My In-laws are worse than your In-laws!

[rodeo65]

I have to ask.. Just where (or how) do all of you end up with in-law's like this??

Off the top of my head, I can only think of four - maybe five families - out of all of the people I have known since becoming an adult (I'm in my 60's now) who have had in-law problems.. Every time I come on here and read these sorts of threads I just shake my head.. I simply can't believe that the number of people with serious in-law problems (or what they consider serious problems) are so high on the DIS.. (I'm only speaking of MIL's and FIL's here - not the sibling IL's..)

I wonder what the reason is for that? Is it the generation gaps? Have people really changed that much in the past 45 years or so? It really does puzzle me..

Do you all ever wonder how your children will get along with their MIL's and FIL's - and how their spouses will get along with you?

Kind of off topic, but this thread caught my eye and I didn't want to go and start an entire new thread about it since I'm not around enough to really keep up with it..

Guess all I can say is: "Good luck!" LOL...

Well, hopefully those of us who deal with it will remember when we become parent-in-laws and just NOT.

 

[TaraPA]

I wonder what the reason is for that? Is it the generation gaps? Have people really changed that much in the past 45 years or so? It really does puzzle me..

All I can say is....there's a lot of mental illness & addicts out there...

It does make me sad. At my dear GM's funeral (my dad's mom) my mother spoke & said that GM (my mom's MIL) was more of a mother to her than her own mother had been. I thought wow..now there's a tribute to a MIL that I will never come close to making!

 

[luvdzny]

My husband had been in the hospital for a few days with a sore back (they did not visit) was eventually diagnosed with Stage Four Cancer. My husband phoned to tell his parents. They (live five minutes from the hospital) came to pick up the his car keys to move his car which was in their driveway(long story) and then went out to dinner. I had to go down to the entrance of the hospital to give them the keys.

Can anyone top this??????

I think we have a tie....
DH was in the hospital for 5 weeks. At one point I was told to "say my goodbyes" because there was nothing else that could be done for him. Well God was watching out for him and he pulled through.

His parents have not liked me since day one (we had been married 25 years when this happened.) Two days after he returned home from the hospital his parents came over to visit. DH had lost 50+ lbs, he could not even stand up by himself and he looked TERRIBLE. They never said a word about his illness or even ask how he was feeling. The spent the entire visit bad-mouthing me and bringing up things that I had supposedly done to them in the past. They called me a "not so nice name" and left. That was in August of 2007. We haven't seen them since.

We had lots of problems with them before that. MIL was telling people that we were getting a divorce , who knows why because we have never even considered it, we are both quite happy. Also, DD has an "invisible illness" she is beautiful and looks healthy but she has a lot of medical problems. MIL told everyone she knows that DD is not sick and we are all just faking it. I guess I could have sent over her medical records so she could see for herself, but I don't think i could afford the postage!!!


Do I place in the top 10?

I have told DH that he can call or visit his parents anytime he wants to but he said that they owe me an apology and if he has to chose between them and me I will win every time!

By the way, this is the same woman that used to lock DS in a dog cage when she would babysit. Needless to say after I found that out neither of our kids were ever left alone with her again.

 

[Jennasis]

I have to ask.. Just where (or how) do all of you end up with in-law's like this??

Off the top of my head, I can only think of four - maybe five families - out of all of the people I have known since becoming an adult (I'm in my 60's now) who have had in-law problems.. Every time I come on here and read these sorts of threads I just shake my head.. I simply can't believe that the number of people with serious in-law problems (or what they consider serious problems) are so high on the DIS.. (I'm only speaking of MIL's and FIL's here - not the sibling IL's..)

I wonder what the reason is for that? Is it the generation gaps? Have people really changed that much in the past 45 years or so? It really does puzzle me..

Do you all ever wonder how your children will get along with their MIL's and FIL's - and how their spouses will get along with you?

Kind of off topic, but this thread caught my eye and I didn't want to go and start an entire new thread about it since I'm not around enough to really keep up with it..

Guess all I can say is: "Good luck!" LOL...

It's not like any of us sought out insane in-laws. it's just something that happened.


My ex-MIL told me I looked ugly walking down the aisle.

My current MIL is a certifiable nut bag.

I have a cousin with a lunatic MIL too.

Aside from that, I don't know anyone else with in-laws from hell. Compared to the number of folks on the DIS, the number of people postingon this thread is barely a drop in the bucket.

 

[hereyago]

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by the way, this is the same woman that used to lock ds in a dog cage when she would babysit.

wth?!

 

[rodeo65]

I think we have a tie....
DH was in the hospital for 5 weeks. At one point I was told to "say my goodbyes" because there was nothing else that could be done for him. Well God was watching out for him and he pulled through.

