Need opinions in an awkward situation...

[GoofyKidd]

I agree with everyone-skip the romantic dinners you planned and go somewhere else, anywhere else. Have fun with your friend and good luck moving on. You can't have a bad time in Disney!!

 

[ROEDISNEY]

Ok, here's the deal guys. My fiance told me a few days ago that she didn't love me (in that way) anymore and broke things off. I, of course, am devastated and now find myself facing a difficult situation.

We were going to Disney at the end of August on the free dining plan, which was paid in full (by me). Since Disney is a long standing tradition (me and my late father went every year), I don't feel like cancelling the trip would be the best move...so my best friend is going with me instead.

I proposed to her in front of the Castle and I managed to get a dinner at the Castle on this trip, along with the Cinderella buffet at the Grand Floridian....she always called our relationship the ultimate fairy tale. I'm torn at this point on whether I should book different dinners those two nights, or just stick with one or both. I have to do a double dining credit on one evening due to our arrival time on the first day...but the last thing I want to do is get upset at such a happy place.

I should also mention that I was married a few years ago and honeymooned there (one of three trips with my former wife)...and it wasn't really awkward taking my new girl to Disney....but this time I'm going with a friend, rather than a romantic partner....so I don't know if the feeling will be different or not.

First, has anyone else been in a similar boat? I'm so in shock, I'm not really thinking clearly at this point. Should I knock off those two and get something different and less sentimental? Should I wait a couple weeks for the shock to subside? The way I am, I could be over her in a month or two, or it could take me years....I'm odd that way.

If the answer is to rebook...any suggestions for a good double credit dinner? I've been to the World over 35 times, but tend not to do double credit dinners...so that area is unknown to me. We're going to take a day to go to Universal Studios as well...so I probably should book a dinner later and at a resort....so we can drive straight there.

My dinners right now are (in no particular order):

Le Cellier (two evenings)
50's Prime Time Cafe
Kona Cafe
Cinderella's Royal Table
Cinderella's Buffet at Grand Floridian
Whispering Canyon at Wilderness Lodge
Liberty Tree Tavern

Thanks for any help you can provide...I do hope I can do it, for tradition's sake.

You go to Disney and have a great time. It's Disney World you go and have the time of your life. Don't look back move foward. She's not worth spoiling your Disney memories!
Face the resturants and everything else but face them with a new view of them look at it differently.
I wish you a MAGICAL TIME OF YOUR LIFE

 

[all4disney98]

Too bad ESPN isn't on the DDP! You really need to steer clear of the places where you are emotionally tied with ex-GF.

ESPN Club is on the dining plan, they just don't take advanced reservations.

 

[Amy&Dan]

We're going to Universal Studios on Friday, so I got Boatwrights at 8:30pm but I may move it back an hour since Universal closes at 7pm....there were openings, but I'll think about it.

Boatwrights is generally pretty easy to change last minute. If you can't, they have a fun bar at POR, an outdoor one that has live music lots of nights. You could always go there first and have a drink to kill time before your ADR. Its a lovely resort, worth a look and walk around to check it out.

Have a great trip, you have certainly earned it. I think you and your friend will have so much fun, just the distraction you need. WDW is so huge, that even though you have been there with the lady in question, you will be able to see and do so many things that have nothing to do with those other trips.

In time, believe it or not, this will be seen as a good learning experience. For now, just know that time heals it all and WDW helps a broken heart better than about anything. And when that next lady comes into your life (the right one that you deserve) you can take her to Artist Point for a special meal!

 

[HappyCamper87]

"She believed that a good relationship never had fights"



I'm sorry, but that's the funniest thing I've EVER heard! I've been married (a GOOD marriage) for almost 17 years, and I can't even BEGIN to count how many arguments/fights we've had! That's what happens when two INDIVIDUALS blend their lives!

So true! The secret to marriage is how you handle those disagreements not avoiding them!

I hope you and your friend have a blast! If he's only been once you could have a lot of fun being a tour guide and seeing the world through his eyes. He sounds like a very supportive person.

We are trying Artist Pointe for the first time on our trip in October it looks like it will be a great place for a Guy's Night Out.

Take care of yourself, you just have to believe the relationship being over now is so much better than later.

Best Wishes.

 

[black562]

I know what you mean and I agree

 

[jenelope]

My parents are celebrating 46 years of lots of fighting in their good marriage! Their nickname is "The Bickersons." (But not all of the fights have been mild bickering.) I think you're much better off finding this out now than after exchanging vows. Hopefully, she'll figure out the truth about marriage and life someday. It sounds like you already know it.

Artist's Point is on my "must dine there someday" list and I've heard great things about Boatwrights. Have a great trip!

 

[black562]

Well, unfortunately I found out the last time after the marriage (and house, and car, and...) but it never got that far this time. Though I'm thankful, I do feel like I'm starting over right back on the day I got divorced, not a good feeling mind you.

Maybe they should set up a couples service on the DIS...people on here aren't a bad breed at all....

 

[cseca]

Ouch!
Sorry to hear about your predicament.
But I agree with PPs when they said that she's rather delusional (or maybe just not mature enough to be in a real relationship yet) with the "no argument" idea.

DH and I just got married and I can't tell you how many times we argued because we're both stubborn... But we always find a way to talk and get through it.

Your bestfriend sounds great. You'll have a blast at WDW with your bf. Try new things that you've never tried.
Be silly... go to character meals (princesses ) and take lots of pictures.
Go try restaurants you've never tried before.
Talk to CMs and ride silly rides... (dumbo, small worlds, peter pan, etc.).

You sound like a wonderful guy.
Some day the right girl will come along and you'll be thankful that you let this one go.
I think there are lots of single ladies on disboards...

