My sister is creating a mnster, and she doesn't even realize it

[Disneyrsh]

ok

 

[JerseyJanice]

I think you misunderstand the definition of snowflake. It's a child who runs the household, whether through neglect or through overly permissive/fearful/weak parents.

What seems to be missing today is appropriate social boundaries, consequences, and self-discipline.

That, and a good swat on the butt when they mouth off.

No, I think you are the person who misunderstands. The term "snowflake" refers to a child who is pampered by his/her parents because the parents have deluded themselves in believing that their child is unique, special, but easily melted--hence, the reference to a "snowflake."

Perhaps in your family and social circle, there are many children missing "appropriate social boundaries, consequences, and self-discipline," but this is completely untrue in my world, and I work in public education. I don't believe for a moment that my generation is full of incompetent parents, and that is why all this "snowflake" talk gets my dander up. I am raising a respectful, well-mannered child, and so all are my siblings and current friends.

I don't ever give my kid a "good swat on the butt" except for one time when he was 2 years old and bolted away in a parking lot. A sharp dirty look and some stern words are all I've ever needed to discipline my child, but YMMV, obviously.

 

[allison443]

I think you misunderstand the definition of snowflake. It's a child who runs the household, whether through neglect or through overly permissive/fearful/weak parents.

What seems to be missing today is appropriate social boundaries, consequences, and self-discipline.

That, and a good swat on the butt when they mouth off.

I don't think a neglected child fits the definition of snowflake. Isn't snowflake usually used to refer to a child whose parents think they are so special/unique/warranting special treatment and protection? Not a neglected child.

I think it comes from the description of real snowflakes as unique, different from everyone else.

 

[pweyl36]

I have a 14 year old niece who was indulged far too much in life. She pouts, stomps her feet, screams, and cries when she does not get her way. Did I mention she is FOURTEEN? Our families were supposed to get together at Outback to celebrate my MIL's birthday. 30 minutes before we were supposed to arrive, DH gets a call from his brother telling us to meet at Red Robin instead. Seems Snowy likes the fries there. Seriously? Everyone (3 families involved) had to change their plans at the last minute to please this girl! I had the pleasure of going dress shopping with her and her mother for her 8th grade graduation dress. Good Lord! Her mother said no to a dress that she liked and she plopped on the floor of Macy's, crossed her legs, folded her arms, stared off into space and refused to move. Guess what? She got the dress! Mom did not want to be embarassed in Macys.

Why didnt you tell your brother no?