11. The wedding that went without
I just realized that I haven't revealed much about the wedding at all. Most decisions have been made at this point. Now is just the time to put those decisions to action! We're coming up on the 6-month point so it's crunch time!
I think a better way to tell you what my wedding will be like is to let you know what it won't have. You've probably figured out by now that I won't be having a traditional wedding. Part of that is because we're cutting out a lot of what traditional weddings in Canada are expected to have. The reasons are largely based on cost and personal preference.
I'll have a list of what we're doing differently instead which complements this list, so stay tuned!
Here's the list of what we won't have or won't be doing for our wedding!
1. No flowers- When I first started planning, the idea of flower arrangements and the cost of floral decorations stressed me out so much that I have decided to remove that stress and just have no flowers.
2. No bouquet- Tied in with no flowers. Both my parents will be walking me down the aisle, so I won't be able to hold anything anyways. Also, I've never been a fan of the bouquet toss.
3. No flower girls- I've noticed that most flower girls don't even toss the flowers. The few that do just create this mess that the church needs to clean up.
4. No DJ- Cost isn't much of an issue. It's finding a DJ that would work for us that's the hard part. Most DJ companies don't even let you choose a DJ. Our experience with DJs is that not all are very good with playing what you want them to play.
5. No venue decorations- We think our church is pretty enough and our reception was chosen because it was two walls of these gorgeous floor-to-ceiling windows that look out on the golf course with a fountain and has dangling chandeliers.
6. No guestbook- I don't want a big fancy book full of signatures I can't read and the same messages of "Congratulations!" and "Lovely wedding!" being repeated a dozen times. I can't see myself going through that very often.
7. No seating plan- I've heard the horros associated with creating a seating plan which is why I'm glad our buffet dinner will allow for us to be more open with seating. Our guests will be assigned tables but they can choose who they want to sit beside. We also don't expect them to stay in their chosen seats.
8. No parent speeches- None of our parents are interested in that. I think they realized that only about half of the guests will understand them because they would be speaking in Chinese.
9. No slideshow- I had thought about this...But I don't want to force my guests to watch a slideshow movie that tends to bore a lot of people...We'll have plenty of pictures on our website for people to look at
10. No RSVP cards- We've asked our guests to either RSVP on our website and to our wedding email, or give us a call to confirm. Saves on postage!
11. No wedding cake- Wedding cakes are ridiculously expensive and all because it's a "wedding" cake. We're also saving on the cutting fee which is equally as ridiculous
12. No white wedding dress- I've had enough of bridal salons that look down on me and treat me like I'm not important just because of my lower budget. I'm looking to Etsy now for a red ballgown. (more in next post)
13. No groomsmen tux rentals- At least a $100 for a tux they wear for just one day? No thank you.
14. No matching wedding rings- Instead of painstakingly trying to look for matching wedding bands we both like, we've decided to just shop for a band we each like.
15. No high heels- I have bad feet and would die in high heels. I've decided to wear a pair of black ankle booties with a bit of a heel and my insoles. They're super comfy and I can totally wear them all day long. In fact, I took on HKDL in them!
16. No make-up and hair- Well, no professional hair and make-up on the actual day that is. Since my ceremony is in the morning, we'd have to wake up TOO EARLY to get our hair and make-up done in a salon which would mean we should have them come to us but they would jack up the prices and I can't deal with that.
17. No cocktail hour- Our ceremony is in the morning and reception in the evening and we're not holding our guests hostage in-between, so we have decided that we're not responsible for their lunch. There are malls within 10 minutes of both our locations and have this information on the website
18. No plus ones- This isn't a non-traditional thing as I see many brides wrestle with this. I have stressed over and over again that I do not want strangers at my wedding. In fact, there are 3 questions in my FAQ that deal specifically with plus ones.
19. No matching wedding party- Yes, the girls on my side will be wearing the same dress but it is a convertible dress that they can wear many ways and find a style they like. I have one of these dresses myself and LOVE IT. I highly recommend it. The brand I bought is Henkaa but if you're handy with a sewing machine, there are simple tutorials online.
This dress just happened to jump onto our radar at a bridal show. Initially I asked them to choose a dress they liked but they wanted to match so VOILA! The only thing I wanted them all to have is a hair bow (and bowtie for my bridesman) from Magical Ribbons. This girl makes the coolest Disney bows and I wanted to add that bit of magic to my brigade.
This is all I can come up with for now. Stay tuned for the complementary list that tells you what I'm doing differently!