My In-laws are worse than your In-laws!

[dreamn_Disney]

Let me start by saying I was not married to my ex for long. He was abusive before the marriage and I was a fool to go through with it. We separated just 6 weeks after the wedding. His mother the whole time we dated and up to the time of the divorce was just plain evil.

Wedding shower: Was nice enough to supply the cake and buns for sandwiches. The buns were purchase at a factory outlet that sold the out dated baked goods at a discount. Yep out dated buns for all my family and friends. Insisted she invite a bunch of people I did not know because her friends and family needed to get to know me and most of them did not show up but we had bought enough food to feed all of them. When asked where they were she said - oh most of them called to let me know they wouldn't be here but I forgot to pass it on to you.

The cake was beautiful. She had a cousin who owed her money and made cakes on the side. She had her make the cake for the money owed. MIL thought it was more important to have the buns and a suitcase in the truck with her and the cake in the bed of the truck. She poked dozens of tooth picks in the cake and wrapped in in plastic wrap. The cake was beautiful except all the tiny holes in it.

Wedding Invitations: I was trying to keep numbers down for the wedding and reception and decided to not have children or family past first cousins invited. She had over 100 people she needed to have there. Since I would not give in on the child issue she insisted on helping by mailing out the invitations to her guest list. She added and children to all the invites. When many of her guests did not RSVP I asked her to please get me a count of who would or would not be there. She was so confident that all these people would be there that instead of checking she just told me to expect them. We paid for dinner for 40 guests that did not show up. Turned out many of the guest where people like DH teachers from when he was in school or the cook at the restaurant she liked to eat at. I passed up having people I wanted there because I thought he had all the family from out of town coming in and it was just people invited that his mom had casual relationships with.

Wedding: Two weeks before wedding I found out she had canceled the DJ after Ex and I had had a fight. She never told me. I called to get a final play list from him and he said he had been canceled and returned the check to MIL.

Tried to wear a white dress to wedding. He daughter caught that one and made her change. Told her mother not to bother charging the camcorder as we did not actually want a video of the wedding. Was upset when her family was asked to stop snapping photos at the same time as the photographer. I guess the extra flashes going off can mess up his photos and is distracting.

Wedding Reception: My father passed away when I was a teen and I had told the DJ (I did manage to get him back) that I did not want a Daddy/Daughter dance but one with my brother. I also picked a song for ex and my DD (now his step DD) to dance to. I told him to check with MIL about a dance for her and her son. I also told him to please not play any music about dads and daughters as I would be missing my dad very much this day. She insisted on the song Butterfly Kisses for her dance. She knew how I felt about that song and how sad it always made me feel.

Fist Mothers Day with MIL: Sided with her son when he was mad at me. I was angry because he did not help my dd pick me out a mothers day gift. He told me my being angry ruined his mothers day. She agreed and treated me very badly the whole time we visited her.

The Worst: I found out later from one of her dd that she knew that her DS was beating on me and use to call and tell him things I said or did, that I didn't say or do, because she knew he would get mad and hit me. Yes the woman would lie to her son to get him to beat on me. Like I said the marriage did not last long and I am glad everyday that I got out early. He and her became even more evil with the second wife and her DD.

 

[Jennasis]

Let me start by saying I was not married to my ex for long. He was abusive before the marriage and I was a fool to go through with it. We separated just 6 weeks after the wedding. His mother the whole time we dated and up to the time of the divorce was just plain evil.

Wedding shower: Was nice enough to supply the cake and buns for sandwiches. The buns were purchase at a factory outlet that sold the out dated baked goods at a discount. Yep out dated buns for all my family and friends. Insisted she invite a bunch of people I did not know because her friends and family needed to get to know me and most of them did not show up but we had bought enough food to feed all of them. When asked where they were she said - oh most of them called to let me know they wouldn't be here but I forgot to pass it on to you.

The cake was beautiful. She had a cousin who owed her money and made cakes on the side. She had her make the cake for the money owed. MIL thought it was more important to have the buns and a suitcase in the truck with her and the cake in the bed of the truck. She poked dozens of tooth picks in the cake and wrapped in in plastic wrap. The cake was beautiful except all the tiny holes in it.

