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[Mkrop]

Why are you all even wasting your time? It is clear the OP is only interested in hearing what she wants to hear. No constructive criticism is accepted. She is belligerent, combative, and is picking fights with anyone trying to help her.

So I ask again: why are you wasting your time?

I am not sure why either...except I see she is young and keep hoping she will listen to some of us who are older and wiser and have been there done that

OP, stop and read what I'm writing and stop and read it again. And just think about what I am saying. You don't even have to comment.

I move alot. I understand how difficult it is to make friends and it is a hassle to find new friends. You are in a different stage of your life. Your old friends have started their new lives and you have a different life as well. You have a friend with children and sometimes it will require you to do the kiddy things to see those friends and keep those friends because frankly their life is just different from yours. Think about your friends past or current and where your lives are right now.

People are not going to fall out of the sky to be your friend. They are not going to run to you on the sidewalk and shout they want to be BFFs. It takes time and it takes having a good attitude about everything and most of all it takes effort. You want to take a cake decortaing class and that's great. Understand that alot of the people will probably be moms or married and have different ideas of what fun is.

You are going to school, right? What is wrong with the students in your class? Right away you have something in common if you are in a class together. That is a great ice breaker to comment on a teacher or a homework assignment. What about other students not even in your class? Are there functions on campus that interest you? It could be related to your field of study or something that interest you. It might not always fit your schedule but maybe rearrange.

You are young single and looking to have fun. Right now you need to find those kind of friends as well. Don't be afraid to go out by yourself to bars or movies or dinner on a patio. It will give you confidence. If you are somewhat shy, there are some great books for introverts on how to overcome or compensate for it.

There will always be reasons why friendships don't stick in there. And maybe it's not a friendship in your mind if you can't hang out and do this that or the other. Figure out what kind of friends you are looking for right now.

My BFF lives 1100 miles away and we talk/text maybe once a month. She has children and lives the homestyle life. I'm an army wife and move and have no children. I would go to the gates of hell for her and she would with me because in the end we love each other and accept the others life for what it is.

Figure out where you are in life and what friends do you need right now to make you happy.

 

[WDSearcher]

i did read, i know what you said. I was explaining why I did it, just so you don't put me into the category of the people who do it for compliments. just saying

And your response to me started with "you don't know me, so how can you say i am selfish?"

I didn't say you were selfish. just saying.

 

[luv4u859]

I have to agree. People have really been patient and offered feedback but it's not going anywhere. Maybe the OP can let this sit for awhile and then go back and reflect on how she has interacted with people here. It would help her see why she has problems in the real world. However, I am not optomistic that will happen.

again I only intereacted with people the way I did because I felt people were digging my back in. telling me i have "issues" or that I am bipolar.

I AM NOT LIKE THIS TO PEOPLE I CARE ABOUT. I don't know how many times I have to explain myself. You all wanted me to say there was something wrong with me. I said it. What else do you want from me?

 

[luv4u859]

Remember Baby Henry from Canada people!!!!

I don't know why you even posted this. I have no reason at all to lie.

 

[luv4u859]

I would not have came here if I did not think I could have got some type of help from the people here. I do enjoy coming to these boards and getting advice, but what all of you are not understand is yes maybe all people do not have constructive criticism well and yes I am one of them. If you would have realized that and instead of digging my back in and saying its YOU, YOU, YOU, you all could have said things in a nice way. YOU think you did, but me reading it you didn't.

On that note, I am now done with this topic and these boards. Thank you to the people who have been nice about answering. Have a good life

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

I would not have came here if I did not think I could have got some type of help from the people here. I do enjoy coming to these boards and getting advice, but what all of you are not understand is yes maybe all people do not have constructive criticism well and yes I am one of them. If you would have realized that and instead of digging my back in and saying its YOU, YOU, YOU, you all could have said things in a nice way. YOU think you did, but me reading it you didn't.

On that note, I am now done with this topic and these boards. Thank you to the people who have been nice about answering. Have a good life

Just let it go and move on. This thread will move back pages and people will forget.