Need some consolation...

[luvmy3jewels]

I totally understand your feelings right now regarding your little suprise. I went throught similar emotions when I found out I was pregnant with my 3rd child. I remember crying for months and wondering how I was going to handle three kids under 3. Then we had a scare during my 3rd trimester when dd's heart started beating irregularly. It was at that moment I realized how much I really wanted her and I knew that as long as she was healthy everything would be OK. She has been a total joy to our family, and that experience taught me a very valuable lesson. Sometimes the best gifts in life are those that are unexpected.

Good luck with your pregnancy and I hope that everything goes smoothly for you and your family!! You will still have a wonderful trip to Disney, and hopefully you will get to enjoy many more trips once your family is complete.

 

[luvmy3jewels]

Oops...forgot to add. Don't feel guilty or that you are cheating your kids out of their Disney experience. You guys will still be able to have a wonderful time on your trip. And another sibling can be the most valuable gift that you give them!

 

[disneymomof2boyz]

Thank you to all who resonded to thread! Thank you not only for your words of wisdom and consolations, but thanks for not judging me.

I know this will turn out for the best in the long run, and I know God has a plan. Mo OB said that I became pregnant with a .01%, because of the fact that my IUD was in the correct place. So, I know that God is in control, and all I have to do is trust.

 

[Philharmagiclover]

First of all, congratulations!

Like several others here on the boards, I had alot of difficulty getting pregnant. My DSinL and I thought it would be a great idea to have all the extended family go on a trip together...that was great except I got pregnant so we decided to go the following year. We planned for the trip for a year and a half and wouldn't you know it, I got pregnant again! I went do WDW with all the family and "Baby B" in utero at 6 1/2 months. We had a great time! We even had shirts made up that had eveyone's names on them and "Baby b" was there too! It was a great memory and I love my guys.....even if they are 12 months, 2 weeks and 4 days apart! Who's counting!

BTW...for those of you trying....I highly recommend Tequila....we don't allow it in our house anymore for reasons I'm sure you can figure out

 

[disneymomof2boyz]

even if they are 12 months, 2 weeks and 4 days apart! Who's counting!

My boys are 10 months, 3 weeks and 1 day apart!!

 

[disneybridetobe]

We've been trying for months and months and months, and I'm finally on Clomid. Count your blessings, and enjoy Disney. You'll still have a blast

 

[disneybridetobe]

First of all, congratulations!

BTW...for those of you trying....I highly recommend Tequila....we don't allow it in our house anymore for reasons I'm sure you can figure out

LMAO... I'll try anything at this point! When Clomid fails, try Tequila!

 

[bzzymom]

Congratulations!

I had a surprise pregnancy as well. I wasn't wanting to get pregnant again, and didn't think I would because we had infertility problems with our son, and I only had 3 to 4 periods a year so I wasn't really concerned about getting pregnant.

I remember going into work in tears after having the positive test, and the gals I worked with were so happy for me, and I was crying because I didn't want to have another child.....but now I have an amazing 4 year old daughter and I can't imagine life without her.

As far as disney goes, you can still go and have a good time. I spent a few hours at MK when I was 16 weeks pregnant (in orlando for a convention) and I rode Buzz, TTA, Pooh, Snow white, Peter Pan, IASW, HM, POTC, the magic carpets, and the jungle cruise. I really had a nice time, eventhough I was bummed that I was alone, the kids stayed home with DH, but it was nice to be in WDW.

 

[pixiewings71]

I had 3 "mistakes"...lol None of my girls were planned but I wouldn't give any of them back either. My oldest is now 20 and pg with her first, my youngest is 8 and was the biggest surprise, now she's my biggest treasure. I cannot imagine my life without her, it would be so empty and sad. I love all my girls but my "baby" holds a special place in my heart. It took me time to adjust, I was 16 weeks and at my ultrasound when it became "real" for me, from then on she was my angel. Hang in there, give yourself some time to adjust, this will work out and things will be good.

 

[MomofM&M]

Hang in there! I have an IUD too and would be shocked if I found out I was pregnant. I chose our health insurance based on the fact that I wasn't going to get pregnant since I have an IUD. And it's hard to know if you're pregnant if you haven't had a period in 2 years. I think you're reaction is normal, given that you obviously weren't trying to conceive. But...
Babies come when they will. And the best time to have them is when you are blessed with them. Congratulations! Sending some hugs as you adjust to the news!

 

[dislal]

sometimes the best things in life are the unexpected things. Good luck.

 

[SILLYANDI]

I feel for you, I was in your shoes too. The funniest thing happened though, I had a REALLY bad pregnancy and ended up hospitalized for 8 weeks with that pregnancy. I found myself having a total change of heart and fighting for my baby. He was born 12 weeks early, we went thorough the hardest 3 years of our lives and he is now my beautiful, precious 7 year old son. My only son and I love him DEARLY.

I can't predict that you will have the same wonderful feelings about this one that you do about your older boys BUT, I can share some words of wisdom that one of my nurses gave me while I was inprisoned in the hospital...you can look at what life gives you and be miserable or find the gifts. There are gifts in EVERYTHING, you just have to look hard enough. While I was laying in that hospital bed my girls were getting to spend one on one time with daddy-their relationships blossomed. While I was laying there with 2 beautiful healthy girls and a baby on the way there was a mother down the hall fighting to save her 9th baby-none of the ones before had made it. Those were the things she pointed out and it has made my life so much richer. I see gifts in EVERYTHING that happens to us...


PS I rode roller coasters when I was five months pregnant with #2 and didn't know I was pregnant (whole other story about having a bicornuate uterus and periods when I'm pregnant...). She is fine (most of the time... )

 

[ampc3]

Hang in there, I know how hard this can be when it isn't planned or wanted at the moment ( I had a post somewhere on here about finding out the same thing a few weeks ago) My youngest just turned 5 and I was done..... well a few weeks ago I found out I was pregnant and that WAS tough to deal with, but then the kicker was when we went for the ultrasound at 6 weeks, we found out it was TWINS... and I'm pushing 40 too.. That has been really tough to swallow.... I'm 9 weeks now and still dealing with it all, somedays are better than others, but some days I just cry.... I too know that God must have a different plan for us, then I realized and am slowing coming around to my new fate... but it's not easy.. and then on top of everything else you also have to deal with all the guilt of NOT being as happy as you should..

as far as your disney trip, hopefully you will feel good and just trust your instincts.... I wouldn't ride space mountain or anything like that, but I would ride things that said not to, if I thought it would be ok... good luck and hang in there....

 

[blessedby3]

Things will be fine and what a blessing you have been given
You know that this one was definately meant to be!
Just look at it as those rides will be there next time you go. You can still ride tons of stuff with your boys as they are still young and cant ride the bigger thrill rides anyway- unless they are very tall!
Make lots of memories and take tons of pictures and I know you will look back at this trip as a fantastic one!!!

 

[jboysen]

First off congrats, I think the most prepared woman has doubts at some point in pregnancy. On a lighter note I married an IUD baby. He is 9 yrs younger than his sister and 8 yrs younger than his brother. MIL was absolutely shocked and well didn't really believe it because she found out on April Fools day. It's always been a blessing for me because I have the best husband in the world, and someday hopefully some one will feel that way about your child! Other than you ofcourse.