Natalee Holloway's Mom and Jon Benet's Dad are dating

[goofygirl]

My dad remarried six months after my mom died. It did not upset me in the least. Dad was miserable after mom's death. He needed someone and so did she (she was divorced). They were very happy the few short years they had together until Dad died. I hate to think how sad and lonely his last few years would have been if he hadn't remarried.

Getting remarried does not mean you loved your first spouse any less. It just means that life goes on.

6 Months?? When did they start to date? I hope it wasn't while your mom was still alive!

And, no, I have not lost a spouse. I have never been married. I was in a long term relationship that ended (yes, I know it's not the same as marriage, divorce and widowhood, but bear with me) and there's no way I would have been able to enter another relationship so soon, let alone get married. Besides, "rebound" relationships don't last 99% of the time.

 

[safetymom]

What works for you might not be right for me. I think as long as the person is happy who cares how quickly they found the person.

 

[Feralpeg]

6 Months?? When did they start to date? I hope it wasn't while your mom was still alive!

And, no, I have not lost a spouse. I have never been married. I was in a long term relationship that ended (yes, I know it's not the same as marriage, divorce and widowhood, but bear with me) and there's no way I would have been able to enter another relationship so soon, let alone get married. Besides, "rebound" relationships don't last 99% of the time.

No, he did not know her prior to my mom's death. They were introduced by a common friend about two months after mom died. They hit it off right away.

I give great credit to my stepmom. She married a man who had already had two heart attacks, open heart surgery, a stroke and four adult children. She has seven children from a prior marriage! Christmas time was a zoo! LOL! She stuck with my dad when he started having terrible health issues and was with him when he died. At that point, she could have just cut me and my siblings off. After all, we are only related due to their marriage. Instead, she's been there for us through thick and thin. She's a great person!

 

[C.Ann]

So you'd be ok with the idea of your DH dating a year, or 6 months after you died?

How about 3 months?
Or 1 month?
Or 2 weeks?

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My DH passed away 2 years and 4 months ago.. His greatest wish for me was that I continue to live my life to the fullest and that I find someone else to share that life with.. He didn't care if it was a year later, six months later, 2 weeks later, or the very next day.. Although I have not dated anyone yet, it certainly isn't due to any time restrictions placed on me by others..

Had I passed away proir to my DH, my feelings would have been the same as his..

"Losing" a spouse is entirely different than a "break up" of a long-term relationship.. When you lose a spouse due to death, you never stop loving that person - even if you eventually remarry.. Ask any widow or widower who has remarried if they still love their deceased spouse and I guarantee you the answer will be yes - providing they had a happy marriage right until the end..

But as others have already pointed out, unless you have lost a spouse to death yourself, it's not something you can truly understand..