Wedding Invitations: I was trying to keep numbers down for the wedding and reception and decided to not have children or family past first cousins invited. She had over 100 people she needed to have there. Since I would not give in on the child issue she insisted on helping by mailing out the invitations to her guest list. She added and children to all the invites. When many of her guests did not RSVP I asked her to please get me a count of who would or would not be there. She was so confident that all these people would be there that instead of checking she just told me to expect them. We paid for dinner for 40 guests that did not show up. Turned out many of the guest where people like DH teachers from when he was in school or the cook at the restaurant she liked to eat at. I passed up having people I wanted there because I thought he had all the family from out of town coming in and it was just people invited that his mom had casual relationships with.

Wedding: Two weeks before wedding I found out she had canceled the DJ after Ex and I had had a fight. She never told me. I called to get a final play list from him and he said he had been canceled and returned the check to MIL.

Tried to wear a white dress to wedding. He daughter caught that one and made her change. Told her mother not to bother charging the camcorder as we did not actually want a video of the wedding. Was upset when her family was asked to stop snapping photos at the same time as the photographer. I guess the extra flashes going off can mess up his photos and is distracting.

Wedding Reception: My father passed away when I was a teen and I had told the DJ (I did manage to get him back) that I did not want a Daddy/Daughter dance but one with my brother. I also picked a song for ex and my DD (now his step DD) to dance to. I told him to check with MIL about a dance for her and her son. I also told him to please not play any music about dads and daughters as I would be missing my dad very much this day. She insisted on the song Butterfly Kisses for her dance. She knew how I felt about that song and how sad it always made me feel.

Fist Mothers Day with MIL: Sided with her son when he was mad at me. I was angry because he did not help my dd pick me out a mothers day gift. He told me my being angry ruined his mothers day. She agreed and treated me very badly the whole time we visited her.

The Worst: I found out later from one of her dd that she knew that her DS was beating on me and use to call and tell him things I said or did, that I didn't say or do, because she knew he would get mad and hit me. Yes the woman would lie to her son to get him to beat on me. Like I said the marriage did not last long and I am glad everyday that I got out early. He and her became even more evil with the second wife and her DD.

Sounds like my ex-MIL. Maybe you married by ex??

She wore white to my wedding after I asked her not to (and she made her other DIL wear white too).

Told her no children at the wedding, but she told other DIL to bring their 9 month old infant anyway. then DIL ad the GAUL to send her husband to me mid-party to tell me he was having the DJ turn the music down so the baby could sleep! Luckily the DJ was fabu and came to me a few moments later and told me he would do no such thing unless I wanted...I did not.

She told me I was making ugly faces walking down the aisle. Probably because I was about to marry her messed up son and was scared poopless.

She asked me for more invites to send to her side of the family 2 days AFTER the final RSVP date (A few weeks before the wedding). this was after 6 months of begging daily for her list of invites and never getting more than a few names.

Her son (my ex), who has never stepped foot in a church (he'd probably burst into flames), demanded we have a Russian Orthodox Catholic wedding because that was his mom's denomination. his mother never attends church either No dice.

During the whole reception not ONE of his family members 30 of 150 guests ever got up to dance. They sat there stone faced the whole night watching my family have a blast. His mom was angry that there were so few of her relatives there but remember she wouldn't give me names, so well...YOU LOSE.

 

[dreamn_Disney]

She told me I was making ugly faces walking down the aisle. Probably because I was about to marry her messed up son and was scared poopless.

There was a moment when I first entered the church that I had a look of horror on my face. It was just a split second when my mind said you are making a huge mistake. My mom had asked me, right before we entered, if I was sure about this. I was so messed up in the head that I thought - I have to go through with it, I can't back out this late.

 

[DMRick]

Lucky for me, I've had nice in-laws.

What I have learned from years of posting and reading on the Dis, is to be sure I'm a good mother-in-law. I read these threads, in hopes I learn from them what not to do.

I'm involved in all of my kids lives, yet I've learned when not to be. I've never forgotten a sil or dil's birthday, and I try to treat the in-laws as if they are my own kids (which I really feel they are). I offer to help when able and know when to back off. I hope they all love me, as much as I love them. I think they do. My children picked wisely and I hope my sil's and dil's feel the same about their spouses parents, that I feel about them!

Again..I've learned a lot on the Dis what not to do.