Try to enjoy your trip and keep posting...
You're right, people here aren't half bad...

 

[bluejasmine]

I think WDW is the perfect place to re coop. I say get rid of the romantic dinners and maybe book one 2 TS credit place and book a 2 TS breakfasts Im sorry this happened, been there done that. Time really does heal all wounds. Just remember Karma.. Its real..

 

[aribelle]

How about asking your best friend where they would like to eat and going with their choices.....might take the focus off your original plans and onto making your friend happy.....sometimes when I'm down in the dumps the thing that works best for me is to concentrate on someone else for a while.....and working to make someone else happy at Disney can't help but make you happy as well.

I hope that you have a wonderful time at Disney.....you deserve some happiness. And may your next romantic partner be worthy of you.

 

[yankeepenny]

sorry about your news.


How about Beaches and Cream, and spend some time at DD.
Drop the romance, for certain. Like one poster said, try and do Hoop de do. How about chef Mickey's for a fun breakfast?
check out some resorts too. Mini golf? Are you going to one of the water parks?
You will have fun.

Hang in there.

 

[Irish Twins]

Sorry to hear about everything. While reading your post I kept thinking he has to cancel CRT and You must book HDDR! I think you will have a great time there. I dont think I would go to 1900 PF either. See what else you can get. Maybe you can swap with someone. Hope you feel better soon.

 

[gk90]

I know exactly what you're saying, too much was kept inside. The thing that makes it hurt all that much worse is that she said many of the same things that my ex-wife said when I confronted her about the "situation" (on Christmas mind you). I know the two didn't colaborate in some form of conspiracy...but do you gals have some sort of playbook or something??? When I confronted my ex-wife, she told me that she didn't "love me in that way anymore", "it wasn't me" and "a part of me will always love you". So naturally when I heard those things all over again, it just drug up mental feelings from the past....so in many ways, I guess I'm dealing with two ending relationships (one new and one all over again).

I'm going to try for Ohana or Boatwrights for my single and either Artist Point, Narcoosee's or Jiko for the double. I hope I can get something and they're all not booked up already...

Keep me in your thoughts, all your posts are quite valuable to me and I can't thank you enough.

Glad to hear that you have a good friend to plan with--I'm sure you'll have a blast and make some great new memories and traditions. THe new ADRs look like they fit well with your new plan.

Hang in there...it looks like you're processing a lot of painful emotional issues right now, but trust me it will get better.

As for your question "do you gals have some sort of playbook or something?" a big part of it is the way women are socialized--to try and be nice no matter what, keep relationships running as smoothly as possible, try to avoid hurting feelings. I know that this doesn't seem to make sense in the context of breaking an engagement but quite a few women would think that it's kinder to say "I still want to be friends.", they might believe that they need to let the guy down easy and that the friends line is the way to do it. I've been in situations when I should have slapped a guy's face but instead I went with the "be nice" script that too many girls are given and just tried to change the subject/ignore the behavior.

 

[gigi1313]

Drop the places that will make you "remember". Maybe find some new places that you have not yet been to, something fun and upbeat. I don't know if you have tried it, but HDDR is 2 credits and that is anything but romantic.

Best of luck to you and have a wonderfully FUN vacation!

i completely agree w/the others... start some new traditions... go some new places... try some new things... HDDR is a GREAT choice, imo... and it's all the beer/wine/sangria you can drink, so if you're really down, you can drown your sorrows

if you haven't been, give the boardwalk area a try... there are some good restaurants there (espn, spoodles) as well as some evening entertainment...

best of luck and i hope that some day your dreams do come true!

 

[GIR-Prototype]

How about asking your best friend where they would like to eat and going with their choices.....might take the focus off your original plans and onto making your friend happy.....sometimes when I'm down in the dumps the thing that works best for me is to concentrate on someone else for a while.....and working to make someone else happy at Disney can't help but make you happy as well.

I hope that you have a wonderful time at Disney.....you deserve some happiness. And may your next romantic partner be worthy of you.

I'm deferring to his choices because he has had recent first-hand experience, and already had decently timed reservations in place. He did consult me on what to replace Cinderella and 1900 Park with, and we based our final choice on what we thought about the menu.

...and besides which, I'm what I call a "Bottomless Foodie." I love food in the sense that I enjoy the nuances of gourmet food, but also enjoy the simple well-made dishes. As for the bottomless part, on a trip to Vegas, I shut down the Spice Market Buffet's Sushi Bar; they took all the (mostly empty) serving dishes off, and an employee stood at the light switch and waited until I was heading back and then shut the light off. As I was leaving they turned the lights on and brought out fresh serving dishes. I never felt so gluttonous in my life as I did that day.

 

[maj42169]

call and see if you can get anything different...people have been posting about the difficulty of getting anything. I'd say keep these reservations until you know if anything else is available! It will be totally different going with a friend...

I agree with keeping them until you have something else sured up! I think I would keep the 1900 Park Fare because I hear that the stepsister are very entertaining and rather funny!

 

[Pumbaa_]

Another place to consider is Raglan Road. Good food, some nightly entertainment.

GIR, have you seen the menus yet? Here is a link to the DIS Menus

Welcome to your new obsession

Great chatting with you guys tonight, come back again soon!

 

[black562]

Hey Pumbaa, I just noticed where you're from and it made me chucle.

There's a great story about "Its okay, we're from Conneticut."

GIR knows the story well.

 

[Claire&TheBoys]

I'd try Raglan Road over Boatwrights. Seems like a very masculine place and would be great for hitting the clubs at PI one last time before they close at the end of Sept.