Need some advice on Dating, please.......*BIG UPDATE ON PAGE 5*

[Papa Deuce]

I would not email him, I agree wiht not seeming too eager. Play it cool, boys like that!
When I met my DD he was a little bothered that I called him after the date. I guess he was not too bothered, he stuck around.
DId you give him your email address or phone number?

Not this "boy". I would DEFINITELY prefer to know where I stand ASAP. Less wasted time and energy.

 

[zen1]

*Update*

Well I could not take it any more, so I emailed him late last night. I figure someone has to make the next move, so why not me and this way he knows and we don't have to beat around the bush. I hope and prayer that if this is meant to be, that everything will work out. Could please send me some pixie dust and prayers my way,thank you. This is the email I sent him~

Hi Dan,

I really enjoyed meeting you and getting to know you this evening. And I hope we are able to go out together again and get to know each other even more.

I hope you are having a good night at work,

Sarah

 

[Martha7]

Sarah, make sure if things progress with this guy, that you take him to see the new movie "Must Like Dogs" with Diane Lane and John Cusack, when it comes out. We went to a sneak preview the other night and loved it! It's about divorced people meeting through an online dating service, and it's so funny! It's a romantic date movie! Keep up posted, should this romance bloom into anything!

 

[greenyskp]

I would call him. Thats just me though. I have no qualms about this stuff.

I run under the assumption...If they liked you, theyre gonna be happy you called. If they play the run around with you, then... well.. lol. Theyre just not that into you. (I Wrote that book before it EVER came out!)

Games are for children. I always tell people where I stand. Call him! Or e-mail him in the least.

 

[pearlieq]

ITA! Life if much too short to play games! If you like him and want to tell him you had a nice time, go for it! Everyone likes to hear that someone enjoyed meeting them.

I think your email was fine and I hopes he writes back soon!

 

[DenMig]

From a guy's perspective I encourage the email you sent. We guys wonder just as much if the woman liked us. If he is interested in you he will be thrilled to get the email, if he is not interested what have you lost by sending it ? An email or call would always be most welcome as long as you weren't planning the wedding or naming future children. Good luck, I think its cool you emailed him.

Dennis

 

[Otto's Doll]

Sarah, glad to hear that you have met someone. Hope you get your reply soon!

 

[bjgrazi]

Back in May I went out with someone I met on the internet. We had a great evening, when we left he said I'll talk to you soon.

I went home and was going to send an email thanking him for a nice evening, well he emailed me first, it was there waiting for me when I got home.

Ummm we're going camping this weekend with friends of his to their cabin. So I guess it's working.

I'm glad you emailed him.

 

[Blueeyes101817]

glad you emailed him sarah!

 

[zen1]

Thanks everyone for all the support and advice, you all are the best!

Well I just checked my emails and no email from him yet, but its still early in the day yet.

 

[TigerBear]

So where were all of these enlightened men when I was dating?!? In my experience most men really do enjoy the chase.

Zen, I like your email. It's clear but not at all aggressive. Best of luck to you!

 

[Dan Murphy]

This is great, Sarah!!!! Hope all works out for you.

 

[Disney01]

I would say if you don't hear from him, please do not email him again. The one thing that caught my eye about your post is that you said you "really" like him. After only one date?? It's hard to say you "really" like someone that soon. It sounded a tad bit ernest (desperate) to me. I think the best advice I or anyone else can give you is to play it cool. Do not email him again and do not call him.

 

[zen1]

*Update*

He sent me an email back early this morning!

Here's the email~

Hey Sarah,
I'm glad to hear that you had a good time. We could go out again sometime if you're interested.

~Dan

 

[Martha7]

Seems like he's playing it kind of casual. The use of "sometime" and "if you're interested" indicates that he may be trying not to scare you off either. If you really like him, you may need to be the one to move the ball along, so to speak. Your next move should be to suggest getting together next weekend. Something like, "What does your schedule look like next weekend? Maybe we could work something out." If there's some kind of art fair or town festival nearby, you could suggest that, since it's happening on a specific day, and that would help you to pin down the date. If there's nothing like that around, or you want to get together in the evening, try to get him to be the one to name the activity: dinner and a movie, etc. Use the same kind of "whatever" language back to him, so that you don't look too eager. It's dumb, but you need to play the game. My DH is looking for a job now, and he has to play the same kind of game, trying not to seem too excited, which translates to some people as "loser, who no one else wants." By the way, how old are you? That'll give us a reference.
Keep us posted!

 

[Papa Deuce]

.... By the way, how old are you? That'll give us a reference.
Keep us posted!

Opiginal post she says she is 25.

Man, at 25 I would have been THRILLED to know a woman was really interested in me. That was a really slow dating period in my life!

 

[bjgrazi]

*Update*

He sent me an email back early this morning!

Here's the email~

Hey Sarah,
I'm glad to hear that you had a good time. We could go out again sometime if you're interested.

~Dan

Sarah,

Doesn't sound from the email that he's too interested. If he's trying to play it cool, do you really want to be playing games? Good luck, I hope it works out for you.

 

[zen1]

Martha7, thank you for all the great advice on what to do next. Those are some great ideas and I am going to use them. And I am 25.

Well I just got home from seeing one of my really good friends( she is my God mom also) and she wanted to beat me, becasue she was so upset that I went out with a guy from the internet. She said if I would have told her that before and she had talked to me, she would have not let me go and locked me up so I could not go. I know she was really worried about me and I did mean for her to be, I know how much she cares about me and loves me. I told her that it would make me feel better and I know she would feel better too, if she came along next time( if we go out again). I promised her I would not go out with him, until she could go with me this time. She would take her own car and just sit off to the side to listen and to check him out. Which I don't think is to bad of idea and I think someone on here already said that I should do something like this.

Thanks again everyone and I will keep you all posted!

 

[TigerBear]

Zen, if I were you I would not ask him out after that email. I'm curious if the men on this thread feel differently? I would email him back and just put the ball back in his court.

 

[TigerBear]

Would he know she is there?