Think yours are the worst ever? Here's the place to prove it...or at least blow off some steam . Tell us your worst, most hair-raising, awful, tactless mean thing your In-laws have ever said or done (or perhaps your own parents have done to your spouse...we're equal opportunity 'round here!).

 

[pkondz]

I found out later from one of her dd that she knew that her DS was beating on me and use to call and tell him things I said or did, that I didn't say or do, because she knew he would get mad and hit me. Yes the woman would lie to her son to get him to beat on me.

Wow... just... wow.

She told me I was making ugly faces walking down the aisle. Probably because I was about to marry her messed up son and was scared poopless.

You probably didn't mean this to sound funny, but... I know what you wanted to say and why you changed it to keep it clean... but... Can you imagine using "scared poopless" in a normal conversation?

 

[Jennasis]

There was a moment when I first entered the church that I had a look of horror on my face. It was just a split second when my mind said you are making a huge mistake. My mom had asked me, right before we entered, if I was sure about this. I was so messed up in the head that I thought - I have to go through with it, I can't back out this late.

Sweet Googa Mooga...that was ME TOO!!

My parents were begging in the limo as I sat out front of the church. I was so scared to go through with it, and even more so to back out. Oh the embarassment...the shock. The wedding was like this juggernaut that took on a life of it's own. How could I stop it (or so I thought)?

The WORST part? If you watch the video of the ceremony, as I am walking down the aisle you can actually see the moment where my heart shatters into a million pieces as I walk in and see, standing in the back row of the church..wait for it...my best friend, who is now my DH of 6 glorious years. I chalked my feelings for him back then up to being a crush or cold feet. But when I saw him in the back row watching me, my heart died...I knew I was marrying the wrong man.

DH says it broke his heart to watch me marry that loser too. And he actually ditched the reception very early because he couldn't stand watching it.

 

[tlbwriter]

A friend of mine got married in a church that's located across the street from the parking lot of a school. He said as he stood up at the front of the church, and the doors opened to admit his soon-to-be bride, he saw the sign in the parking lot facing him. It said "Do Not Enter." He says "And I should have listened."

 

[bas71873]

We just had a 5.9 magnitude earthquake (and I'm less than 75 miles from the epi-center) and you'd think my in-laws might try to get in touch to see if we are OK? Nope. But step-MIL sure sure can post on FB that she and HER daughter (my step-SIL) and grandson are OK.

 

[PigletsPal2]

If MIL mentions mirrored ceiling in company (especially mixed) again, say something like "I know, right? And thank you for all the other "kinky" ideas (insert girlish giggle here) you've shared with me to keep things interesting in the bedroom! Maybe FIL will share some secrets with DH?..."

Queen Colleen

 

[pkondz]

If MIL mentions mirrored ceiling in company (especially mixed) again, say something like "I know, right? And thank you for all the other "kinky" ideas (insert girlish giggle here) you've shared with me to keep things interesting in the bedroom! Maybe FIL will share some secrets with DH?..."

Queen Colleen

Or how about. Mirror? No we don't have a mirror on the ceiling. That's why we installed the cameras.

 

[Crystal824]

Awesome thread.

My relationship with my MIL has gotten better since DD was born. I think she understands that yes, we can keep DD from seeing her if she continues to act like a lunatic. Here are a few gems from the last four years of marriage and 3 years of dating:

1) After law school and before marriage, DH and I moved back to his hometown. DH's grandfather who was no longer living in his house but living with DH's parents and generously offered to let us live in his house. We lived there for almost two years (two years too long). MIL would constatly come into the house while we were gone and rearrange things to her liking. Once when my family was visiting (they live several states away) we came back from dinner and she was in the kitchen rearranging the cabinets. She literally moved the dishes from one cabinet to another (these were my dishes) and rearranged the pantry. She also rearranged the furniture once while we were working. During the first holiday season, we lived there we stayed with DH's family for both Thanksgiving and Christmas because we had no money. We had just taken the bar and found out we had passed. I had just gotten a job but DH didn't have a job yet. The next year things were better. We decided to vist my family for Thanksgiving. MIL flipped her lid and during our return trip, she called my mom and told her that she should have me turn around because once we got back "home" she was throwing us out. Techinically, she could have because although the home was DH's grandfather home (they had put it in MIL's name for estate planning purposes). Of course, we got back and she says she never did that, but my mom wouldn't call me frantic and make that up. Apparently, she did because Dh's grandfather called me and told me we could stay there as long as we wanted.

