ExPirateShopGirl
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- Feb 20, 2005
Let's remember that financial support and emotional support are two different things. While one is helpful, the other is really crucial to a person's overall development.
I'm sorry you had crappy a crappy step-parent, Summerluvv, but not all step parents are (and no, I am not a step-parent, nor was I ever a stepchild, redheaded or otherwise )
I gather from the OP's posts that she also has a child with the current husband. Even more reason that the step-father (who has raised the boy since he was 18 months) is the essential male parent to the boy and the other child. People would be outraged if he treated those children differently. The bio dad has a right to visit his son (as deemed by the court) and they should develop some sort of relationship. But to say the step-father should not have a say is ridiculous. The bio dad, if he has the boy's best interests in mind, would allow the mom and her now DH to decide how best to ease him back into the boy's life. I question any man who could remain (by his choice) out of his child's life for such an extended time. It could also be that the new wife is urging him to contact him again, as well. Which basically means deep down the bio dad still doesn't 'get it.'
I'm sorry you had crappy a crappy step-parent, Summerluvv, but not all step parents are (and no, I am not a step-parent, nor was I ever a stepchild, redheaded or otherwise )
I gather from the OP's posts that she also has a child with the current husband. Even more reason that the step-father (who has raised the boy since he was 18 months) is the essential male parent to the boy and the other child. People would be outraged if he treated those children differently. The bio dad has a right to visit his son (as deemed by the court) and they should develop some sort of relationship. But to say the step-father should not have a say is ridiculous. The bio dad, if he has the boy's best interests in mind, would allow the mom and her now DH to decide how best to ease him back into the boy's life. I question any man who could remain (by his choice) out of his child's life for such an extended time. It could also be that the new wife is urging him to contact him again, as well. Which basically means deep down the bio dad still doesn't 'get it.'