agreed

Or maybe he's still there...in the basement...or in the freezer...

right???

Crazy! We had magic bands delivered to a neighbors house. Same numbers different street. When ours came but my sisters didn't, we waited a day or two then called Disney and they over nighted new ones. Neighbor brought them about 2 weeks later embarrassed because her son saw the box and opened them excited about a trip he didn't know they were taking...

awe - poor kid - i bet he was crushed!!

 

[dclpluto]

You said you haven’t seen the husband in over a year. Maybe she has him tied up in the house or he is dead stinking up the house. This lady sounds crazy.

 

[Turn the Page]

Yeah that's nuts.

At our old house we would sometimes have trouble getting packages delivered. For reasons unknown they would deliver the package to some other house but I never could figure out which one. Once I was expecting two packages that didn't arrive and after complaining to the carrier (UPS I think) and the shipper the items were replaced and a week after I got the replacements we got the originals. I have no idea how that happened.

Another time we didn't receive packages and months later I found a message on facebook from some woman I didn't know telling me the package had been delivered to her house by mistake. I always found that strange. You go to the trouble of finding me on facebook and sending me a message (which went to some strange section of facebook not my regular messenger because we aren't friends) and don't get a response so you sit on the package for a few months rather than just run it over?

We routinely (multiple times a week) get mail for people we have never heard of. We have lived in this house for 2 years, it was vacant for over a year before we bought it, and the previous owners were not the people we get mail for. We get mail addressed to about 5 different names who haven't lived here in at least 5 years. We have tried everything to get it to stop but it just keeps coming. It is rather annoying.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Just curious to hear your take on this situation....

Around a month ago, I ordered some Spring jackets from Carters/Oshkosh for my toddlers. The package never arrived, which I thought was bizarre, because we have never not received a package since moving into our home.

Called Fedex and their records state the package was delivered. Called Oshkosh & they offered to resend it, but the jackets were now out of stock in their sizes. Finally, I gave up.

One month later and the lady who lives next door to us is walking her dog while we were out in our yard. She started chatting with us and let me know that she has my package! I was so excited for my kids to get their jackets. I asked her if I could come over and get it and she says.....No-?? She said she was sorry, but she was very angry with Fedex for delivering my package to her house & that they have delivered my packages to her house 2 other times this year. She told me I would need to call Fedex and ask them to come out and pick up the package from her doorstep & deliver it to my house. Mind you, I live right next door to her & she walks by my house every day to walk her dog. I was a bit taken aback, but didn't want to cause a fight with her because nothing good comes out of fighting with your next door neighbor. She asked if there was anything breakable in there and I said no, but explained that my toddler's spring jackets were in there & I would love for them to get some use out of them before spring is over. She didn't seem to care.

I ended up calling Fedex to explain the situation. They said it was the craziest story they've heard. They ended up coming out & picking up the package from my neighbor's front steps....and walking it over to my steps. So, all is resolved now.

What do you think about this-was my neighbor's response justified? I just can't imagine withholding a package from a neighbor.

I would NEVER EVER speak to this person again unless absolutely necessary and even then I would keep it short and exit the chat ASAP.

Wow, there are no words to describe the twisted evil mind of your neighbor! You are lucky it is just a package.

When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time. - Maya Angelou

 

[SC Minnie]

We get mail for the people on the next street over frequently and they get ours. Same with packages. We just run it over and leave the packages on their porch. We put a post it note on the mail and put it back in our box for the mail man if we don't feel like running it over.

 

[TheRealTeal]

There is absolutely nothing justifiable about that. Our neighborhood has packages delivered to the wrong houses all the time, because they're attached condos where all 4 units have the same number address, but a different letter. We all just take it over to the right house. I can understand her being frustrated if she had to deal with the "inconvenience" of returning it to you, but she doesn't bother to do that so what's the problem? If she didn't want to talk to you or walk it back or whatever, all she had to do was call them and tell them they had mis-delievered a package and ask them to fix it.

