My dad died and nobody told me...

[Denise W]

Advice I have always followed it to remove toxic family members from my life. Life is too short to dwell on slights or people who don't add something to your life. Unfortunately you can't choose your family or their spouses but no one has to tolerate bad behavior or abuse. I have had family members try to make me take sides in their disputes and what has worked best for me is to say that I open my home to everyone so if you choose not to be part of family it is your loss. I only have one family member who I no longer keep in touch with or notify of family gatherings. You can't change the past but don't let a cancer grow within you over something you can't change. If my brother did this to me he would be history and my mother would be told to either respect my wishes for no contact with my brother or leave my family in peace. When you have a happy home you don't allow people to sow trouble.

Zombie thread alert. This is 8 years old!
Denise

 

[FlightlessDuck]

Advice I have always followed it to remove toxic family members from my life.

Well, this thread is from 7 1/2 years ago, so I hope so. Although I doubt OP is going to come back to this thread since they haven't been on DisBoards since December 2011...

 

[Jennasis]

I was about to post on the thread and then I noticed the icon on the main page said I had already posted on it. How strange? Then I noticed it was an OLD thread. So I went through and found my old post and, it was nearly word-for-word the exact response I was about to post. I do hope things are better for the OP now.

 

[goofyernmost]

The OP may be dead now and no one told us!

 

[kimblebee]

The OP may be dead now and no one told us!

That escalated quickly..

 

[goofyernmost]

That escalated quickly..

Yup, it only took almost 8 years, but, it just seemed like yesterday.

 

[SharonZ]

I wouldn't feel obligated to offer any type of excuse as to why, other than you can't attend your brother's birthday dinner.

 

[Missy1961]

I wouldn't feel obligated to offer any type of excuse as to why, other than you can't attend your brother's birthday dinner.

It doesn't matter. This thread is almost 8 years old. And I hate that I'm keeping it going.

 

[Cannot_Wait_4Disney]

OOOh. A zombie thread The Zombies demand a poll. I know. It's a huge risk polling zombies. But somebody has to do it.

5 out of 10 zombies say give us your brother's address. We'll take care of it.
4 out of 10 zombies said cremation!!! What a waste of a perfectly good brain.
1 out of 10 zombies stood drooling and staring at us. So we found it wise to end the survey.

 

[sam_gordon]

You can't change what has already happened.

That's funny posted on a zombie thread.

 

[Cannot_Wait_4Disney]

That's funny posted on a zombie thread.

My post is even funnier now.

 

[sam_gordon]

My post is even funnier now.

Nope. Not funny now. Should have left it.