2) During our wedding we had cake, groomscake, and a cookie table, there was a ton of cookies left over. I asked my step-sister to take the cookies, groom's cake, (put them in the freezer) and presents to our apartment after the wedding becuase we left for the honeymoon (we had moved from DH's grandfather's house not long after MIL threatened to throw us out). She took the things there. When I got home from our honeymoon, there were only a few cookies and no groomscake. MIL used DH's keys (he rode to the wedding with his parents and left his car at thier house while we were on honeymoon) to get into our apartment and took the cookies and groomscake. She never told us she did this. I only found out because I asked stepsister about the cookies and cake and she said I put them in your freezer. MIL also bragged to a cousin that she did it. She also had a copy of the key to our apartment made. I changed the locks when I got back. We paid for the cookies and the cake.

3) Everytime we have something fun planned, a day out, a vacation, MIL calls with some emergency (at least to her). The first time we took a vacation together (we were dating) she called and told DH she was going to divorce his father. She didn't. A couple of years ago, we had planned for about a month to go ice skating around a tree in downtown. She called because she found a bug next to the fridge and wanted him to come spray. Just last weekend, we went to a local theme park. It has been planed for several months because we went with our church. She called about 5 min. before we were supposed to leave demanding DH go to her house and put a metal bedframe together because her bed broke (about 4 weeks ago) and DH rigged it until she gets the boards for her old bed she ordered. She is very demanding. As I mentioned, DH and I are both professionals and have a child. She lives 40 min away. She calls and expects DH to drop everything and come over whenver she wants. Honestly, alot of things have gotten better but this really hasn't. If he doesn't, do what she wants when she wants she says he doesn't care about her and I am trying to keep her from his real family. Blah, Blah, Blah. Nevermind, she has another 27 year old son living with her who could do these things. If my life is bad, God help the woman who marries him because he is the GOLDEN child. I think he may be gay so....there may be no DIL issues there.

4) Before DD was born, she went and bought a coming home from the hospital outfit and gave it to me and said this is DD's coming home outfit. Really? Who does that? I had DH talk to her and she took it back. Since DD was born, she tries to buy all of her special outfits, Easter, Christmas, Birthday, you name it. Her baptism dress. Funny, tradition at least here dicates the godmother buys the baptism dress. My college roommate is dd's godmother and lives across the state so she brought dd's dress with her when she came for the baptism. MIL asked me about this dress everytime she saw me and called I don't know how many times for about a month prior to the baptism...do you think it will be nice. ...she even asked me to let her, MIL, pick out the dress and DD's godmother could just pay her for it when she got into town. She never once says, hey can I buy her this or that special outfit...just buys it and expects us to use it. I sometimes let DD wear it, but if it is important to me I say I already bought an outfit for that occassion. DD can wear this another time. Typically, she takes it back.

5) We also lived briefly with the in-laws while our house was being built (about 5 weeks) our lease was up and our house wasn't finished. The day we were moving out of our apartment, we were finishing cleaning and had the walk through with the Landlord. We had already unhooked our apartment phone (it was packed in the UHaul). We left our cellphones in the U-Haul while we were doing the walkthrough and finishing up. Well, we got ready to leave and there was about 10 messages from MIL. DH tries to call MIL back but doesn't get an answer. Apparently, BIL's (he is also a piece of work but not as bad as MIL) car was towed because he parked in the wrong spot at his apartment. MIL wanted DH to go get BIL. We didn't get the message until after she had already left. She shows up at her house about 2 am (we are already asleep) and starts slams the door after she comes in and starts yelling obsenciteis F this and F that at us. We were also ungrateful because we didn't answer the phone.

I could go on. I realize this isn't nearly as bad as some of the stories on here. She does get really crazy when she doesn't get her way. Some family members have questioned if she is on drugs. I think she may be addicted to pain medications. She has alot of back pain and other issues. Either way she definitely has anger issues. After I had DD, they prescribed a pain med (I forget what) I never had it filled because I didn't need it. She told me I should have gotten it and given it to her.

