Need Some Input - Husband's Temper Tantrums

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Watching this thread cause we've dealt with the same issues. In Feb I finally for the first time in 13 years stood up to him and said that if the tantrums didnt' stop I was leaving, I was sick and tired of walking on eggshells. Things got so much better for a quite a while but lately he's been slipping back into old habits.

I'm sure my husband felt this way too.

If your DH is not seeking help--then his old habits will come back.

However, with counselor support--my husband has had to learn that anger in and of itself is NOT bad. It is actually a healthy emotion if you experience your anger in a healthy way.

I am still capable of getting mad at my husband. I might even get angry with him.

It is HOW I express the anger that must change--but sometimes--people have bad days and people get upset.

My husband had to learn--that it didn't mean that my old ways were coming back. That sometimes--a human is capable of making other people mad.

I guess it it difficult to explain which is why I recommended that book earlier in the thread.

But the important thing about the emotion of Anger--it is what you do with that Anger that makes it bad.

Again--I don't know your specific situation, but I am just commenting as the one who obtained treatment for anger issues.

 

[lustergirl]

Get out now- this isn't good for you or your children!!

 

[NeedSomeInput]

OP here - first off, thank you all for listening and for being concerned. I spoke with my DH last night and we agreed that he needs to be more open to therapy. We also agreed that we should go together. I'm giving him until December 31st to show me real change before I make a decision...

Thanks, everyone.