Need help fast; what's a wife to do

rlduvall

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I have to make a decision quick and I need some help from my fellow diser's.

I have visited WDW with my DH in 1996, 1997 and 2001; then DH and DS (then 4) in September of 2003. (surprisingly, DH was not as much fun on that trip - burn out maybe?) Then, in December of 2004 (with my DH's blessing) I went with a girlfriend and enjoyed WDW and the holiday happenings. :drinking1 For several weeks now, because of that darn Free Dining - which I would not get to take advantage of - I have thought about taking my DS (now 6) in December of this year. DH has no interest in going, and in some ways it would be more fun without him - if any of you women get my drift. :confused3 He's not thrilled with it, but it would not cause us trouble if I go. :love2:

My dilemma: If I take my DS this year, I am only going for 4 nights - airfare is good and I found a good rate for a Value, possibly a Moderate - cost is harder to justify, though. I am slightly concerned about being the sole parent, with no break. BUT, DH said if I wait, he would go next year with us; then we could stay for a week and I could save for a better resort - maybe renting points for a villa. Also, he agreed that if he goes with us next year, I can take DS alone to the park a few times myself. He might golf, whatever. Sometimes crowds get my DH cranky. ;) My responsible adult self says to wait - "you've been enough, do something cheaper this year" - and save up and anticipate a future trip (that will be here before you know it). My inner kid says "Go now, you only live once!!!"

Someone make my decision for me. :teeth:
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I have also posted this on the Resort Board so more people might see.
 
I'd wait and go with my Dh next year. An extra pair of hands is always nice.

rlduvall said:
I have to make a decision quick and I need some help from my fellow diser's.

I have visited WDW with my DH in 1996, 1997 and 2001; then DH and DS (then 4) in September of 2003. (surprisingly, DH was not as much fun on that trip - burn out maybe?) Then, in December of 2004 (with my DH's blessing) I went with a girlfriend and enjoyed WDW and the holiday happenings. :drinking1 For several weeks now, because of that darn Free Dining - which I would not get to take advantage of - I have thought about taking my DS (now 6) in December of this year. DH has no interest in going, and in some ways it would be more fun without him - if any of you women get my drift. :confused3 He's not thrilled with it, but it would not cause us trouble if I go. :love2:

My dilemma: If I take my DS this year, I am only going for 4 nights - airfare is good and I found a good rate for a Value, possibly a Moderate - cost is harder to justify, though. I am slightly concerned about being the sole parent, with no break. BUT, DH said if I wait, he would go next year with us; then we could stay for a week and I could save for a better resort - maybe renting points for a villa. Also, he agreed that if he goes with us next year, I can take DS alone to the park a few times myself. He might golf, whatever. Sometimes crowds get my DH cranky. ;) My responsible adult self says to wait - "you've been enough, do something cheaper this year" - and save up and anticipate a future trip (that will be here before you know it). My inner kid says "Go now, you only live once!!!"

Someone make my decision for me. :teeth:
:hourglass
I have also posted this on the Resort Board so more people might see.
 
I would wait and go next year. My dh golfs for a couple of the days while we are there and then meets up with us later. Although, DH is a Disney nut just like me so that helps. My DD is 3 and I'm not sure that I will venture to the parks with her by myself. I might have to rethink it if the free dining came out again for December though! LOL Either way Good Luck and have a great trip whenever you do go!
 

Another vote for waiting. You don't even have to go someplace in the meantime, just save up for a really nice trip! THen, if DH bails on you next year, take your DS for 2 weeks and stay at the GF ;)
 
This makes it unanimous...I say wait, too. WDW will still be there (I know, it is hard to resis the urge!) But it does sound ideal for next year...some family time, some one-on-one time for you and ds, some alone time for DH...everyone wins.
 
Not me.
I would take my son. I live close but I have taken my kids on a weekend trip alone and I loved the time we had together. My husband is the same way and would rather not go. When he does go, I feel limited to what I can do and fell like I have to prove what a good time he can have while at disney. I have learned that it is just better to do what I want when I want. My kids also have a great time planning this out. ::MickeyMo
 
I, too, would wait. Maybe you could also arrange the trip so that you avoid the crowds your DH doesn't like? I've had GREAT luck with TGMike's service -- we feel like we're almost alone in the parks! Since you'd have a year to plan you could really arrange it to be a nice, laid-back trip for the three of you :)
 
I also would wait for my DH. If he is golfing, you can spend some special time with your ds. Sounds to me like you might feel bad if you went and your DH was not with you to complete the family. Totally different than going with a friend.
 
I would wait to! Do something cheaper for a solo vacation and the WDW vacation will be here before you know it.
 
I would go. My DH does not like to travel much either. I just took my DD6 and DS 13 (they do not get along at home at all) on a trip to NH for 4 days. I was a bit nervous about traveling on my own with them but we ended up having a great time. And they did not argue at all!! They loved getting my 100% attention and I enjoyed their company too. I was very happy we went and went alone.
 
I would go!! Start planning now.

WDW at Christmas time is so magical. Making memories with your son is truly special. Life is too short to wait.
Who knows, maybe your DH will want to go next year anyways.

As a mom of many(5) and trip to the grocery store with only 2 or 3 is a vacation for me. LOL! ;)
 
Could you afford to do both? If not, I'd probably vote for waiting as well.

Your son is old enough that I wouldn't be concerned about being a single parent. My vote would be different if he were two or three.

And Disney is SO magical at Christmas time. If you could swing both trips, I'd say go for it.

Sheila
 
I say go, what's to say your husband won't change his mind or have something come up next year, then you would be in the same boat of going alone. Your DS is old enough that it shouldn't be too bad. I almost took my kids then 1.5 and 2.5 to WDW while visiting my grandparents in FL. But my DD got sick and we ended up in the hospital instead. That kind of put a damper on our plans...
 












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