 

[fireflymedic]

wow guess I'm lucky. I actully wrote off my inlaw's on my very first date. My (now X) was living with thim. (she was in her 30's at the time) they left me standing on the front porch. I could see in the house it was clean so not realy sure why they would not invite me in. And when I took her back home she was locked out of the house. Off course after that I tried to make sure I did not go in there house.

 

[ksjayhawks]

Awesome thread.

3) Everytime we have something fun planned, a day out, a vacation, MIL calls with some emergency (at least to her). The first time we took a vacation together (we were dating) she called and told DH she was going to divorce his father. She didn't. A couple of years ago, we had planned for about a month to go ice skating around a tree in downtown. She called because she found a bug next to the fridge and wanted him to come spray. Just last weekend, we went to a local theme park. It has been planed for several months because we went with our church. She called about 5 min. before we were supposed to leave demanding DH go to her house and put a metal bedframe together because her bed broke (about 4 weeks ago) and DH rigged it until she gets the boards for her old bed she ordered. She is very demanding. As I mentioned, DH and I are both professionals and have a child. She lives 40 min away. She calls and expects DH to drop everything and come over whenver she wants. Honestly, alot of things have gotten better but this really hasn't. If he doesn't, do what she wants when she wants she says he doesn't care about her and I am trying to keep her from his real family. Blah, Blah, Blah. Nevermind, she has another 27 year old son living with her who could do these things. If my life is bad, God help the woman who marries him because he is the GOLDEN child. I think he may be gay so....there may be no DIL issues there.

Sorry, but this one is not a MIL problem, this is a DH problem.

Your dh needs to tell her "no" and follow through. He is putting her needs ahead of you and your dd. You two need to sit down and have a long talk about this right now and come to an agreement that your immediate family comes before her needs. It will be tough on him the first few times, but get easier. What is the worse that she can do?

Also, why did she have keys to your house so that she could get in? I would have changed the locks immediately after the first time that she did that.

 

[disneywatcher]

Ahh my MIL....the woman who gave me hives...LITERALLY!

When DH and I were engaged, I talked him into going home for Christmas to see his family. DH hadn't been home at ALL since he joined the Army and I couldn't understand why I soon found out.

Our whole time there she went out of her way to make me feel unwelcome. I offered to help with the dishes and she flat out told me NO.
DBIL asked me to wash his hair for him, so I did...bathroom door wide open all of us dressed and DH in there as well. She threw a FIT and told me she was being very "tollerant" of me and insisted I appologize to her
It was so bad for me that I called my mom in tears from a bowling alley and appologized for EVERY mean thing I had ever said or did to her.
Finally on Christmas Eve, I am sitting in her living room with the rest of her family while they exchange gifts. Suddenly I realize that DH, DFIL and MIL are not in the room and DH's Grandmother looks at me and asks where he is....
Turns out DH, DFIL and MIL were in the basement having a discussion about me and how if DH chose to stay with me she would dis-enherit him. It didn't end up happening thanks to DFIL but she still gave me daggers for eyes after that. We left the next morning.

Around our wedding, she called my mother and insisted I was a gold digger.
The day of the wedding we had an open bar and she glared at everyone who was drinking (even though she herself is a closet drunk).

In the last 11 years of marriage, she has only ever called to tell us bad news or come to tell us bad news.
DFIL died when our youngest was 3 months old and we went to the funeral (DH went from Iraq and the kids and I from NY). She put us up in a hotel instead of letting us stay in the big house because our kids would be loud and she didn't like loud noise.

Last September she came up to see us just to tell DH that her doctor thought she might have cancer and was dying. Turns out she had cysts on her pancreas but she never called us to let us know what the tests said.

The topper for me though was she was at Church with the rest of DH's family who lives in KS and while holding the youngest child of one of our cousins she started to cry about how she misses her grandchildren....the ones she never calls to talk to.

I seriously loved my DFIL but I don't think I will EVER like my MIL.

 

[Swank]

DBIL asked me to wash his hair for him, so I did...bathroom door wide open all of us dressed and DH in there as well.