 

[Skellingtonj]

The neighbor may be more frustrated than crazy. Let me explain. This past holiday season I received well over a dozen packages that were delivered to my address, but meant for others. I didn't know where the other addresses were so I had to call the shipper for each package. I was put on hold, hung up on, told just to keep the package, and was told by Amazon it was my job to find the address and get the package to the rightful party. Um no, not my job. Perhaps this woman has had a similar experience to mine. Maybe she felt if Fed EX had to send someone out to redeliver it would get them to make the delivery to the correct address the first time. But with the correct address right next door... probably a little bit on the odd side. lol

I get that but when it’s literally your next door neighbor, all you have to do is walk it next door.

 

[mousefan73]

I suggest checking the basement, the backyard, and under the front porch.

Lol! Almost spit my coffee out!

 

[mousefan73]

I would have marched over there with my DH demanding she gives me the package. But I can see a person so stumped by the craziness and not being able to react.

On second thought as others said stay clear of this freak. Warn others.

 

[Frozen Canuck]

I was reminded of this post when the following article popped up in my news feed this morning. UPS had mis-delivered several packages, including a recliner, to the wrong address and the woman refused to return them even after UPS tried to reclaim them and get them to the rightful party. She now gets her day in court, it appears.

http://www.thesunchronicle.com/news...cle_6cc9b1d1-4da4-5773-af89-8eb4c1f385f1.html

 

[ronandannette]

I was reminded of this post when the following article popped up in my news feed this morning. UPS had mis-delivered several packages, including a recliner, to the wrong address and the woman refused to return them even after UPS tried to reclaim them and get them to the rightful party. She now gets her day in court, it appears.

http://www.thesunchronicle.com/news...cle_6cc9b1d1-4da4-5773-af89-8eb4c1f385f1.html

Among other days, apparently. Does it come as a shock to read that this miscreant already has 5 other sets of charges pending on unrelated matters? Some people are just such low-lifes...

 

[aristocatz]

I would have marched over there with my DH demanding she gives me the package. But I can see a person so stumped by the craziness and not being able to react.

On second thought as others said stay clear of this freak. Warn others.

We have very small children, so it just wasn't worth it to me to cause more conflict, if she is legit mentally ill. We don't know her very well-a few random conversations here and there, trick or treating, her husband was very kind to us the first winters after our babies were born by snow plowing our walkways for us.....we always thought she was nice enough. I was taken by surprise by her actions and her demeanor.

 

[Arielfan98]

I wonder if there was an alternative motive, like to steal the jackets maybe. Maybe she was waiting for the next tag sale to open the box and sell them. Who knows?!?! Sounds super sketchy to me, and if my neighbor's mail was ever delivered to my address, I would just walk it over. Sounds like she was trying to hide something.

 

[HopperFan]

I would ask if her name was "Whackadoodle" or "Crazy Lady" but she still lives next door to me.

I can tell you with 18 years experience, someone like that never gets better, only worse. Cut all ties, have no conversation and give her no fuel to feed off of. My crazy has spent her years stabbing the backs and calling the police etc on other neighbors who actually tried to engage and be nice to her. I haven's said a word to her in 18 years and she doesn't dare cross my path.

I do have a PO Box (at one of those private mail businesses) I use for business but when I am concerned a delivery might be needing protection from weather or I won't be here on day it arrives, I have it shipped to my PO Box. It sounds as if she would have no issue with actually keeping something you order and never tell you - if she is that irrational.

Reminds me of the song "they're coming to take me away to the funny farm"

... where life is beautiful all the time .... and FedEx doesn't deliver the package to the wrong house ...

I kind of get her frustration. But i would totally have said “yes come get your package”. She really has no right to withhold something that legally belongs to you. And I can’t imagine how I’d handle that at all. We’ve had stuff delivered to us that was supposed to go to another house, we dropped it off at that house. She’s definitely unstable and probably picks a fight with anyone and Everyone over nothing.

THIS. The woman lives next door, walks by her house every day ... to not just walk it over and drop it off, but hold that long ..... says it all.

 

[Skellingtonj]

I would have marched over there with my DH demanding she gives me the package. But I can see a person so stumped by the craziness and not being able to react.

On second thought as others said stay clear of this freak. Warn others.

I’m sure she has a stack of packages that don’t belong to her

 

[bcwife76]

She's bat crap crazy! I'm sorry She's the reason the phrase "good fences make good neighbours" was invented.