My mother told me that I'm only allowed

[nativetxn]

Ten minutes of self pity everyday. Then I have to snap out of it and straighten up and fly right.

I'm taking my ten minutes right now. Anyone want to join me?

 

[Luvinit]

AWE....whats a matter honey???? I don't need the self pity...but I am here to validate you..... Lets hear it....

Tracy

 

[Hannosmom]

Go for it, Kath. I've got my big shoulders all ready for you.

Ready for a hug?

 

[perfectmatch300]

OK, I'll join you. I'm tired & cranky & my car's been in the shop for a week now (brakes) & it's going to cost me a fortune & I'm feeling very bloated! There, how's that for self-pity!

PHEW, I feel much better now that I've got that out of my system! Thanks for inviting me to your pity party, Kath. I'm done now so I'll pass the pity pot on to someone else & I'll straighten up & fly right!

 

[ohMom]

{{{{{hugs}}}}} to you Kath

tomorrow is a new day - take it as the blessing that it is!

I think it happens to us all! My DD who is 6 has days where she declares "MY LIFE IS MISERABLE!" Now i'm thinking she has it pretty good I guess my point is we all have our downer days - and you're allowed to as well. I seem to think you're too much of a ray of sunshine to linger in the dumps!

 

[nativetxn]

Oh nothing big. I hurt two people today. Two people who I admire, respect and love. Didn't do it intentionally but I did it. Then... oops, I've gone over my time limit. My ten minutes were over long ago.

Darn it! Now, I've gone and used up three whole days worth of self pity. Sheesh

Nancy, I'm so glad you are feeling better now. We'll have to do this again, huh?

Linda, I can always use a {{{HUG}}} even when I'm not feeling sad.

Tracy, I'm so glad you don't need this post today. You can invite me to your next pity party, I'll be there to help as much as I can.

Okay, I've used up my time limit. Who's next?

 

[glo]

hey Kath...if I get started I wil need about 2 hours. I did the same thing today, actually yesterday too. I did not mean to hurt this person, but I did, and I still don't feel right about it because I know that things are not right.

This diet thing is getting me very down. So much so that I refused to stand on the scale this week. I am not even in ketosis right now I am so happy to see everyone loose weight and go down, but it gets me angrier at myself...

ok, how long was that???

 

[blanq]

Oh Katholyn, I should have read your post BEFORE I started my "I'm having a fat day" thread! I was having my 10 minutes of self pity all alone, when I could have been wallowing with other WISHer's on your thread! Oh, well...I'm done now! How about you? (((((Katholyn)))))

Linda

 

[nativetxn]

You still have 10 minutes left, glo.

Ohmom, thanks for the hugs. I just love this board. We have the nicest and most caring people in the world here.

 

[glo]

I hate hurting others...especially those I care about...It cuts deep then, so I know how you feel. Hugs Kath

Anyone want to join me in a pity party.

Oh, and my oldest DD is having some minor surgery tomorrow and she is a mess, and I can't blame her...She is nervous, and it is on her neck...

A good friend's dad had surgery and I did not know that either...made me feel like I was not a good enough friend.

What a bad day....

 

[TCKK]

"It takes time to succeed because success is merely the natural reward of taking time to do ANYTHING well!" -- Joseph Ross

Hi Glo: Re-read the quote from your signature. Remember losing weight takes time too and you will do it because you can do ANYTHING well. I believe in you. Give yourself time and you'll get it together. I know you will.

 

[DiznEeyore]

{{{hugs}}} to Katholyn and Glo and Linda, and anyone else who needs them right now!! You've all been here for us, remember that we're here for you!

 

[Beanie]

Aww Kath...I am sure they know that you didn't mean to hurt them...Hugs to you!

Glo, so sorry you are down...Hugs to you as well and everyone else who is down tonight...Tomorrow is another day and it will get better!!!

We all have days like this...Today alone I was full of emotions myself!!

Hugs everyone!

 

[nativetxn]

glo, I'm sorry you are feeling so down. Wish I could make everything all better for you.

I wonder if it wouldn't be easier for you not to weigh yourself anymore? It might be better if you concentrated on your size and not your weight. What do you think? Just eat a controlled carbohydrate diet, however many you think would be good. Then instead of weighing, measure yourself.