 

[brookmey]

Although my MIL has done some questionable things, she is not the monster-in-law many of you have. More of my problems are with DH's sisters, 4 of them. I'll get carpal tunnel syndrome by all the typing I would have to do to explain them, but to sum it up, 2 of his sisters are alcoholics, 1 is a recovering (supposedly) drug addict who put her then 1 year old son through h***, and the 3 addicts are all single mothers. The dads are not in the picture for any of them. The drug addict has 2 sons, both different dads, neither of them known. Rumor is she became pregnant both times when her drug dealer "loaned" her out as payment for her habit. She is a horrible, horrible human being and I loathe her. She has tried to ruin our lives and DH's reputation by spreading terrible lies about him.

Of the 2 alcoholic sisters, 1 knows who the dad is, he just didn't stick around. The other sister has no idea who her son's father is. So, none are getting child support, so they all rely on their parents to support them, which my FIL and MIL (who are divorced) do.

The 4th sister is married to a controlling workaholic jerk and they have 2 daughters. This sister has major self-worth issues and her self-worth is all tied up in what kind of a mother she is. She is extremely insecure about herself and her kids. She has no problem putting down other kids, including nieces and nephews, so make her kids look better. She is constantly comparing her oldest to my kids and if, in her opinion, her DD doesn't measure up, then she tries to knock mine down. She's the queen of backhanded compliments and being passive aggressive.

She labels her kids and puts them in these little boxes (figuratively) and sees them no other way. She has already decided that DD#1, who is 5, is an angel and is perfect, beautiful, the ideal child. DD#2 is almost 1, and my SIL has decided that she is going to be the problem child because #2 is active, energetic and she goes after what she wants. She recently made a comment that DD#1 is "classically beautiful and adorable, just like an angel," while DD#2 "has kind of an ugly smile, but she's so ugly she's almost cute." Who calls their own kid ugly?

Even though DH's sisters are messed up and have major issues, which they are also passing onto their kids, I am the most concerned about my 2 nieces. It's because of the kinds of things their mom says and does, and the pressure she puts on them to be perfect, because then she feels better because she must be the perfect mom. They're not allowed to have flaws because then that might reflect badly on her as a mother. The dad is a complete jerk who hides behind the "I'm a Christian," but yet only practices it when it's convenient for him.

We only live 20 minutes from them, but rarely see them anymore because we just can't have our kids around my SIL and the comments she makes about them. It's pretty sad.

 

[Crystal824]

Sorry, but this one is not a MIL problem, this is a DH problem.

Your dh needs to tell her "no" and follow through. He is putting her needs ahead of you and your dd. You two need to sit down and have a long talk about this right now and come to an agreement that your immediate family comes before her needs. It will be tough on him the first few times, but get easier. What is the worse that she can do?

Also, why did she have keys to your house so that she could get in? I would have changed the locks immediately after the first time that she did that.

He does tell her no and does follow through, but it doesn't change anything. On all of those occassions he said no to her and we did what we planned. It doesn't change her, she still does this. I just feel bad for DH because she says really mean things to him and makes him feel bad. It is hard for him to enjoy whatever we planned knowing his mom is mad at him.

The whole breaking and entering thing only happened once. She had the keys to our apartment because DH left his keys and his car with his parents while we were on our honeymoon. He stayed with his parents the night before our wedding and they drove him to the wedding. MIL took it upon herself to take his keys and go to our apartment and take the left over cookies and cake while we were on our honeymoon. I did have the locks changed as soon as I got home and realized what happened and after MIL bragged to another faimly she had a key made. This family member called me to tell me what happened. At first when we got home, I thought my stepsister had forgotten the cake and cookies. I called her about it. She confirmed that she put them in our freezer. A few days later this family member called to tell me MIL had bragged about going in our apartment to her. That night I was on the phone with our landlord to get the locks changed.

 

[Crystal824]

I thought of another fun MIL story. When I went back to work after DD was born, my mom offered to spend her 2 week vacation taking care of DD to delay her going to daycare. Well, turns out my mom was unable to take the time off due to some firing issues that occured at her job. She runs a business and her second in command was fired about a week before I went back to work so my mom had to work. Ok, Dh volunteers his parents for the job. They only live about 35-40 min. away, but they insisted that they spend the two weeks in our guest bedroom, which I think is ridiculous because they live close enough to drive everyday (I would have gladly paid for the gas), but I went along with it.

