My MIL got us....

[HunnyPots]

So for Christmas, my MIL sent us...

DH - a lovely email about how much she loves him and that him, his brother and sister are her world.

Me - an email about how it's way past cleaning time for our (mine and DH's) bathroom & bedroom, and how I "can't live in a place without cleaning up after yourself." She also called my mother to tell her if she was going to get me a christmas present, that it shouldn't be clothing because I can't keep up with the laundry I have.

Merry Christmas to meee!

And yes, I would LOVE to not allow her in my house, however.. she owns the house . Long story short, it was probably the biggest mistake we could make, moving in here. But we are approved for a loan and have been house shopping for the past couple weeks - so exciting! Let me tell you, once we go, she will NOT be getting our address. DH said we should give her a fake address if she ever tries to come and visit - like one to an "adult" store

OK - when you combine these two posts, things start to make a little more sense. It sounds to me like your MIL is tired of the way you are living in her house. An email may not have been the best way to express her displeasure, but if you are living in her house, she does have every right to complain about your housekeeping standards.

 

[AlwaysMoving]

OK - when you combine these two posts, things start to make a little more sense. It sounds to me like your MIL is tired of the way you are living in her house. An email may not have been the best way to express her displeasure, but if you are living in her house, she does have every right to complain about your housekeeping standards.

I absolutely agree.

 

[minniecarousel]

awwww, when I read the first line, I thought "how sweet". Then I read the rest! EGADS! What does she think her son's responsiblity is in regards to the "messy bedroom thing"? And why would it be any of her business? I will never understand some people!

 

[Principessa1284]

OK - when you combine these two posts, things start to make a little more sense. It sounds to me like your MIL is tired of the way you are living in her house. An email may not have been the best way to express her displeasure, but if you are living in her house, she does have every right to complain about your housekeeping standards.

I would 100% agree with you if it were a child or teenager or even a young adult in school living "under a parent's roof," but they do not live here. They stay here a few weeks out of the year when they come to town. Yes, they own the house and we have been paying rent and taking care of their animals (a small farm). If you owned a house that you rented out to paying tenants, would you go into their personal bedroom and bathroom and comment on their housekeeping habits? We have no bugs or damage - it's not dirty, it's just not tidy. When I lived in an apartment complex, I would have been FURIOUS if my landlord decided that it was unacceptable for my clothes to be on the floor and shampoo bottles on the bathroom counter.

But in any case, save everything else, if she were that displeased, why not say it to my face? Or at least send a polite email. That's my whole issues - it's the constant rudeness and snottiness she has always shown to me, even before I lived here.

 

[angwill]

I would 100% agree with you if it were a child or teenager or even a young adult in school living "under a parent's roof," but they do not live here. They stay here a few weeks out of the year when they come to town. Yes, they own the house and we have been paying rent and taking care of their animals (a small farm). If you owned a house that you rented out to paying tenants, would you go into their personal bedroom and bathroom and comment on their housekeeping habits? We have no bugs or damage - it's not dirty, it's just not tidy. When I lived in an apartment complex, I would have been FURIOUS if my landlord decided that it was unacceptable for my clothes to be on the floor and shampoo bottles on the bathroom counter.

But in any case, save everything else, if she were that displeased, why not say it to my face? Or at least send a polite email. That's my whole issues - it's the constant rudeness and snottiness she has always shown to me, even before I lived here.

You know I don't understand why some people still feel it is only a womans job to pick up after everyone and if not they are the nasty one who neglects their family? Husbands and older children have a responsibility as well and if they leave their junk laying around or refuse to clean their room, do their chores etc. why does the blame have to fall on the woman? There are a lot more women working just as hard if not harder than their husbands nowadays. Maybe the mother in law needs to get it emailed back to her telling her to take it up with her son who is and adult who is quite capable of cleaning too. lol

 

[HunnyPots]

I would 100% agree with you if it were a child or teenager or even a young adult in school living "under a parent's roof," but they do not live here. They stay here a few weeks out of the year when they come to town. Yes, they own the house and we have been paying rent and taking care of their animals (a small farm). If you owned a house that you rented out to paying tenants, would you go into their personal bedroom and bathroom and comment on their housekeeping habits? We have no bugs or damage - it's not dirty, it's just not tidy. When I lived in an apartment complex, I would have been FURIOUS if my landlord decided that it was unacceptable for my clothes to be on the floor and shampoo bottles on the bathroom counter.

But in any case, save everything else, if she were that displeased, why not say it to my face? Or at least send a polite email. That's my whole issues - it's the constant rudeness and snottiness she has always shown to me, even before I lived here.

Oh I agree with you - she should not have done what she did. I'm just saying it makes more sense, with the house being hers. I thought from your original post that she was a guest in your home going around snooping and commenting on your housekeeping. Back when we were first married, we rented my MIL's house for a short time and she was the exact same way, minus the emails. We figured out pretty quickly that we would always be perceived as "staying in her home" rather than being paying tenants. We got out quickly and it sounds like you're doing the same. Mixing business with family is never easy.