My DD doesn't want any brother's or sisters.

[Piglet]

My DD is 6 yo and insists that she does NOT want any brothers or sisters. She actually gets almost physically sick anytime we mention it.

We have talked about having another child, but are really back and forth about it because my DD has a genetic disease that we could also pass to another child. When things are well with her, we thing maybe we could handle it , but when she is sick I just don't think we could handle 2.

Anyone else have a child that is content by themselves?? Did you have anymore and how long did it take them to be okay with it??

Melinda

 

[yoopermom]

This is such a personal issue, and so different for everyone. My DS is 8 and will be an only child. He never wanted or missed having siblings until the past year or so. He has an extremely good friend that we have over frequently, so I think he's confusing having a "brother" with having a "best friend" (yes, sometimes a sibling will be a best friend, but not always!). It is because of physical reasons on my part that he will be an only, and I have wrestled with that guilt off and on over the years, but I think, when it comes right down to it, the parents have to do what they think is best, and, if the rest of the child's life is full and well-rounded, it will be okay. Good luck with your decision.
Terri the Yoopermom

 

[Talking Hands]

I was an only child until I was 8. Didn't particularly want a sibling. But it really isn't her choice. If it happens it happens. She will accept it in the long run.

 

[Rajah]

I'm an only child and am perfectly happy being an "only". So I see nothing wrong with letting her stay an only if that's the right choice for your family.

 

[Serena]

My dd was 6 when I had her sister. But she was thrilled to death with Kelsea, until Kelsea started crawling.

 

[nativetxn]

I always wanted to have more children but it wasn't meant to be. My son is an only child and he tells me that he's glad about that, one of his first cousins is an only child and she agrees with him that she's glad she didn't have any siblings.

However, when they are older they may feel differently about that.

 

[Meriweather]

I am an only child and it was fine while young...plenty of friends and relatives around.....but now that I'm older, I wish I had a sibling.
It was lonely at times.......and hard to always find someone to play with and vacations could be boring (unless I got to bring a friend, which only happened occasionally).

It was very hard handling eveything with my parents' estate all on my own (even though DH helped with that), emotionally it was hard.

 

[Mermaid02]

I'm an only child..... it was lonely at times...plus there was never anyone to take the heat off of me when I misbehaved My dd was 7 when her brother was born.... she says she still "remembers the good old days" when she was an only child.

 

[Steve H.]

We mention a little brother or sister to DS every now and then (not much lately, with our current situation), and usually he'll respond, "I don't wanna brother or sister!", but it's never been so bad that he gets real upset about it, he's just playing more than anything.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

My dd always wanted a sib and she finally got one at 5yrs old, her sister. I have medical issues and we thought she was going to be an only.
Now they are 11 & 6 and both of them want me to get pregnant with twin boys... oh and dh would love that to happen too.
NOW me on the other hand is just waiting for menopause at almost 38yo.
I'm DONE!

 

[epcotfan]

I can vouch for not wanting a brother or sister. I'm an only child and felt physically ill (as a child) at the thought of a sibling. Fortunately my parents were not able to have children after me so they talked of adoption. Never happened though.
I'm still pretty happy I'm an only child. The only regrets I have are that because my parents are split and getting old I'm the one that will have the bear everything. I won't have help from family.

 

[December99]

My dd has been content with being an only child. I think many times that I wonder what my life would be like with another child. It isn't that I DON'T want another child - I do and I don't - I just physically don't think I could handle it and I've done the single parent role before - I think I'm afraid of that happening again (my marriage wouldn't end but I feel like I would be the one mainly taking care of the child). My dd is 13 but I'm still young. I know it would be harder on my dd as she got older and on my dh as he got older (he's 10 years older than me). But right now I'm content and she is content and I think dh is content.

 

[Jenzebelle]

I didn't want a sibling (let alone 2).
I actually cried when my brother was born, because I wanted a puppy and not a brother.

But I got over it and I'm sure so would your DD if you and your DH decided to have another child.

 

[Cindy B]

Remember its your choice, not theirs!


My sister and I are very close in age (barely a year apart), so we have never really not known each other.

My kids play so well together I would never see anything else....

 

[caitycaity]

though my sister and i didn't always get along growing up (we're 4 years apart), i'm very greatful and happy that i have her.

 

[cgcw]

For me, I didn't want DS to be an only child. He was 5 when his younger brother came along. He wasn't thrilled with the idea of but adapted well. It's a good thing though that he got a brother and not a sister because he threatened to move out if "IT" was a girl.

I come from a family of 6 and we have never been very close. Even today, if we see each other 1-2 times a year, it's a lot. I knew that my DS wouldn't have anyone when he got older as a relative on my side (and DH's side too). So, I wanted another child to give my older son someone to grow old with, when DH and I are no longer around. I hope and pray that my DS's will be close growing up. They play together now and fight as siblings do, but my goal is to form a bond between them that no one can ever come between. It may be selfish on my part but the thought of my DS being alone with no family was heartwrenching to me -- because then he'd feel alone with no family like I do now as an adult.

 

[luv2nascar]

My DD will be 8 in July the same time I will be having our 2nd child
DH & I really had thought at this point she was going to be an only child (I am an only child)
We just had been unable to conceive and had gone through a miscarriage and well we are both in our 30's now and thought we were done with diapers & bottles
so we were all a little surprised that the stork is visiting in July
DD is mostly excited about the baby but sometimes she feels like we won't be able to love both children and that she lose us to the baby. Only natural she is going to be apprehensive.
We just keep reassuring her about the future and I keep praying that they will be close.
Best of luck

 

[Piglet]

I don't plan on letting my DD decide if we have another child or not.

Like many others I don't want her to be alone when we are older and have to handle things by herself. What really got me to thinking about this is when my Aunt died and at the same time her DH was in the hospital with heart problems. Their 2 daughters handled everything. I can't imagine one of them having to do it all on their own.

I do have a few other issues as we could pass on this genetic disease to another child. It has taken a long time for me to get over the guilt of passing it on to my DD. I realize it is not my fault, but you always feel that pain that it is because of you that your child has to go through so much pain, sickness, doctors, hospitals and needles. It is very hard to watch your child suffer like that.

Oh well, I not in too much of a hurry about it now, I hoep I have a few years left to decide.

Melinda

 

[Pooh Girl 71]

I love my sister. I really do. But, she was born 6 days after my 9th birthday and to say I was jealous would be an understatement. It was really hard to be an only child for so long and then to have a sibling. Kids need to be closer in age IMO

My daughter is 11 and she's an only. For me, one child is plenty.

 

[Wendy]

My sister and I fought like cats and dogs growing up. We really couldn't stand each other. Now that we're both adults though, I can't tell you how happy I am to have her around. Our mom died while we were both teenagers and just last week our dad was diagnosed with cancer. (he's only 51) If I had to do all this on my own, I don't know how I'd be able to handle it. Luckily, we're able to share the responsibility of getting him to and from doctor's appointments, taking care of him, etc. In a situation like this, you really realize how important your sibling(s) is.

If there are genetic issues you worry about, but you want another child, have you considered adoption?