His parents have not liked me since day one (we had been married 25 years when this happened.) Two days after he returned home from the hospital his parents came over to visit. DH had lost 50+ lbs, he could not even stand up by himself and he looked TERRIBLE. They never said a word about his illness or even ask how he was feeling. The spent the entire visit bad-mouthing me and bringing up things that I had supposedly done to them in the past. They called me a "not so nice name" and left. That was in August of 2007. We haven't seen them since.

We had lots of problems with them before that. MIL was telling people that we were getting a divorce , who knows why because we have never even considered it, we are both quite happy. Also, DD has an "invisible illness" she is beautiful and looks healthy but she has a lot of medical problems. MIL told everyone she knows that DD is not sick and we are all just faking it. I guess I could have sent over her medical records so she could see for herself, but I don't think i could afford the postage!!!


Do I place in the top 10? YES

I have told DH that he can call or visit his parents anytime he wants to but he said that they owe me an apology and if he has to chose between them and me I will win every time!

By the way, this is the same woman that used to lock DS in a dog cage when she would babysit. WHAAAAAAAT?!? Needless to say after I found that out neither of our kids were ever left alone with her again.

 

[HelenePA]

I have to ask.. Just where (or how) do all of you end up with in-law's like this??

I honest to god think that my MIL blames my dh for ruining her life as a teen.. as I said she had him at 17... I've never seen her say one nice thing to him in the 15yrs we've been together. His dad just acts like a puppy with a tail in between his legs.. Dh use to get along with my dad so good! And my grandmother... he loved her I never saw him cry like he did when we found out she was gone... dh said to me.. I never knew families actually liked each other before I met yours.. how sad is that I dont think they ever told him they loved him growing up ... its caused some problems with how he acts with our kids then I just tell him to stop being like his mom.. that usually gives him the kick in the *** he needs... I mean I get you dont love your kids the same, after all they aren't the same kids.. but I mean you do LOVE them just in different ways... not his family... its very sad. I couldn't fathom not speaking to any of my kids for YEARS!! I told my mil she was a great teacher how not to be a mil or grandmother

 

[roscoepc1]

I have to ask.. Just where (or how) do all of you end up with in-law's like this??

Off the top of my head, I can only think of four - maybe five families - out of all of the people I have known since becoming an adult (I'm in my 60's now) who have had in-law problems.. Every time I come on here and read these sorts of threads I just shake my head.. I simply can't believe that the number of people with serious in-law problems (or what they consider serious problems) are so high on the DIS.. (I'm only speaking of MIL's and FIL's here - not the sibling IL's..)

I wonder what the reason is for that? Is it the generation gaps? Have people really changed that much in the past 45 years or so? It really does puzzle me..

Do you all ever wonder how your children will get along with their MIL's and FIL's - and how their spouses will get along with you?

Kind of off topic, but this thread caught my eye and I didn't want to go and start an entire new thread about it since I'm not around enough to really keep up with it..

Guess all I can say is: "Good luck!" LOL...

I'd say it's b/c only people with whackadoo ILs are responding to this thread...it's not an even sampling, kwim? I don't know that many people irl with awful ILs, but I do know a few...and my Dad's mom was a HORRIBLE IL to my Mom....maybe that's why she's a half-decent one, in spite of being mentally ill???

MY mil married my fil when she was 16 and he was 29...and she's a registered doormat with passive-aggressive mania to make up for it. She went from being abused by her dad, to being dominated by an older man who was set in his ways and scarred from serving in WW2 (mentally scarred, not physically)...that being said, had she EVER stood up to FIL he'd've respected her more...he's actually got marshmallow insides under his tough crust!

I knew she was ditzy when I married dh, but the passive-aggressive manipulative crap didn't start until after I married her baby boy and then didn't sucky-baby him like she thought I should....we were both raised on dairy farms...he's on of 4 boys, I'm one of 4 girls who has a terrific dad who taught his girls to be independant and to work hard in life...no WAY was I sucky-babying a grown man!

I adore my fil, btw....just can't stand the twit he married, lol.

 

[roscoepc1]

I honest to god think that my MIL blames my dh for ruining her life as a teen.. as I said she had him at 17... I've never seen her say one nice thing to him in the 15yrs we've been together. His dad just acts like a puppy with a tail in between his legs.. Dh use to get along with my dad so good! And my grandmother... he loved her I never saw him cry like he did when we found out she was gone... dh said to me.. I never knew families actually liked each other before I met yours.. how sad is that I dont think they ever told him they loved him growing up ... its caused some problems with how he acts with our kids then I just tell him to stop being like his mom.. that usually gives him the kick in the *** he needs... I mean I get you dont love your kids the same, after all they aren't the same kids.. but I mean you do LOVE them just in different ways... not his family... its very sad. I couldn't fathom not speaking to any of my kids for YEARS!! I told my mil she was a great teacher how not to be a mil or grandmother

My dh says the same thing...and he'd skip a holiday on his side any time to spend it with my extended family! He considers my sister to be one of his best friends...as do I.

 

[dis-happy]

MIL: You can't cook for crap.