It was near Halloween when I went back to work. I leave for my first day of work and there is this ugly plastic faded light up pumpkin sitting in front of our house. MIL arrived and put this pumpkin outside our house and plugged it in without asking. She also spent the two weeks rearranging our picture frames and knicknacks in our family room and living room. It annoys me to no end. One night I came home from work and MIL was taking a dip in our jacuzzi tub (in our master suite), which was creepy in and of itself. She didn't clean it out when she was done. Oh, and we have a guest bathroom so it isnt' like that is our only bathroom. We started a terrible trend because now everytime she wants to take care of DD, she inisits they spend the night, which is a pain because not only is it annoying because of these type of antics, but I am the one who has to clean the guest bathroom, the guest bedroom, and change the sheets when they stay. DH never does this.

 

[TheIncredibles!]

I thought of another fun MIL story. When I went back to work after DD was born, my mom offered to spend her 2 week vacation taking care of DD to delay her going to daycare. Well, turns out my mom was unable to take the time off due to some firing issues that occured at her job. She runs a business and her second in command was fired about a week before I went back to work so my mom had to work. Ok, Dh volunteers his parents for the job. They only live about 35-40 min. away, but they insisted that they spend the two weeks in our guest bedroom, which I think is ridiculous because they live close enough to drive everyday (I would have gladly paid for the gas), but I went along with it.

It was near Halloween when I went back to work. I leave for my first day of work and there is this ugly plastic faded light up pumpkin sitting in front of our house. MIL arrived and put this pumpkin outside our house and plugged it in without asking. She also spent the two weeks rearranging our picture frames and knicknacks in our family room and living room. It annoys me to no end. One night I came home from and MIL was taking a dip in our jacuzzi tub (in our master suite), which was creepy in and of itself. She didn't clean it out when she was done. Oh, and we have a guest bathroom so it isnt' like that is our only bathroom. We started a terrible trend because now everytime she wants to take care of DD, she inisits they spend the night, which is a pain because not only is it annoying because of these type of antics, but I am the one who has to clean the guest bathroom, the guest bedroom, and change the sheets when they stay. DH never does this.

My in-laws came here and slept here to watch our kids for us once as we had an out of state wedding. We left Friday morning and came back Saturday night so they were here Friday most of the day, Friday night and then went home Saturday night when we got back.

I came back to find that she "fixed" all my kitchen cabinets - she had taken everything out and put it where she felt everything should be. She said it was very difficult for her to cook in my kitchen with everything in the wrong spot so she spent hours fixing it Friday so she'd have an easier time cooking for the "rest of their stay". Not one single item in my kitchen was in the spot it was in before I left. I had to spend hours that Sunday to put everything back where it belonged. She totally rearranged my pantry too and I am very anal about my pantry.

 

[HelenePA]

One story about when my inlaws watched both girls for about 12hrs... me and my dh went to baltimore for the day its less than 2 hrs away and I wanted to see an IMax movie.. they were small maybe 1 & 2 but both were potty training... well we got back about 10pm.. they promised to take the kids out to a local amusement park, the local park or just play on the porch with the small kiddie pool and their toys.. well that all changed once we left.. they put on movies in their room and just watched TV all day in the living room.. they fed them snacks no real meals and NEVER emptied the potty (not even once).. it was over flowing it was so gross... I vowed never to leave them alone for more than an hour after that little stunt..

Here is another when dd10 was 6months old she had open heart surgery (google TOF defect)... we asked them not to please come down until we called them. Only 2 were allowed back into the PICU at a time and we wanted to comfort her with out having to deal with them or my family... We get there at 5am.... they take my baby away from me and we head up to the waiting room.. who is already there? Yep his family... so when she was done instead of just us being able to sit with her it was all of us taking turns seeing her.. we asked them nicely to just let us be until she was comfortable the next day and extubated where they could hold her and stuff... but no.. I had to give up my seat to those asses... She did amazing and was out of the hospital in less than 48hrs (including surgery time) we didn't even unpack the car with all her crap we brought for our week long stay I know some will disagree with us asking them to not come until the next day but it was the hardest thing I never had to do... I needed just me and my dh to hold her hands and comfort her.. not them who spent little to no time with her when she was at home with us for 5 months (she was in the nicu for 33day at birth with NEC and major feeding issues, she came home weighing a pound less than what she was born at)... she didn't even know them... that was their choice as well.