You have made such wonderful progress, glo. I hate to see you discouraged.

I hope your daughter's surgery is easy and quick and doesn't upset her too much.

 

[karebear1]

I want to come to the pity party! Am I invited too? I know I'm not as pitiful as I was- especially yesterday and the day before , but I'm still pitiful! Come to think of it- you all probably got it from me! I'm so sorry!!! OK- let me repay the favor and try to cheer you up.

I know where you are all coming from. This weight loss thing is extremely taxing on us emotionally and physically. BUT if we hang tough and hang together we will succeed. You are all wonderful and beautiful women, with an occasional handsome man thrown in for good measure! If we just lean on each other- we'll make it. Can you even imagine doing his on your own? I can't!

Nativetxn- you are the picture of tenderness to peoples feelings. If you hurt someone today- they will remember your sweetness and they will be fine by tomorrow. Don't dwell on what has gone by. Do what you can to correct it, then the rest lies with them . But Kath- really, if anyone really knows you, then they will be forgiving and understanding. Do you see how many people are coming to your side and just asking you to unload on them? You don't think that's by coincidence do you? You are loved by everyone on this board. Know that- and know that any of us are more then willing to bear your hurt for you.

glo- the same thing goes for you! If you feel bad about not knowing about your friends dad- then write her a little note- send him a card and let it go! You guys!!! You're only human! FRIENDS UNDERSTAND things like that.

Now, stand up straight and wipe those tears and fears away. You've got lots of people that love ya!

 

[Mskanga]

OK everyone, I'm joining the pity party a little late but guess what?? I'm here too!
I hate it when people feel like this , I have been on a roller coaster myself lately but today is happy day, so with that being said , out ten minutes are up and it's time to get working on ourselves again , together we can do it!!!! As the teletubbies would say....{{{{{{{{{{BIGGGGGGGGG HUGGGGGGGGGG}}}}}}}}}}}

 

[Kelsie]

Hey Kath, your friends know you and know where your heart is. You would never 'intentionally' hurt any one. You my friend, have a heart of gold.

glo, you have so much to be thankful for and proud of! You have come so far. Please focas on your successes!

I'm actually doing ok! I seem to be a bit calmer on the 'no carbs' but I've been busy and that helps keep my mind off of it.

((hugs)) to everyone!

 

[Dizzy-Disney4]

I'm sorry you guys were so down last night. {{{{HUGS}}}} to all of you. You are such a great bunch of people working so hard to get healthier...go easy on yourselves. No one is perfect and we all make mistakes...remember that today is another day and I hope its a better one for you.
I have to go have a pity party for myself now...nothing big, just my first day back on dial-up. No more cable modem for me...getting too expensive

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[wovenwonder]

No pitying for me! I actually am feeling better this week than I have in a LONG time! (OMG - Alex couldn't have been right? ).

Honestly though -
I hope everyone that was feeling down last night has a brighter outlook this morning!
{{{{HUGS}}}}

 

[lmhall2000]

I get frustrated that I don't get support from my extended family (siblings, parents)- if I tell them I've lost weight- they say something like "Well, I'VE lost about 10 pounds or I need to go refill my diet pills, or if you just keep away from breads and don't stop moving you'll lose more." Maybe I'm "weigh" too sensitive about this- but I don't like people giving me advice who have never lost 100 pounds before like I have- I know what it takes- I don't like making this a competition- I would just like to have someone say- "that's GREAT!" My family is not what I would like it to be- my sister and I are polar opposites and would probably never be "friends" if we could choose one another, my mother has forgotten my 16th birthday and my 32 birthday and never mentioned our 10th anniversary, my father works over 80 hours a week so noone really ever sees him.

Okay, that's off my chest- now I can go on LOSING!!! Thanks for letting me be a WHINER!!!

And for those who think you've hurt someone- if you've done it from a "bad" place then an apology always seems better- but if you've done it from a "right" place and the truth hurts sometimes then you've probably helped them more than hurt them.
And all this pity can build up and make us want to "give in" to temptation or reward our pitful selves- now that mine is locked in this gray box- I'll never let it bug me again- even when I don't get the praise I'm seeking- it'll all come from me!
Tara