You: Excuse me? I must have misheard you. Because I thought you said I can't cook for crap. And that's not only totally untrue, but if it were true, it would be incredibly rude and obnoxious to say and we all know you're not the sort of person to be rude or obnoxious to your son's wife. So what is it you said to me?

ROTFLOL at this one!!! That sounds just like something Lulu (from the Stephanie Plum books) would say. Love it!!!

 

[roscoepc1]

Oh! For a wedding shower story, I have to go back to dh's battleax of a grandmother.

This was 1992, when longish hair for guys was in. Up until he met me, dh had a military type haircut, which didn't suit him at all! He was very muscular, and it made his head look like a little golf ball on top of his shoulders!

As I said, I'm a hairstylist, so I had him wearing it a little longer and fuller to balance things out...he had gorgeous wavy hair too....

So, at my shower for that side of the family, dh happened to walk through as it was at his home....Grandma looks at me and snaps "Well, I KNOW you agree he needs a PROPER haircut before the wedding!"

I replied "I like it the way it is....he's SO handsome this way!"

She snapped her mouth shut...and didn't speak to me again until she found out I was pregnant with a boy 3 years later! Apparently once I was a "proven breeder" I was ok again!

 

[famofsix]

I have to ask.. Just where (or how) do all of you end up with in-law's like this??

Off the top of my head, I can only think of four - maybe five families - out of all of the people I have known since becoming an adult (I'm in my 60's now) who have had in-law problems.. Every time I come on here and read these sorts of threads I just shake my head.. I simply can't believe that the number of people with serious in-law problems (or what they consider serious problems) are so high on the DIS.. (I'm only speaking of MIL's and FIL's here - not the sibling IL's..)

I wonder what the reason is for that? Is it the generation gaps? Have people really changed that much in the past 45 years or so? It really does puzzle me..

Do you all ever wonder how your children will get along with their MIL's and FIL's - and how their spouses will get along with you?

Kind of off topic, but this thread caught my eye and I didn't want to go and start an entire new thread about it since I'm not around enough to really keep up with it..

Guess all I can say is: "Good luck!" LOL...

most Disney stories have a villian so I am not surprised many DISERS find the DIS a good outlet

 

[roscoepc1]

most Disney stories have a villian so I am not surprised many DISERS find the DIS a good outlet

 

[metalis4ever]

My DW and I had a Medieval Themed Wedding with a Hand Fasting Ceremony (to keep in line with the theme). My DW dressed as Maid Marian and I as Robin Hood. The DW's dress was burgundy and gold and did not wear a veil. However, my wonderful Step Mother-In-Law who was nothing but condescending regarding our non-traditional wedding decided to take it upon herself to show up at our wedding wearing a white veil. How rude was that??

 

[HelenePA]

My DW and I had a Medieval Themed Wedding with a Hand Fasting Ceremony (to keep in line with the theme). My DW dressed as Maid Marian and I as Robin Hood. The DW's dress was burgundy and gold and did not wear a veil. However, my wonderful Step Mother-In-Law who was nothing but condescending regarding our non-traditional wedding decided to take it upon herself to show up at our wedding wearing a white veil. How rude was that??

You need a tag that says my mil showed up at my wedding wearing a wedding dress...

 

[Disney Doll]

I should try that! However, she usually does it at such a time that she knows that I won't say anything. The last time she threw out the "you don't cook" gem it was at a large family gathering at dh's aunt's. She knows me well enough to know that I wouldn't make a spectacle.

I am soo looking forward to September 3.

Oh yeah, just found out via FB that dh's sister is apparently coming into town too. Thanks for letting us know.

I wouldn't make a spectacle, I'd just look at her and calmly ask "What would ever make you tell such a lie when the last time you were over I made _____. I hope you're not starting to get forgetful at your age". No spectacle....calm quite voice and embarrass the heck out of her in front of the family.

 

[tlbwriter]

I wouldn't make a spectacle, I'd just look at her and calmly ask "What would ever make you tell such a lie when the last time you were over I made _____. I hope you're not starting to get forgetful at your age". No spectacle....calm quite voice and embarrass the heck out of her in front of the family.

Oh, that would be good. "MIL, that's such an odd thing for you to say. Have you forgotten how much people like my cooking, especially your son? Honestly, I'm getting a little concerned about your memory."

 

[famofsix]

Oh, that would be good. "MIL, that's such an odd thing for you to say. Have you forgotten how much people like my cooking, especially your son? Honestly, I'm getting a little concerned about your memory."

 

[becpee]

You need a tag that says my mil showed up at my wedding wearing a wedding dress...

LOL do it!

 

[spacemountainmom]

Oh, that would be good. "MIL, that's such an odd thing for you to say. Have you forgotten how much people like my cooking, especially your son? Honestly, I'm getting a little concerned about your memory."

I love this one! I will have to keep it in the back of my head for when she comes.